8 Micro-esforços que ele deve colocar no seu relacionamento se ele for o único

Uma relação é uma via de dois sentidos e os casais devem fazer esforços iguais um pelo outro. Por vezes, as mulheres esquecem-se disso e vão mais além, enquanto os homens dão por garantido tudo o que elas fazem.

Estes microesforços estão aqui para lembrar aos homens todas as coisas que devem fazer pela sua cara-metade sem pensar muito nisso, para lembrar às mulheres que merecem alguém que saiba retribuir tudo o que elas estão a dar, e que só um homem que se esforça é o tal.

If he is the one, he should…

1. Enviar-lhe uma mensagem de texto primeiro (pelo menos uma vez por dia)

Devia haver uma regra que dissesse que os casais precisam de ter notícias um do outro pelo menos duas vezes por dia. No entanto, 3 mensagens por dia seriam perfeitas: bom dia, boa tarde e um texto de boa noite para dormir melhor.

This is especially important for couples who don’t see each other often, so the texts are what gives them that feeling of togetherness.

If he is the one, he will text you first at least once a day because he won’t be able to stand not hearing from you for an entire day. A man who says that’s not true is a liar.

2. Mostrar afeto sem uma agenda

Carícias, beijos, abraços often say ‘I love you’ more strongly than words ever will. They are there to show love, affection, warmth, and even comfort.

So if he hugs you a lot, kisses you every time he is saying goodbye, and cuddles with you often without trying to get into your pants every single time, it’s all a good sign that he is the one and that he has feelings that are stronger than anything he can say aloud.

3. Ganhar tempo

This is really a micro-effort even though most men today act like they should get a reward for finding time in their busy schedules. If you are making time for them, they should make time for you. It’s that simple.

So don’t buy into the “I am too busy.” BS excuse. When he is the one for you, he will make time—there is no doubt about it. No matter how busy he is or what he has going on, you will see that he is making an effort to be with you.

4. Enviar uma mensagem de texto aleatória para lhe lembrar que está a pensar em si e que tem saudades suas

Não estou a dizer que ele deva inundar a sua caixa de entrada com mensagens, mas aquele emoji de beijo a meio do dia ou um texto simples com poucas frases terá Tenho saudades tuas escrito por todo o lado.

This text doesn’t have to arrive every day, but it’s nice if he sends one every now and then just to remind you how special you are. I bet you are doing the same for him.

5. Preocupar-se com os seus pensamentos e sentimentos

Most men are not in touch with their feelings like women are, and a lot of things can happen to a woman emotionally that they won’t even detect.

But if he takes the time to ask you how are you or notices that you are behaving differently, that’s exactly the micro-effort you need. It shows that he cares about your wellbeing and that he wants to contribute to making you feel better.

6. Fazer planos

It doesn’t have to be all the time, but it’s really nice when a man plans a date regardless if it’s going out or staying home.

It can be something as simple as making you lunch after a hard day’s work, making you a bubble bath or planning a night out full of fun things to do. The important thing is that he tries and that his efforts are visible.

7. Fazer pequenas coisas com significado

Aconchegar-se a si quando adormece no sofá, lembrar-se de algo que lhe disse há algum tempo, fazer-lhe café de manhã, até mesmo levar o lixo para fora, são coisas que lhe tomam apenas alguns minutos, mas que farão todo o seu dia.

Doing things that he knows will help you and make you feel good is what it is all about. If he is the one, he won’t waste his words in reassuring you that he loves you. He will do these little big things to show you he cares.

8. Deixar o utilizador satisfeito

If he is selfish in bed, he will be selfish in every other aspect of the relationship, and that’s just wrong on so many levels.

That’s why the right one for you should show you the diferença entre ter sexo e fazer amor, colocando o seu prazer em primeiro lugar.