9 sinais de que o amor que tens não é o amor que realmente mereces

O amor é cego". Tenho quase a certeza de que muitos de vós já conhecem este ditado, mas, de alguma forma, quando estamos apaixonados, temos tendência a esquecer o seu verdadeiro significado.

Quando apaixonar-se, our way of thinking significantly changes and we become literally blind to some red flags and other things indicating that something’s not right.

We get deluded into believing that everything is perfect and that we’re happier than ever but is this really true? Is the love you have the love you actually deserve?

Well, there’s one way to find out. If you’re in love, you’re probably already doing everything you can to maintain your relationship.

You love each other a lot and you’re really determined to succeed. But there are some things that you probably haven’t paid much attention to.

If these 9 things are happening in your relationship, it means you’re not with the right person and the love you have is not the love you actually deserve!

Censura-se a si próprio

Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t say something in front of your partner because he might judge you or misinterpret it? Well, if you feel like this once in a while, it’s not a big deal.

But if you’re constantly weighing up in your head if you should say something or do something because you feel anxious about your partner’s reaction, then it is a huge problem in a relationship.

Não se sentir à vontade com o seu parceiro para ser quem realmente é é a bandeira vermelha número um que nunca deve evitar, porque estar apaixonado tem tudo a ver com ser genuíno consigo próprio e aceitar as diferenças.

Ver também: 10 diferenças fundamentais entre amar alguém e estar apaixonado

Your partner doesn’t give you the right support

This one is really easy to miss because we all mostly pay attention to how our partner is treating us when we’re going through rough times and we seldom ask ourselves how our partner is treating us when we’re nailing it.

Se o seu parceiro mostrar sinais de ciúme e não estiver realmente feliz com o seu sucesso, pode ter a certeza de que não está a dar-lhe o apoio certo.

You can easily notice them faking it by their body language and their choice of words when they are ‘showing you support’.

You’re the only one who sees any good traits in your partner

Os seus amigos e familiares aprovam o seu parceiro ou acham que ele não é realmente bom para si?

If you’re the only one who sees any good traits in your partner, the chances are that you’re living in an illusion.

So, if the majority of the people you know don’t really like your partner, then there must be a valid reason for such thinking.

When you’re in love, it’s easy for you to foresee all the red flags and fatal flaws because you’re blinded by love and that is why it is good to think about the opinions of others as well.

Ver também: 6 sinais de alerta no comportamento dele que nunca deves interpretar mal

Arranja desculpas para o seu parceiro

o empresário está zangado com a sua colega

Pois é. Quando amamos realmente alguém, temos tendência a arranjar desculpas para essa pessoa quando ela nos trata mal ou faz algo egoísta.

By doing so, we’re turning a blind eye to the real problems and issues in our relationship.

We do this because we want to continue living in our imaginative fairy tale. We don’t want to accept the fact that something needs to be changed.

If you’re guilty of doing this and you can relate to everything said above, then you can be sure the love you have isn’t the love you actually deserve.

You’re always the one who has to initiate everything

homem e mulher a olhar para um livro aberto

És sempre tu que mandas mensagens, telefonas e dás início a tudo primeiro?

If you are, it means you’re making way more effort than your partner and you should never even think of finding excuses for that.

After all,’it takes two to tango’ and going out of your way to keep things functioning can never work in the long run.

O seu parceiro raramente pede desculpa

homem e mulher sentados no sofá, sem falar

It’s completely normal to make mistakes in a relationship but if your partner never or seldom ever apologizes for it, it means não o estão a tratar como merece.

Se se certificar sempre de que pede desculpa depois de dizer ou fazer algo de errado, então merece de certeza o mesmo tratamento em troca.

You don’t feel beautiful around your partner

If you can’t remember the last time your partner complimented your outfit, hair, behavior or something else, then it means they are not making enough effort to make you feel special.

If you’re always giving your best to look beautiful and to amaze your partner with your choices and they never say anything that will show their appreciation, know that this is not the love that you deserve.

Mereces sentir-te bonita como és e mereces ouvir elogios diariamente (especialmente se te certificares de dizer sempre algo simpático para que se sintam melhor).