9 segni che l'amore che provi non è quello che meriti

L'amore è cieco. Sono sicuro che molti di voi conoscono già questo detto, ma in qualche modo, quando siamo innamorati, tendiamo a dimenticarne il vero significato.

Quando innamorarsi, our way of thinking significantly changes and we become literally blind to some red flags and other things indicating that something’s not right.

We get deluded into believing that everything is perfect and that we’re happier than ever but is this really true? Is the love you have the love you actually deserve?

Well, there’s one way to find out. If you’re in love, you’re probably already doing everything you can to maintain your relationship.

You love each other a lot and you’re really determined to succeed. But there are some things that you probably haven’t paid much attention to.

If these 9 things are happening in your relationship, it means you’re not with the right person and the love you have is not the love you actually deserve!

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Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t say something in front of your partner because he might judge you or misinterpret it? Well, if you feel like this once in a while, it’s not a big deal. 

But if you’re constantly weighing up in your head if you should say something or do something because you feel anxious about your partner’s reaction, then it is a huge problem in a relationship.

Non sentirsi a proprio agio con il partner per essere chi si è veramente è la bandiera rossa numero uno che non si dovrebbe mai evitare, perché essere innamorati significa essere genuini con se stessi e accettare le differenze.

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Your partner doesn’t give you the right support

This one is really easy to miss because we all mostly pay attention to how our partner is treating us when we’re going through rough times and we seldom ask ourselves how our partner is treating us when we’re nailing it.

Se il vostro partner mostra segni di gelosia e non è davvero felice del vostro successo, potete essere certi che non vi sta dando il giusto sostegno.

You can easily notice them faking it by their body language and their choice of words when they are ‘showing you support’.

You’re the only one who sees any good traits in your partner

I vostri amici e familiari approvano il vostro partner o pensano che non vada bene per voi?

If you’re the only one who sees any good traits in your partner, the chances are that you’re living in an illusion.

So, if the majority of the people you know don’t really like your partner, then there must be a valid reason for such thinking.

When you’re in love, it’s easy for you to foresee all the red flags and fatal flaws because you’re blinded by love and that is why it is good to think about the opinions of others as well.

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Cercate scuse per il vostro partner

Sì. Quando amiamo davvero qualcuno, tendiamo a trovare delle scuse per lui quando ci tratta male o fa qualcosa di egoistico.

By doing so, we’re turning a blind eye to the real problems and issues in our relationship.

We do this because we want to continue living in our imaginative fairy tale. We don’t want to accept the fact that something needs to be changed.

If you’re guilty of doing this and you can relate to everything said above, then you can be sure the love you have isn’t the love you actually deserve.

You’re always the one who has to initiate everything

Siete sempre voi a mandare messaggi, a chiamare e a dare inizio a tutto per primi?

If you are, it means you’re making way more effort than your partner and you should never even think of finding excuses for that.

After all,’it takes two to tango’ and going out of your way to keep things functioning can never work in the long run.

Il vostro partner si scusa raramente

It’s completely normal to make mistakes in a relationship but if your partner never or seldom ever apologizes for it, it means non vi trattano nel modo in cui meritate.

Se vi assicurate sempre di scusarvi dopo aver detto o fatto qualcosa di sbagliato, allora siete sicuri di meritare lo stesso trattamento in cambio.

You don’t feel beautiful around your partner

If you can’t remember the last time your partner complimented your outfit, hair, behavior or something else, then it means they are not making enough effort to make you feel special. 

If you’re always giving your best to look beautiful and to amaze your partner with your choices and they never say anything that will show their appreciation, know that this is not the love that you deserve.

Meritate di sentirvi belle così come siete e meritate di ricevere complimenti ogni giorno (soprattutto se vi assicurate sempre di dire qualcosa di carino per farle sentire meglio).

Il partner frequenta altre persone

Avete notato che il vostro partner si comporta in modo diverso quando è circondato da amici o da altre persone a lui vicine?

Se questo è il caso, significa che non vi trattano con lo stesso rispetto che hanno per gli altri.

It means they are taking you for granted and you certainly don’t deserve that.

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You feel like you don’t know where you stand

Do you ever feel like you have no idea where you stand in the relationship and you’re kind of confused about everything your partner does or says?

If you do, it means you’re feeling in your gut that something’s not right in your relationship and you’re kind of lost in all that.

If you’re feeling it in your gut, it likely means it’s true and you definitely should never settle for anything less than you deserve.

Meritate di sperimentare un amore che vi faccia sentire beati e sinceramente felici, invece che confusi o preoccupati.