Como ele te trata é o que ele sente por ti

Guys really aren’t that hard to figure out. Our tendency to read into every mensagem de textoA partir do momento em que o seu filho se tornou um homem, todas as pequenas conversas e todos os sinais não verbais que dá foram longe demais.

It’s time we stop overanalyzing every single thing they do and accept that their actions speak louder than our misinterpretations ever will. Once you realize this, you’ll see how simple it really is to read them.

I’ll be the first to admit I’ve made a gazillion excuses every time I didn’t want to accept that he actually did that shitty thing. I would always assure myself he was just in a bad mood and it had nothing to do with me.

And every time he’d hurt me with his words, I’d just assume he had a lousy day at work and he was just airing his frustrations and I was the first person there.

But no. That’s not correct and it’s not okay. We all have shitty days, don’t we? How many times did you come home from a dreadful day at work to a messy house, nothing cooked for dinner and him just lounging on the sofa watching a game?

E o que é que tu fizeste? Nesta situação, tinha todo o direito de estar verdadeiramente zangada com ele, mas aposto que respirou fundo, deu-lhe um beijo de olá, foi para a cozinha e começou a cozinhar.

And then you go and make excuses for HIM? Think about it. It’s so messed up.

They hardly even appreciate all the ‘little’ things we do for them and our family on a daily basis, so the last thing they deserve is that we cut them some slack!

Da próxima vez o seu homem puts you through any crap, instead of making an excuse for him, confront him and let him know you’re no longer putting up with that.

And if you’ve just started seeing a guy who doesn’t seem to appreciate anything about you other than your body, believe him! Unless you want to be just his eye candy, go find someone with dignity and respect.

We need to start believing guys when they show us how they feel about us through their actions. As much as you want him to be more than that and believe he’s got potential to get better, it’s highly unlikely he’ll change.

How he treats you is how he feels about you, period! You can’t let a guy walk all over you for days on end and then once he decides to have one good day, you feel like the luckiest girl alive.

The luckiest girl would never put up with that. She’d be with a man who is consistent in his efforts and treated her with respect. She would never need to inventar desculpas for him because she wouldn’t be with a crappy dude in the first place.

Tens de começar a acreditar que mereces melhor. A forma como se trata a si própria é a forma como ele a vai tratar. Se ele vir que aceitas os seus esforços de meia-tigela—that’s all you’ll ever get from him!

If he sees he can get away with tons of shit, he’s just going to keep acting like a jerk. See? It’s all up to you to decide how you want to be treated. Raise your standards and if he stays down, leave him there!

Guys need to see that they can’t just pick and choose days when they’ll be on their best behavior and when they’ll be a total jerk. Either you’re suficientemente bom for your woman or she’s going to show you the door.

Os rapazes que respeitam as suas raparigas e só querem o melhor para elas demonstram-no através das suas acções.

Este homem dá-te um beijo de bom dia sempre que te levantas e um beijo de boa noite todas as noites antes de te deitares. Ele ajuda-te de todas as formas possíveis, fazendo recados e indo à lavandaria de vez em quando.

He won’t be mad you didn’t make dinner because he’ll know you were swamped that day and he’ll run to the kitchen and make your favorite dish.

He won’t be offended if you don’t want to have sex every single night because you’re both grown-ups with a bunch of shit to do and it’s perfectly normal to just want to sleep and rest your mind and soul.

Este é o tipo de homem que merece o seu amor e ele existe mesmo! Não é um privilégio encontrar alguém assim, é um direito seu!

E quando perceberes isto, deixarás de perder tempo com imbecis imaturos que só tornam a vida mais difícil e concentrarás a tua atenção em todos aqueles tipos de bom coração que simplesmente tornarão a tua vida um pouco melhor e te farão feliz por estares viva.

It’s not a fairy tale and it’s not wishful thinking. They may not be around every single corner but they’re around. And when you find that guy, you’ll see how easy life can actually be with the right person by your side.

So stop making excuses and stop thinking you’re not worthy of that kind of love. You are and you will find it. Maybe not today but when you stop looking for it, that’s when it usually knocks on your door.

Love is supposed to make you feel better and smile harder. Don’t stop until you’ve found exactly that, because it’s going to knock you off your feet!