Porque é que foi tão fácil para ele afastar-se de ti
Muitas vezes, as mulheres queixam-se de ter uma grande queda nas suas relações.
Everything seems fine, you’re enjoying each other and then all of the sudden, he disconnected. He disappeared and probably never came back.
Let’s get things straight here—se um homem está verdadeiramente apaixonado por si e está loucamente interessado em si, then none of the things here are necessary to look at, because he will not walk away from you easily—never.
Se a relação terminar para um homem assim, ele ficará realmente muito magoado e será mais difícil para ele seguir em frente do que para a mulher.
Assim se um gajo se afastasse from you suddenly and without explanation, then he really wasn’t that into you in the first place. This is the most important and key fact on this topic.
Pode estar a passar dias e dias a perguntar-se porque é que ele se foi embora tão subitamente e, para além da falta de amor por si, estas são as razões mais comuns:
You’re not what he was looking for
Most of the men are looking for a challenge, for a prize to win. If he starts realizing you’re not a prize worthy of his efforts, he will back off. Maybe he is looking for a cool girl or a girl that is shy and cute.
Maybe he is looking for the chemistry between a couple and if you’re insufficient for his demands, he will go away.
Mesmo que ele tenha começado a sentir algo por si, será fácil para ele afastar-se porque percebeu you’re just not his type, not what he’s looking for.
Keep in mind that it has nothing to do with you. You are unique and beautiful in your own way, so don’t bother with people who don’t like you—not everyone has good taste.
You’re doing something that pulls him away
This is probably the most common reason. Maybe you’re doing something that freaks him out. Men get scared when they feel dominated by a woman.
Se uma mulher parecer demasiado forte e independente, o homem fica assustado e afasta-se.
Men have that protective nature, and they love when you feel safe and protected around them, so seeing that you’re totally fine on your own and that you don’t need him to protect you can scare him off.
The second thing could be that you’re putting too much pressure on him.
If he is getting calls and texts while he is working and you’re complaining about him not picking up the call or not replying, it will be a huge red flag for him.
Also, he can feel pressure when you’re rushing into things. You want him to commit too fast, to secure him, but he doesn’t feel that way.
He didn’t invest enough in you to actually be ready for something like that. A relationship should be built on attraction, without any rush.
Com uma atração constante, ele começará lentamente a gostar mais de si, a sentir mais a sua falta e, finalmente, a preparar-se para ser verdadeiramente seu.
The third thing is the opposite—he is not getting enough. When he sends you a text and you don’t reply the way he expected, he will think that you’re too cold.
When you’re out with your friends you didn’t text him or did that just when you came back home.
Mesmo que não tenha feito nada de errado e ele saiba disso, a falta de comunicação e de dedicação a ele pode fazê-lo desistir.
Ver também:5 razões pelas quais afastamos a pessoa que amamos
Dizem-lhe para não chorar
From their childhoods, men are told not to cry, not to show certain emotions because “it’s not manly”. He has some feelings for you and that scares him.
He is in pain, but he has been taught that if he shows that pain, it is proof that he isn’t “man” enough.
He left because he is scared to show weaknesses, to show vulnerability and in order to “man up”, he has to walk away from you.
