A verdade brutalmente honesta sobre a razão pela qual nunca se fica com o homem

Perguntamo-nos sempre porque é que acabamos sempre solteiros. Sempre que conheces um potencial novo interesse amoroso, a chama arde antes mesmo de ter a oportunidade de se acender. Nunca consegues agarrar-te a um rapaz o tempo suficiente para lhe chamares namorado e aceitas sempre qualquer desculpa esfarrapada que ele tenha para te deixar.

Mesmo quando conhecemos um homem com quem temos muito em comum e as conversas são incrivelmente estimulantes, o nosso química textual é fora de série e sente-se tão sexualmente atraída por ele, que nunca parece ser suficiente para durar. Porque é que acaba sempre assim?

You’re baffled and annoyed! It’s not like you’re not a catch! You’re good-looking, you’re ambitious and you are not superficial. You have good values and you’re kind to the people around you. So, what gives?

You’re too serious.

Think about it. You may still feel too young for marriage and kids but you’re also too old for meaningless conversations and superficial values.

At this point in your life, you’re serious. Serious about your intentions with a significant other and serious about commitment. You no longer crave trivial chats through text but want a phone call from him asking how your day went.

You don’t want someone who’s going to call you at 2 AM, drunk off his ass, screaming into your ear, very clearly wasted but rather a guy who’s going to call at that ungodly hour to tell you he misses you and he can’t wait to get home.

Já não procurais nada fraco ou vago, agora quereis o verdadeiro. Um compromisso. E os rapazes conseguem sentir isso.

Unfortunately, some men are intimidated as soon as they sense it and they’re gone before you know it.

Pedes demasiado.

You have standards. You have needs. You no longer settle for anything half-assed. You are perfectly capable of dealing with their wants and needs but they can’t seem to handle yours.

Pede-lhes tempo. Sabe que é importante passar algum tempo juntos para poderem crescer e relacionar-se como casal. Exige interesse. Eles precisam de poder perguntar-lhe sobre o seu dia, sem que você precise de os lembrar.

You demand trust. You want to be able to trust them when they’re off doing their thing, the same way they know they can trust you. But they can’t seem to return the favor.

Never feel bad about needing commitment from a guy. A real relationship has to check all those boxes. If it doesn’t, keep searching. Um bom rapaz tem de existir algures por aí.

Tens de ser a sua prioridade.

You don’t ask for the moon and the stars. You don’t ask for them to have eyes only for you. All you want and deserve is a guy who is never going to make you feel like you come second.

He can still have his life. He can still hang out with his buddies. But you need to be high up on that priority list as well. You’re not here to beg for anyone’s attention.

Some guys just can’t deal with that. They feel like going off the radar for a few days without checking in is okay and then they make you the crazy one for asking why they didn’t at least text that everything was all right.

The right guy will always check on you. He will never make you feel crazy for needing a healthy amount of communication. So don’t give up due to immature jerks. Um homem de verdade vai encontrar-te quando deixares de o procurar.

Meaningless flings don’t interest you.

You want a real conversation. You want to be able to confide in him and seek solace in his arms. You don’t need a boy who’s just going to nod at whatever you say and then go play video games.

Queres uma relação. Uma parceria. E alguns homens querem simplesmente um corpo atraente para quando se sentem sozinhos. Se continuar a encontrar esses homens, comece a procurar noutro lado.

There are guys out there capable of giving you what you need out of a relationship. Just because you keep running into immature assholes doesn’t mean a relationship is not meant for you.

Todos nós temos o nosso caminho a percorrer e o seu ainda está em curso. Seja paciente e espere por um homem que a veja por inteiro e saiba o seu valor. Nada mais vale o seu tempo.