La verità brutalmente onesta sul perché non riuscite mai a conquistare un ragazzo

Vi chiedete sempre perché, in qualche modo, vi ritrovate sempre single. Ogni volta che incontrate un potenziale nuovo interesse amoroso, la fiamma si spegne prima ancora di aver avuto la possibilità di accendersi. Non riuscite mai a tenervi stretto un ragazzo abbastanza a lungo da poterlo definire il vostro fidanzato e accettate sempre qualsiasi scusa banale abbia per lasciarvi.

Anche quando si incontra un ragazzo con il quale si hanno molte cose in comune e le conversazioni sono incredibilmente stimolanti, la propria chimica testuale è fuori scala e tu sei così sessualmente attratta da lui, ma sembra che non sia mai abbastanza per durare. Perché, oh, perché va sempre a finire così?

You’re baffled and annoyed! It’s not like you’re not a catch! You’re good-looking, you’re ambitious and you are not superficial. You have good values and you’re kind to the people around you. So, what gives?

You’re too serious.

Think about it. You may still feel too young for marriage and kids but you’re also too old for meaningless conversations and superficial values.

At this point in your life, you’re serious. Serious about your intentions with a significant other and serious about commitment. You no longer crave trivial chats through text but want a phone call from him asking how your day went.

You don’t want someone who’s going to call you at 2 AM, drunk off his ass, screaming into your ear, very clearly wasted but rather a guy who’s going to call at that ungodly hour to tell you he misses you and he can’t wait to get home.

Non cercate più qualcosa di debole o vago, ora volete il vero affare. Un impegno. E i ragazzi lo percepiscono.

Unfortunately, some men are intimidated as soon as they sense it and they’re gone before you know it.

Chiedete troppo.

You have standards. You have needs. You no longer settle for anything half-assed. You are perfectly capable of dealing with their wants and needs but they can’t seem to handle yours.

Chiedete il loro tempo. Sapete che è importante passare del tempo insieme per poter crescere e legare come coppia. Chiedete interesse. Devono potervi chiedere della vostra giornata, senza che dobbiate ricordarglielo voi.

You demand trust. You want to be able to trust them when they’re off doing their thing, the same way they know they can trust you. But they can’t seem to return the favor.

Never feel bad about needing commitment from a guy. A real relationship has to check all those boxes. If it doesn’t, keep searching. Un bravo ragazzo deve esistere da qualche parte.

Dovete essere la loro priorità.

You don’t ask for the moon and the stars. You don’t ask for them to have eyes only for you. All you want and deserve is a guy who is never going to make you feel like you come second.

He can still have his life. He can still hang out with his buddies. But you need to be high up on that priority list as well. You’re not here to beg for anyone’s attention.

Some guys just can’t deal with that. They feel like going off the radar for a few days without checking in is okay and then they make you the crazy one for asking why they didn’t at least text that everything was all right.

The right guy will always check on you. He will never make you feel crazy for needing a healthy amount of communication. So don’t give up due to immature jerks. Un vero uomo vi troverà quando smetterete di cercarlo.

Meaningless flings don’t interest you.

You want a real conversation. You want to be able to confide in him and seek solace in his arms. You don’t need a boy who’s just going to nod at whatever you say and then go play video games.

Volete una relazione. Una relazione di coppia. E alcuni uomini vogliono semplicemente un corpo sexy per quando si sentono soli. Se continuate a imbattervi in questi uomini, iniziate a cercare altrove.

There are guys out there capable of giving you what you need out of a relationship. Just because you keep running into immature assholes doesn’t mean a relationship is not meant for you.

Ognuno di noi ha un percorso da seguire e il vostro è ancora in corso. Siate pazienti e aspettate un uomo che vi veda tutte e che conosca il vostro valore. Nient'altro vale il vostro tempo.