Isto é o que acontece quando se deixa uma relação emocionalmente abusiva

Nunca ninguém vos diz isto. Ninguém o avisa. Todos têm algo a dizer quando estamos neste tipo de relação, mas todos se calam quando nos libertamos de uma.

It’s not that easy. One should expect happiness and joy. No one expects fear, confusion, and the inability to continue living your life—to pick up where you left off before you met him.

Nunca ninguém nos diz o quanto nos dói. Nunca ninguém nos diz o tempo que demora a sarar as feridas.

When you meet someone new, you are afraid. You are scared to death that history will repeat itself. You try to humor him even though he doesn’t want you to do that.

You apologize for every little thing. You apologize for the things you’re guilty and not guilty of. He doesn’t want you to do that.

No one ever tells you that you don’t have to do it. No one ever tells you how hard is to snap out of what you’ve been going through. No one ever tells you that it takes guts to heal completely.

Terá de encontrar a força para se reerguer. Vais reviver os momentos horríveis em que ele te fez participar. Acordarás a meio da noite e o teu coração baterá com tanta força, como se quisesse libertar-se do teu peito.

Verás alguém que te faz lembrar dele. Isso vai levar-te de volta. Será tão real, como se o pesadelo estivesse a acontecer de novo.

Sentir-se-á destroçado porque estará destroçado. Chorarás até aos olhos. Gritarás de dor emocional.

You will feel drained because you will be drained. He’s the one who sucked the life out of you. You gave him all you had. And what did you get in return? Nothing except pain. And more pain.

You will be negative because that’s the only feeling you know. You forgot what it was like to be happy. It will be hard to get out of that vicious circle of negativity. You want to escape it, but you need it because you’re used to it. It becomes like a drug to you. You keep craving for more.  

You never knew what it was like to be loved. You never had that. You wouldn’t recognize real love even if it hit you right in the face. You will doubt each and every person who comes near you and you will destroy their every attempt to flirt with you. You will do this out of fear. Out of fear of getting hurt.

Terás de ser forte durante muito tempo. Terá de ser forte até apanhar os pedaços do que resta de si e voltar a juntá-los para continuar a construir a versão de si próprio que sempre quis ser.  

When you start a new relationship, you will feel lost. You won’t be used to this new ‘normal treatment’. You won’t be used to kind words and understanding. You won’t be used to being treated with respect. Your voice will actually matter for the first time in a long time.

It will take a while for you to relax and trust this person. But that won’t matter as he will wait for you. He will give you space to heal. He will help you heal.

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You will be waiting for the perfect storm. You will be waiting for him to lose it at anytime. You know your ex was nice and loving when he wanted to be—when you didn’t complain and did everything his way. You are scared this guy is the same.

Mas, sabes que mais? A tempestade perfeita nunca vai chegar. Ele não é o mesmo.     

Nunca ninguém vos diz como é lixado sobreviver a tudo isto. Nunca ninguém te diz que esta é a parte mais difícil. Ninguém te diz que a cura dói; dói como o inferno.

There are so many things you won’t be told. You’ll have to fight for yourself. You’ll have to put yourself first. You’ll have to cry. You’ll have to hurt.

Mas vai curar-se. Vais ficar melhor.