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No início, sente-se entusiasmado

Quando as coisas estão a começar, sentimo-nos entusiasmados, da mesma forma que nos sentimos no início de qualquer relação nova.

O nome da pessoa aparece no telemóvel e ficamos com borboletas no estômago. Cada vez que te dizem alguma coisa, ficas corada.

O toque acidental do teu ombro no dele é como fogo de artifício.The chemistry between you is strong – it’s like a constant electrical feeling.

Sentimo-nos vivos e esperamos que essa sensação nunca desapareça.

Depois, sente-se confuso

You were convinced that you were heading towards a real relationship, but suddenly you feel like he’s sending you mixed signals.

You’re no longer sure he cares about you as much as you care about him.

It seems now like you’ve been fooling yourself into thinking that one day you’ll become a couple.

You constantly try to figure out what’s happening in his mind but it’s all for nothing because one minute you feel like you have it all figured out and the next you’re back to square one.

They always have a way of doing something that keeps you on your toes, so you never really know where you’re headed with them.

Já não é paciente

Sometimes you feel like you are still on the right track to becoming a real couple, and those days you’re fine with the way things stand between you because you can see it all as a path to something better.

Other days, you are really impatient for your ‘almost’ to make the damn move already.

Tem a certeza de que gostam de si e se sentem atraídos por si, e tem a certeza de que gostam de passar tempo consigo. De que é que estão à espera?

That’s why you’re constantly questioning yourself

Deve dar o primeiro passo? É disso que eles estão à espera?

Maybe they are just shy and want to wait and take things slowly and you’re here blaming them for simply being the way they are. Hmm?

Fica com ciúmes

You see them flirting with other people and realize you have no right to be mad at them because you aren’t committed in any way and you have no rights there.

It makes you annoyed – to say the least – when they do that, but you aren’t officially in a relationship so what can you do?

They have no obligation to stay loyal to you, but that doesn’t make you feel any better about things.

It’s starting to look like they have none of the obligations of a relationship, only the benefits of one.

Começa-se a ter medo

You’re starting to feel your emotions for this person getting stronger every day and you get really scared that they’re going to hurt you.

At the beginning, you had a huge crush on them and it was fun, but you weren’t as involved as you are now and it was easier to just let it be an almost relationship.

You’re starting to fear that you’ll leave this almost relationship with a broken heart, and you’ll end up suffering over a relationship that was never even a real relationship.

Agora parece que teria sido melhor se nunca lhes tivesses dado o teu coração em primeiro lugar.

Está desiludido

You imagined spending more time together, going places, meeting each other’s friends and family but suddenly they’re gone.

É muito estranho estar de luto por uma relação que nunca existiu.

Na sua mente, as coisas estavam apenas a começar a aquecer, mas na realidade já tinham acabado consigo. Sim, sente-se triste.

Acima de tudo, sente-se desiludido porque cortaram as coisas no auge do entusiasmo que tinha pela realização do seu novo amor.

Finalmente, sente-se aliviado

When you’ve had some time to think it over you actually feel relieved.

Sente-se com sorte por a relação quase terminouporque, de qualquer forma, nunca foi um negócio real.

You feel like you’ve gotten your wings back and you can fly off and find new love.

You’re no longer stuck wondering how they feel and what they are going to do next.

Agora sabe que o que precisa é de uma relação honesta com alguém que o ame, cuide de si e queira o mesmo que você.