Antes do fim do ano, aprenda a perdoar-se a si próprio

Desde criança, foi-lhe ensinada a importância do perdão.

Foi-lhe aconselhado que, independentemente do que alguém lhe faça, deve ser a pessoa mais forte e encontrar a força em si mesmo para aceitar as suas desculpas.

Foi-lhe ensinado que o ressentimento e o rancor não lhe trarão nada de bom e só o prejudicarão, que o karma é a melhor vingança e que nunca deve planear vingar-se daqueles que lhe fizeram mal.

Ensinaram-vos a reagir com bondade mesmo perante o pior dos males.

E não é contra isto que quero argumentar. Afinal de contas, a capacidade de perdoar é um dos traços de personalidade de maior qualidade que poucos possuem.

No entanto, nobody has ever told you about something more important: about the art of forgiving yourself. Because let’s face it—nobody can hurt you as much as you can hurt yourself.

Por isso, para variar, faça o seguinte new year’s goal about the relationship you have with yourself. Focus on being at peace with yourself and most importantly—on sincerely, truly forgiving yourself.

Começar com perdoando-te por todas as vezes que partiste o teu próprio coração.

For all the times you didn’t know better, for all the situations in which you should have been wiser and smarter but didn’t succeed in doing so.

Forgive yourself for all the sleepless nights, for all the tears you cried and for all the smiles which didn’t appear on your face.

Por todas as situações em que se considerou demasiado fraco ou vulnerável.

Perdoar a si próprio por todas as escolhas erradas que fizeste e por todos os tipos errados que deixas entrar.

For putting them in front of yourself, for all the effort you invested which turned out to be vain, for all the pointless sacrifices you made…

You know you gave your best, you know you never deliberately caused someone else’s pain and that should be more than enough.

Forgive yourself for all the times you didn’t have enough faith in your potential and capacity.

For all the times you didn’t believe that you would make it, the times when you allowed others to put you down and when you tried shutting down your ambitions because you were too afraid of what other people might say.

Forgive yourself every situation in which you failed your own expectations and betrayed your principles. After all, you’re just a human being and you’re allowed to make mistakes.

Forgive yourself for all the second chances you shouldn’t have given. The important thing is that you always meant well and had good intentions.

It wasn’t your fault that they saw your kindness as a green light to keep on hurting you.

Stop blaming yourself for the way they violated your trust more than once and for the way they took advantage of your gentle heart; that’s on their conscience, not on yours.

Forgive yourself for all the goodbyes you didn’t say in time, for all the times you kept going back to the same crime scene and for all the apologies you shouldn’t have accepted.

For all the lies you swallowed, despite knowing they weren’t true and for all the self-deceptions you put yourself through, in hopes of better times.

Perdoa-te por não ver o seu próprio valor.

For allowing some douchebags to diminish it, for believing them when they convinced you that you weren’t good enough and for not seeing how much you deserve.

Perdoe-se por todas as vezes que se contentou com menos, when you begged for someone’s attention and accepted breadcrumbs of his love and for every situation in which you gave more than you got in return.

Most importantly—perdoa-te a ti próprio por não te amares o suficiente.

Perdoe-se por todas as vezes que foi demasiado duro, impaciente e crítico consigo próprio e por não ter cuidado bem do seu corpo, coração e alma.

Não vale a pena olhar para o passado porque, por muito que se tente, nunca se poderá alterá-lo. No entanto, a boa notícia é que se pode aprender com ele.

Para começar, in 2025, learn how to prioritize yourself and to stop doing things that you’ll have to ask to be forgiven for.

Accept your own apologies but don’t forget your mistakes.

Instead, make sure you don’t repeat them. Good luck and have a happy New Year!