Antes de que acabe el año, aprenda a perdonarse a sí mismo

Desde que eras pequeño, te enseñaron la importancia del perdón.

Te aconsejaron que, independientemente de lo que alguien te haga, debes ser la mejor persona y encontrar la fuerza en ti misma para aceptar sus disculpas.

Te enseñaron que el resentimiento y el rencor no te traerán nada bueno y sólo te harán daño, que el karma es la mejor venganza y que nunca debes planear vengarte de quienes te hicieron daño.

Te enseñaron a responder con bondad incluso al peor de los males.

Y esto no es algo que quiera discutir. Al fin y al cabo, la capacidad de perdonar es uno de los rasgos más cualitativos de la personalidad que no muchos poseen.

Sin embargo, nobody has ever told you about something more important: about the art of forgiving yourself. Because let’s face it—nobody can hurt you as much as you can hurt yourself.

Así que, para variar, haz esto new year’s goal about the relationship you have with yourself. Focus on being at peace with yourself and most importantly—on sincerely, truly forgiving yourself.

Comience con perdonándote a ti mismo por todas las veces que rompiste tu propio corazón.

For all the times you didn’t know better, for all the situations in which you should have been wiser and smarter but didn’t succeed in doing so.

Forgive yourself for all the sleepless nights, for all the tears you cried and for all the smiles which didn’t appear on your face.

Por todas las situaciones en las que te consideraste demasiado débil o demasiado vulnerable.

Perdónate a ti mismo por todas las decisiones equivocadas que hiciste y por todos los chicos equivocados que dejas entrar.

For putting them in front of yourself, for all the effort you invested which turned out to be vain, for all the pointless sacrifices you made…

You know you gave your best, you know you never deliberately caused someone else’s pain and that should be more than enough.

Forgive yourself for all the times you didn’t have enough faith in your potential and capacity.

For all the times you didn’t believe that you would make it, the times when you allowed others to put you down and when you tried shutting down your ambitions because you were too afraid of what other people might say.

Forgive yourself every situation in which you failed your own expectations and betrayed your principles. After all, you’re just a human being and you’re allowed to make mistakes.

Forgive yourself for all the second chances you shouldn’t have given. The important thing is that you always meant well and had good intentions.

It wasn’t your fault that they saw your kindness as a green light to keep on hurting you.

Stop blaming yourself for the way they violated your trust more than once and for the way they took advantage of your gentle heart; that’s on their conscience, not on yours.

Forgive yourself for all the goodbyes you didn’t say in time, for all the times you kept going back to the same crime scene and for all the apologies you shouldn’t have accepted.

For all the lies you swallowed, despite knowing they weren’t true and for all the self-deceptions you put yourself through, in hopes of better times.

Perdónate por no ver tu propio valor.

For allowing some douchebags to diminish it, for believing them when they convinced you that you weren’t good enough and for not seeing how much you deserve.

Perdónate por todas las veces que te has conformado con menos, when you begged for someone’s attention and accepted breadcrumbs of his love and for every situation in which you gave more than you got in return.

Most importantly—perdónate por no quererte lo suficiente.

Perdónate por todas las veces que fuiste demasiado duro, impaciente y crítico contigo mismo y por no cuidar bien de tu cuerpo, corazón y alma.

No tiene sentido mirar al pasado porque, por mucho que lo intentes, nunca podrás cambiarlo. Sin embargo, la buena noticia es que puedes aprender de él.

Para empezar, in 2025, learn how to prioritize yourself and to stop doing things that you’ll have to ask to be forgiven for.

Accept your own apologies but don’t forget your mistakes.

Instead, make sure you don’t repeat them. Good luck and have a happy New Year!