Aprende como te colocares em evidência fazendo estas 10 coisas
So, you’ve either been in the dating game for a while or are just discovering it and you’ve started to realize things aren’t happening the way you expected them to.
A dada altura, apercebeu-se de que devia aprender a expor-se. Maybe you’ve been waiting for love to just come your way or maybe you’ve noticed that people don’t really pay much attention to you.
The thing is, being an ‘out there’ kind of person and someone who gets noticed isn’t always something you’re born with but with a little bit of work, it’s something anyone can be.
If you’re sitting there thinking, “Well, how to put myself out there?!” continue reading this article because we’ll teach you 5 passos fundamentais to take while working on your inner self after we’ve taught you 10 things you absolutely must try to do involving other people.
Como se expor com sucesso
Esteja aberto a que os seus amigos o arranjem
Some people hate the idea of their friends setting them up but many couples who are now married will tell you that’s exactly how they met.
It can be slightly awkward but it doesn’t have to be obvious. It’s not like they have to arrange a encontro às cegas para vocês os dois; todo o processo pode ser mais espontâneo e descontraído.
Fale com alguns dos seus amigos íntimos, ask them if there’s someone they could recommend for you and I’m sure they will be thrilled to do that for you.
A pessoa com quem se encontra pode não ser a pessoa certa for you but it will be a fun experience that takes you in the direction of being more open and admitting that looking for a partner isn’t something shameful.
Ir a diferentes tipos de locais e eventos
Se perguntarem aos vossos amigos ou membros da família para conselhos para encontros, the first thing they’d tell you would probably be to get out more. Even though it may seem too simple, it can really help.
If you’re constantly going out to the same places, chances are you’ve seen all the people who go there and maybe even met most of them.
It doesn’t have to be anything wild, you can just change the cafetaria you go to or when there’s something happening such as a party, push yourself to go there even though you might feel reluctant at first.
Encontrar novos passatempos e actividades
Parar deslizamento através de redes sociais ver as coisas interessantes que as outras pessoas fazem e atrever-se a tentar fazer coisas novas.
Isto não só o ajudará a explorar mais profundamente a sua personalidade, como também o ajudará a conhecer novas pessoas.
If you’re doing the same things over and over again, there’s less chance that you’ll meet someone new.
O entusiasmo de fazer algo de novo fará emergir algo em si, um novo tipo de faísca que, esperamos, será o seu primeiro passo para se pôr lá fora.
Foco em vida real. IrlPara expandir o seu círculo de pessoas e motivar-se para crescer, as pessoas envolvem-se em diferentes tipos de actividades.
Tentar sair sozinho
Like most of us, you’re probably used to going out with a friend. You rarely or never go out to do something on your own but this is something that’s worth exploring.
It will feel weird at first because you’re used to having someone by your side when you’re out and about but you’ll get used to the feeling.
You’ll be surprised how beneficial this can be but also how comfortable it can feel. If you want to truly work on being ‘more out there’, this is a forma correcta.
Even though you’ll be extremely self-conscious at first, it will grow on you and teach you how to accept who you are and be proud of your own personality.
Elogiar as outras pessoas
There’s something charismatic about people who always have um belo elogio for a fellow human being, although I’m not saying you should give fake compliments to people about things you don’t actually like.
Open up more to sharing your thoughts when you have something nice to say about someone, don’t keep it in. It doesn’t have to be flirty, nor does it have to be said to someone who’s your romantic interest.
Aprenda a elogiar mais pessoas de vez em quando. Pode começar com um colega de trabalho ou um vendedor que trabalha num local onde faz compras.
Diga-lhes algo simpático sobre a roupa ou o cabelo, sobre a forma como se comportam profissional ou pessoalmente.
Isto não só o fará sentir-se melhor quando vir a reação deles, como também os inspirará a falar de si, o que o ajudará a aumentar a sua autoestima.
Abrir-se para fazer novos amigos
A muitas pessoas think that they are open to meeting new people even though they actually haven’t really, truly met anyone new in years.
Just because you found out a person’s name and had a little chit-chat with them, that doesn’t mean you’re open to making novos amigos.
Quando conhecer alguém novo, alguém de quem sente que vai gostar ou com quem se vai relacionar, convide-o a encontrar-se para um café ou qualquer outra coisa que ache que ambos possam gostar.
Make a conscious effort to invite someone new into your life. Be open about who you are though, don’t change yourself just so you can make friends with someone.
You can always try and see what happens and if a relationship blossoms, that’s amazing. The thing is that even if it doesn’t, you still have the benefit of a new experience.
I’m sure that your friends are amazing and you feel like they’re enough but constantly spending time with the same people keeps you in your own little world and stops you from learning how to put yourself out there.
Aderir a uma aplicação de encontros
Existem muitos sites de encontros online que pode escolher. Explore as suas opções, escolha uma (ou mais) e experimente.
Eu sei que encontros em linha can be weird and it can feel like it’s all about auto-promoção mas conhecer alguém dessa forma pode ser muito interessante.
I’m not saying that you’re going to meet the one (maybe you will though, you never know) but you’ll definitely learn to talk about yourself, which will help you in becoming more extroverted and open to new people.
If the words, “How do I put myself out there?” have ever crossed your mind but you don’t feel like going overboard, investigating the world of aplicações de encontros pode ser uma experiência fantástica para si.
Tentar encontros rápidos
This is one of the things that most probably won’t help you meet your soulmate but it will most definitely help you get out there.
You’re there to meet someone and everybody knows that because they are there for the very same reason, which is liberating.
You don’t have to wonder if the person you’re talking to is up for meeting someone new, as you know they are.
You also don’t have to worry too much about potentially embarrassing yourself because hey, after meeting so many people, no one will even remember you saying something stupid (they probably won’t even notice).
If you’re shy, even though it may seem counterintuitive, speed dating could be an amazing choice for you.
Namoriscar abertamente com alguém
Find someone you like, it can be someone you’ve known from before or someone completely new, and flirt with them in an obvious way. Make it playful and fun and throw in a couple of piadas de namorico e esperar pela sua reação.
If you’re not used to doing something like this and you probably aren’t if you’re wondering how to put yourself out there, you’ll probably start laughing or even run away but THAT’S OKAY.
It’s absolutely unimportant that your flirting is successful. What matters is how you handle the situation. Don’t be scared, just relax and get it over with.
Eu digo para acabar logo com isso, porque se esta é a primeira vez que está a namoriscar deliberada e abertamente com alguém, vai ser stressante.
Se gostares, podes praticar em pessoas aleatórias até encontrares alguém em quem queiras mesmo experimentar.
Parecer acessível
When you’re trying to put yourself out there, it’s important to look approachable and friendly. How to do this? Well, there are a few things you can try.
– Laugh more.
– Lean toward people you’re speaking to.
– When someone talks to you, show them you’re happy to listen to what they have to say.
– Keep your eyes wide open and smile.
– Keep eye contact.
– Learn how to have open body language.
– Keep your head up even when you feel shy.
One additional tip that’s very important would be to check your phone less and even keep it out of sight.
If you feel like you’re ready to explore this further and change your exterior world, the above are some things you can do to put yourself out there and get in the game.
You don’t have to do all of them, just pick something that suits you best and try it out.
On the other hand, if you feel like you need to work on yourself first before you’re ready to jump in the game, check out the following ways to do that.
5 formas estimulantes de trabalhar sobre si próprio:
Saia da sua zona de conforto
A incapacidade de se expor tem geralmente muito a ver com o facto de se estar preso num certo tipo de rotina, seja ela interna, externa ou ambas.
A mudança tem de começar dentro de si. Dê um passo para fora do seu zona de confortoFaça algo que o assuste ou o deixe um pouco ansioso ou desconfortável.
Talvez se sinta intimidado por falar em público so try that. Maybe you’re afraid to talk to someone first, so try that.
Whatever it is, try doing it. Start small. Don’t push yourself too far so you don’t end up feeling even more scared than you were at the beginning of this process.
Se quiser terminar o seu medo de se exporSe não conseguir, tente primeiro acabar com os seus outros medos mais pequenos. O sucesso dar-lhe-á a confiança necessária para enfrentar os problemas maiores.
Dizer o que pensa e defender aquilo em que acredita
If you’re an introvertido, it doesn’t mean you should also become a pushover. Work on becoming the kind of person who’s never afraid to speak their mind.
Tu és importante. Os seus pensamentos, atitudes e opiniões são importantes.
Maybe you’ve had some humiliating or embarrassing experiences that made you feel like it’s better if you don’t say a word and just do what everybody else does.
Trabalhe para deixar os seus traumas no passado e começar uma nova vida com um novo e melhorado eu.
Cada pessoa tem um certo nível de auto-dúvida. O que faz a verdadeira diferença na forma como conduzimos a nossa vida é a forma como decidimos lidar com ela. Mereces tomar consciência de que és importante.
Whatever it takes, work on your confidence. A person who’s able to state their opinion even when others disagree says they have a strong character and admirable integrity. Trust me, you want to be that person.
Aceitar a sua vulnerabilidade e as suas fraquezas
We’ve talked about strength and power but we still haven’t said a word about vulnerability and things that can be considered our weaknesses and that’s extremely important, both in life but also in the processo de namoro.
No one is unbreakable. Even Achilles had his heel. It’s crucial that you learn to accept and live with your weaknesses but also your vulnerability.
No one expects you to do everything perfectly. You can make mistakes, that’s allowed.
If you feel like you could be hurt if you decide to put yourself out there, well, you’re very right, you could.
Maybe you weren’t born as the kind of person who’s a good judge of character and are now afraid that the people you choose to open up to would hurt you.
That’s a valid concern but no one in this world could stop that from happening.
The only thing you can do is accept that you’re vulnerable, remain aware that things can go wrong but also that what happens doesn’t determine your worth.
Definir objectivos
I don’t mean just for relationships but goals for life in general. Think about your dreams. What is it that you want to do in life? What are your dreams? Do you have plans to achieve them?
Living in the moment is beautiful but what’s really amazing is being able to appreciate everyday little things while you’re on the path to becoming exactly who you want to be.
A definição de objectivos ajuda a aumentar a autoestima e a aprender a expor-se é muito mais fácil se se sentir confiante em si próprio e na sua vida.
Ama-te a ti próprio como uma pessoa solteira
Don’t go thinking that the relationship you’re aiming for will necessarily change your life or your attitudes about yourself completely. Not only that it won’t but it also shouldn’t.
You are who you are. The person you choose to be your partner will be a beautiful addition to your life but you need to learn to love yourself when you’re single too.
Pense nas coisas fantásticas que tem em si. Elogie-se a si próprio. Ama-te incondicionalmente. Aprenda a aceitar os seus defeitos e tente conhecer-se melhor.
Do fun things and explore your inner temperament and personality. You could be surprised by how many things you still haven’t yet discovered about yourself.
Learn to love who you are on your own; that’s the person you’re bringing into the relationship and that’s the person you’ll still be, even once you find your soulmate.
Always remember that the fear of failure can stop you from living your best life. I know you’re afraid but you have to tell yourself that your desire is bigger than your fear.
Dê um passo corajoso e tudo o resto virá por si só.
