Imparate a mettervi in gioco facendo queste 10 cose
So, you’ve either been in the dating game for a while or are just discovering it and you’ve started to realize things aren’t happening the way you expected them to.
Ad un certo punto, vi siete resi conto che avreste dovuto imparare a mettersi in gioco. Maybe you’ve been waiting for love to just come your way or maybe you’ve noticed that people don’t really pay much attention to you.
The thing is, being an ‘out there’ kind of person and someone who gets noticed isn’t always something you’re born with but with a little bit of work, it’s something anyone can be.
If you’re sitting there thinking, “Well, how to put myself out there?!” continue reading this article because we’ll teach you 5 passi chiave to take while working on your inner self after we’ve taught you 10 things you absolutely must try to do involving other people.
Come mettersi in gioco con successo
Siate aperti agli amici che vi organizzano un appuntamento
Some people hate the idea of their friends setting them up but many couples who are now married will tell you that’s exactly how they met.
It can be slightly awkward but it doesn’t have to be obvious. It’s not like they have to arrange a appuntamento al buio per voi due; l'intero processo può essere più spontaneo e rilassato.
Parlate con alcuni dei vostri amici intimi, ask them if there’s someone they could recommend for you and I’m sure they will be thrilled to do that for you.
La persona che incontrate potrebbe non essere la persona giusta for you but it will be a fun experience that takes you in the direction of being more open and admitting that looking for a partner isn’t something shameful.
Frequentare diversi tipi di luoghi ed eventi
Se chiedeste ai vostri amici o membri della famiglia per consigli per gli incontri, the first thing they’d tell you would probably be to get out more. Even though it may seem too simple, it can really help.
If you’re constantly going out to the same places, chances are you’ve seen all the people who go there and maybe even met most of them.
It doesn’t have to be anything wild, you can just change the caffetteria you go to or when there’s something happening such as a party, push yourself to go there even though you might feel reluctant at first.
Trovare nuovi hobby e attività
Fermarsi strisciare attraverso social media guardare le cose eccitanti che fanno gli altri e osare provare a fare cose nuove anche voi.
Questo non solo vi aiuterà a esplorare più a fondo la vostra personalità, ma vi aiuterà anche a conoscere nuove persone.
If you’re doing the same things over and over again, there’s less chance that you’ll meet someone new.
L'eccitazione di fare qualcosa di nuovo farà emergere qualcosa in voi, un nuovo tipo di scintilla che, si spera, sarà la vostra prima mossa di mettersi in gioco.
Focus su vita reale. IrlLe persone si dedicano a diversi tipi di attività per ampliare la propria cerchia di persone e per motivarsi a crescere.
Provate a uscire da soli
Like most of us, you’re probably used to going out with a friend. You rarely or never go out to do something on your own but this is something that’s worth exploring.
It will feel weird at first because you’re used to having someone by your side when you’re out and about but you’ll get used to the feeling.
You’ll be surprised how beneficial this can be but also how comfortable it can feel. If you want to truly work on being ‘more out there’, this is il modo giusto.
Even though you’ll be extremely self-conscious at first, it will grow on you and teach you how to accept who you are and be proud of your own personality.
Complimentarsi con altre persone
There’s something charismatic about people who always have un bel complimento for a fellow human being, although I’m not saying you should give fake compliments to people about things you don’t actually like.
Open up more to sharing your thoughts when you have something nice to say about someone, don’t keep it in. It doesn’t have to be flirty, nor does it have to be said to someone who’s your romantic interest.
Imparate a fare complimenti a più persone di tanto in tanto. Potete iniziare con un collaboratore o un commesso che lavora in un posto dove fate acquisti.
Dite loro qualcosa di carino sui vestiti o sui capelli, sul modo in cui si comportano professionalmente o personalmente.
Questo non solo vi farà sentire meglio quando vedrete la loro reazione, ma li stimolerà anche a parlare di voi, aiutandovi a costruire la vostra autostima.
Aprirsi a nuove amicizie
A molte persone think that they are open to meeting new people even though they actually haven’t really, truly met anyone new in years.
Just because you found out a person’s name and had a little chit-chat with them, that doesn’t mean you’re open to making nuovi amici.
Quando incontrate qualcuno di nuovo, con cui sentite di poter entrare in sintonia, invitatelo a incontrarsi per un caffè o per qualcos'altro che pensate possa piacere a entrambi.
Make a conscious effort to invite someone new into your life. Be open about who you are though, don’t change yourself just so you can make friends with someone.
You can always try and see what happens and if a relationship blossoms, that’s amazing. The thing is that even if it doesn’t, you still have the benefit of a new experience.
I’m sure that your friends are amazing and you feel like they’re enough but constantly spending time with the same people keeps you in your own little world and stops you from learning how to put yourself out there.
Iscriversi a un'app di incontri
Ci sono molti siti di incontri online tra cui scegliere. Esplorate le opzioni, sceglietene una (o più) e provatela.
So che incontri online can be weird and it can feel like it’s all about autopromozione ma incontrare qualcuno in questo modo può essere davvero interessante.
I’m not saying that you’re going to meet the one (maybe you will though, you never know) but you’ll definitely learn to talk about yourself, which will help you in becoming more extroverted and open to new people.
If the words, “How do I put myself out there?” have ever crossed your mind but you don’t feel like going overboard, investigating the world of app di incontri potrebbe essere un'esperienza straordinaria per voi.
Provate lo speed dating
This is one of the things that most probably won’t help you meet your soulmate but it will most definitely help you get out there.
You’re there to meet someone and everybody knows that because they are there for the very same reason, which is liberating.
You don’t have to wonder if the person you’re talking to is up for meeting someone new, as you know they are.
You also don’t have to worry too much about potentially embarrassing yourself because hey, after meeting so many people, no one will even remember you saying something stupid (they probably won’t even notice).
If you’re shy, even though it may seem counterintuitive, speed dating could be an amazing choice for you.
Flirtare apertamente con qualcuno
Find someone you like, it can be someone you’ve known from before or someone completely new, and flirt with them in an obvious way. Make it playful and fun and throw in a couple of barzellette flirtanti e aspettare la loro reazione.
If you’re not used to doing something like this and you probably aren’t if you’re wondering how to put yourself out there, you’ll probably start laughing or even run away but THAT’S OKAY.
It’s absolutely unimportant that your flirting is successful. What matters is how you handle the situation. Don’t be scared, just relax and get it over with.
Vi dico di farla finita perché se è la prima volta che flirtate deliberatamente e apertamente con qualcuno, sarà stressante.
Se vi piace, potete esercitarvi a farlo su persone a caso finché non trovate qualcuno con cui volete davvero provarlo.
Assicuratevi di sembrare avvicinabili
When you’re trying to put yourself out there, it’s important to look approachable and friendly. How to do this? Well, there are a few things you can try.
– Laugh more.
– Lean toward people you’re speaking to.
– When someone talks to you, show them you’re happy to listen to what they have to say.
– Keep your eyes wide open and smile.
– Keep eye contact.
– Learn how to have open body language.
– Keep your head up even when you feel shy.
One additional tip that’s very important would be to check your phone less and even keep it out of sight.
If you feel like you’re ready to explore this further and change your exterior world, the above are some things you can do to put yourself out there and get in the game.
You don’t have to do all of them, just pick something that suits you best and try it out.
On the other hand, if you feel like you need to work on yourself first before you’re ready to jump in the game, check out the following ways to do that.
5 modi stimolanti per lavorare su se stessi:
Uscire dalla propria zona di comfort
L'incapacità di mettersi in gioco ha di solito molto a che fare con l'essere bloccati in un certo tipo di routine, interna, esterna o entrambe.
Il cambiamento deve iniziare dentro di voi. Fate un passo fuori dal vostro zona di comfortfare qualcosa che vi spaventa o che vi mette un po' in ansia o a disagio.
Forse vi sentite intimiditi da parlare in pubblico so try that. Maybe you’re afraid to talk to someone first, so try that.
Whatever it is, try doing it. Start small. Don’t push yourself too far so you don’t end up feeling even more scared than you were at the beginning of this process.
Se si desidera terminare la propria paura di mettersi in giocoprovate prima a risolvere le altre paure più piccole. Il successo vi darà la fiducia necessaria per affrontare i problemi più grandi.
Parlare con la propria mente e difendere ciò in cui si crede
If you’re an introverso, it doesn’t mean you should also become a pushover. Work on becoming the kind of person who’s never afraid to speak their mind.
Voi siete importanti. I vostri pensieri, atteggiamenti e opinioni sono importanti.
Maybe you’ve had some humiliating or embarrassing experiences that made you feel like it’s better if you don’t say a word and just do what everybody else does.
Lavorate per lasciare i vostri traumi nel passato e iniziare una nuova vita con un nuovo sé migliorato.
Ogni persona ha un certo livello di dubbi su se stessi. Ciò che fa la vera differenza nel modo in cui conducete la vostra vita è il modo in cui decidete di affrontarla. Meritate di diventare consapevoli di essere importanti.
Whatever it takes, work on your confidence. A person who’s able to state their opinion even when others disagree says they have a strong character and admirable integrity. Trust me, you want to be that person.
Accettare la propria vulnerabilità e le proprie debolezze
We’ve talked about strength and power but we still haven’t said a word about vulnerability and things that can be considered our weaknesses and that’s extremely important, both in life but also in the processo di incontri.
No one is unbreakable. Even Achilles had his heel. It’s crucial that you learn to accept and live with your weaknesses but also your vulnerability.
No one expects you to do everything perfectly. You can make mistakes, that’s allowed.
If you feel like you could be hurt if you decide to put yourself out there, well, you’re very right, you could.
Maybe you weren’t born as the kind of person who’s a good judge of character and are now afraid that the people you choose to open up to would hurt you.
That’s a valid concern but no one in this world could stop that from happening.
The only thing you can do is accept that you’re vulnerable, remain aware that things can go wrong but also that what happens doesn’t determine your worth.
Stabilire gli obiettivi
I don’t mean just for relationships but goals for life in general. Think about your dreams. What is it that you want to do in life? What are your dreams? Do you have plans to achieve them?
Living in the moment is beautiful but what’s really amazing is being able to appreciate everyday little things while you’re on the path to becoming exactly who you want to be.
Fissare degli obiettivi aiuta a rafforzare la propria autostima e imparare a mettersi in gioco è molto più facile se ci si sente sicuri di sé e della propria vita.
Amare se stessi come persone singole
Don’t go thinking that the relationship you’re aiming for will necessarily change your life or your attitudes about yourself completely. Not only that it won’t but it also shouldn’t.
You are who you are. The person you choose to be your partner will be a beautiful addition to your life but you need to learn to love yourself when you’re single too.
Pensate alle cose di voi che sono straordinarie. Lodate voi stessi. Amare se stessi incondizionatamente. Imparate ad accettare i vostri difetti e cercate di conoscervi meglio.
Do fun things and explore your inner temperament and personality. You could be surprised by how many things you still haven’t yet discovered about yourself.
Learn to love who you are on your own; that’s the person you’re bringing into the relationship and that’s the person you’ll still be, even once you find your soulmate.
Always remember that the fear of failure can stop you from living your best life. I know you’re afraid but you have to tell yourself that your desire is bigger than your fear.
Fate un passo coraggioso, tutto il resto verrà da sé.
