5 características que fazem com que os homens com problemas de compromisso permaneçam numa relação
Alguma vez amou aquela pessoa que parece ser alérgica ao compromisso? Sim, todos nós amámos. Passei imenso tempo a tentar perceber como atraí-lo e fazê-lo ficar. No entanto, ele fugia sempre que havia a mais pequena hipótese de uma relação séria.
I know it can be incredibly frustrating when you really want him and you see he likes you too but he just can’t take that next big step.
Recorri a treinadores de encontros e li vários blogues onde revelavam porque é que os homens hesitam em comprometer-se e o que os faz ficar. Todos eles concordaram que os homens com problemas de compromisso querem uma mulher que:
1. Evita dramas desnecessários
No one wants a relationship that’s like the most dramatic Spanish telenovela, right? O drama é uma grande desvantagem para estes tipos.
Tomemos isto como exemplo. Uma vez, o meu carro avariou a caminho do nosso encontro e, em vez de me passar, chamei um reboque e ri-me com ele sobre o inconveniente. Ele disse que odiaria que eu fosse o tipo de pessoa que entra em pânico e faz drama por causa disso.
Being with a woman who’s a drama queen and makes a problem out of every little thing is pretty exhausting. And annoying if we’re honest. Basta falar sobre quaisquer problemas que possam ter e manter a calma. He’ll appreciate that more than you think.
People who are unwilling to commit are often like that for a reason. Maybe they’ve been in a relationship that was nothing but arguments and stupid fights so now they’re scared of reliving that experience again. If you keep things peaceful and chill, he’ll stay around forever.
2. Cria um espaço seguro e compreende
Os homens com problemas de compromisso transportam muita bagagem, quer de relações falhadas, quer das suas vidas passadas e até da infância. É preciso estar preparado e ser capaz de lidar com toda a confusão emocional que vem num pacote com eles.
You might be his first serious and healthy relationship so there’ll probably be a lot of work to do until he feels comfortable with you and lets his true personality shine.
Crie uma zona livre de julgamentos se quiser que ele se abra so he finally gets a sense that someone is willing to listen and understand him. You don’t need to be his psychologist, just give yourself time to build trust and that’ll be a huge step towards your commitment.
3. Desfruta da vida e mantém-na interessante
Esqueça a preguiça e passe os seus dias a ver séries da Netflix. Levante-se e explore o mundo!
Se o queres atrair, it’s time to think about being more spontaneous. Plan an unexpected trip away, do things out of your comfort zone, and apply for that cooking course you’ve always wanted! These men want something new every day, both unpredictable and fun!
Uma vez fui a um desses eventos de vinho e pintura com a minha “hard to catch” date and mind you, I don’t even know how to hold a brush, let alone paint a whole picture! My attempt at painting definitely turned into something nowhere near artistic, unlike his work of art. But he found it funny and we had a great time!
By being adventurous and fun, you’ll always keep things interesting so he’ll want to stay and be part of your journey. Also, cada nova experiência é uma excelente oportunidade para criar laçose criar recordações que só vos podem aproximar mais!
4. Goes with the flow and doesn’t stress
It’s the same as with unnecessary drama – they want peace. I know you really want to put a stamp on your relationship but slow down! There’s enough time and no need to rush that process.
Desfrutar da viagem, deixar que tudo aconteça ao seu próprio ritmo, and show him you’re not desperate. Constantly pushing him and adding additional pressure will scare him away. And that’s not something you want.
You want to be his calm place, someone he thinks about when he’s stressed and knows you’d calm him down just by being there. That’s why é necessário ter uma energia descontraída e acredita em mim, se o fizeres, ele nunca te deixará ir.
5. Tem os seus interesses e não é pegajoso
If there’s something men are scared of more than commitment, it’s having someone glued to them 24/7. They don’t want to be with someone who acts obsessively. Feeling required to please someone’s needs every millisecond is just tiring.
When you have your own thing going on it makes you instantly more attractive to everyone! Why? Because you show your happiness and well-being don’t depend on someone else. You can enjoy a day without them and let them have their freedom without holding resentment.
I used to think I needed to leave everything behind when I got into a relationship and this wasn’t healthy at all. It just created unnecessary chaos in our lives because I wouldn’t let him breathe.
Ter os seus próprios passatempos e interesses também é bom para si. It can help you lead a fulfilled life and at the same time, it’ll take the pressure off him.
I think the universe works in mysterious ways. You’ll see that the moment you stop chasing something, it’ll come your way.
Besides this, it’s important to know that some people are just not destined for us and that’s okay. Maybe not having them as part of your life is actually good for you.
By letting go of what’s not good for you, you’re making space for what is meant for you. However, these traits are good to have just in case!
