5 características que fazem com que um narcisista te persiga

Os narcisistas são predadores e estão sempre à procura de novas vítimas.

They never stop and relax because they can’t live without someone to draw all the energy from.

As pessoas inocentes, os empáticos, são as suas principais vítimas. Têm muita energia para dar, o que atrai o narcisista para junto de si.

An empath’s energy is the source of their narcissistic life. I met a guy once and he was everything I ever dreamed of. He was just perfect.

His jokes were funny, he was considerate and he was good-looking. He had it all. Even my mother liked him and that’s not an easy thing to achieve.

Quando ele apareceu na minha vida, tudo melhorou de repente, tudo estava ao meu alcance.

Era quase demasiado bom para ser verdade. Eu devia estar à espera que acontecesse alguma merda séria porque era impossível que tudo fosse tão perfeito.

Os primeiros meses foram como um sonho.

Ok, ele tinha os seus momentos que me faziam duvidar por um segundo da sua integridade e da sua bondade, mas pedia sempre desculpa por tudo o que fazia e prometia não o voltar a fazer.

Além disso, pensava que toda a gente tinha o direito de cometer um erro e de ter um dia mau.

There have to be a few bumps in the road. It’s how relationships work. You hit a bump and you solve it, so you move on.

But after a while, you realize that it’s not him who’s apologizing anymore, it’s you all the time.

Something must be wrong in this picture. It was all perfect in the beginning but now you can’t seem to catch a break.

Tudo o que fazes parece tão errado porque as reacções dele te mostram isso.

Ele está constantemente insatisfeito consigo e critica-o constantemente.

Depois separam-se. And it doesn’t end there. Either he begs or you beg for the two of you to get back together and you give him a second shot which he doesn’t deserve.

Deep down inside you know that but you can’t help it because you’re in love and you hope that this time around things will definitely change. Well, they don’t change, they become even worse.

Then it’s everything all over again so naturally you break up once again.

The story doesn’t end there. He comes back and he tries to get you back but this time, you’re a bit smarter.

Then the emotional blackmail begins. My narcissist did this to me. He played with my feelings because I didn’t have the courage or the strength to go nenhum contacto com ele.

Respondi às suas chamadas, encontrámo-nos para tomar café. Cometi o erro de o deixar voltar à minha vida, não como amante, mas como amigo.

Tive pena dele porque muitas pessoas o tinham enganado no passado. Tantas mulheres tinham-no magoado.

He couldn’t trust anybody and he was careful with his feelings because of that.

Que grande treta!

Ele nunca foi magoado. Era ele que magoava e manipulava os outros. E agora estava a tentar manipular-me, fingindo estar vulnerável para que eu sentisse pena e o aceitasse de volta.

Ele estava a chantagear-me emocionalmente e eu não fazia ideia do que estava a acontecer.

Os narcisistas são predadores emocionais que pressentem se vamos cair no seu falso carisma e nos seus truques.

Sabem exatamente qual a pessoa que escolhem e utilizam para se elevarem.

They have a sixth sense for that and they can tell if you’re going to buy their shit.

Quer se aperceba ou não, tem certas características que fazem de si um alvo de um narcisista.

Tem algo que eles sabem que podem utilizar e deitar fora quando acabarem.

Confia nas pessoas

   

You’re naive and trusting which makes you blind to the subtle signs that you’re dealing with a narcissist.

It’s not that you ignore those red flags a narcissist shows, and they have to show them sooner or later, but you simply can’t comprehend that someone can act that way and you don’t pay attention.

It won’t cross your mind that this person is trying to use you and that this person is dangerous because you’re not like that.

O seu carácter ingénuo leva-o a acreditar que todos agem como você.

Faz-nos acreditar que todas as pessoas pensam nos outros como pensam nelas próprias.

You believe them because you don’t think that they would do something that nasty ever.

You just can’t see the red flags that this person is someone you should get away from as soon as possible.

You’re kind and compassionate

You’re too loving and you care about everybody. You have so much love to give and you don’t save it for yourself.

It makes you happy when you make someone else happy, even if that means you put yourself second. That is something narcissists can’t wait to get their hands on.

Narcissists see your kindness and they see how you’re nice to everybody and how you genuinely care about everybody and they take advantage of that. They are like sharks when they smell blood.

You’re lonely

You desperately want to find love and because you’re lonely you’ll take anything that is offered to you.

A sua autoestima é quase nula, o que se adequa perfeitamente a uma personalidade narcisista.

When you have no self-love or self-respect, it’s easier to control you and that’s when a narcissist strikes.

Por isso, acaba por ficar com ele, porque ele é a única coisa de que precisa nos seus tempos de solidão e tristeza.

Ele promete-te tudo o que queres ouvir. E, passados alguns meses, dá por si numa fria e relação abusiva, perguntando-se como chegaram lá e o que aconteceu.

Detesta conflitos

Narcissists feed on the fear they evoke in their victims. When they start screaming and yelling at you just because they are having a bad day or they want to blame you for something that’s their fault, they provoke fear in you, which is their favorite feeling.

You’re afraid of conflict and you want to avoid it at any cost. You want to keep things calm, which suits them.

They won’t lose a lot of energy in driving you crazy, they will feed themselves with your fear and you won’t do anything about it.

Essencialmente, quanto mais se evita o conflito, mais interessante se é para um narcisista.

You don’t know how to set boundaries

You have to know how to put your foot down and say when you’ve had enough.

É preciso saber estabelecer limites e não permitir que as pessoas passem por cima de nós.

You have to fight for yourself and stand up and raise your voice when it’s necessary.

When you set boundaries and show people what they are allowed and not allowed to do, you’re going to let good people in your life and kick the bad ones out.

You have to show everyone what the things are that you will and won’t tolerate.

When a narcissist gets a hold of you, he will tear you apart. It’s so important to be able to spot and, if necessary, ignorar um narcisista para evitar que as suas garras se espalhem por ti.

E essa não é uma tarefa fácil. No início, eles serão encantadores e amorosos. Serão perfeitos.

And they will stay that way until they are completely sure you won’t be able to get away that easily.