10 maneiras prejudiciais que um homem tóxico faz você se sentir

É natural É normal que se sinta magoado depois de uma separação. É perfeitamente normal que chore, que se sinta mal e que lamente a perda do seu parceiro romântico.

However, it is completely different when you’re involved with someone toxic. In fact, this type of man makes you feel more than one damaging emotion and here are 10 of them.

De coração partido

A primeira coisa que todos os homens tóxicos que deixas entrar na tua vida te fazem é partir o teu coração e deixar-te cicatrizes irreparáveis.

He will shatter it with every move he makes to the point where you’ll think it is utterly impossible to glue it back together.

Yes, every break-up probably leaves you heartbroken. However, the difference between this man and all the other guys you were ever involved with is that a toxic man won’t only break your heart once you two part ways—he will be doing it throughout your entire relationship.

I’m not saying that you two won’t have any happy moments but I can assure you that sadly, pain will prevail.

He will hurt you in ways you couldn’t have imagined and he will end up crushing your vulnerable heart into a million pieces.

Emocionalmente esgotado

Depois de passar algum tempo ao lado de uma pessoa tóxica, fica-se cansado.

Nevertheless, I’m not talking about physical tiredness here only, even though it is also one of the side effects which you will likely have.

I’m talking about that feeling when you’re emotionally drained and worn out. About losing the will to live and not having the strength to keep on going.

Um homem tóxico deixa-nos depressed and feeling like you can’t get out of bed. He will make you want to give up on everything you set your mind to.

É que um tipo como este, as discussões constantes que provoca e as lágrimas constantes que te faz chorar esgotam-te ao ponto de só quereres passar o resto da tua vida fechada no teu quarto, com um cobertor na cabeça.

You feel like you’re too weak to finish your everyday chores, let alone actually do something with your life.

Insano

Estarei a exagerar? Aconteceu mesmo tudo como me lembro ou estou a imaginar coisas?

Serei eu a louca? Ele está a iluminar-me ou interpretei mal toda a nossa conversa?

If these are some of the questions you’ve been asking yourself lately, you’re on your way to feeling completely insane.

And that is exactly what this guy wants—manipulating you into thinking that you’re the crazy one and making you doubt your own right mind.

Of course, he won’t accomplish all of this right from the start.

However, after a while spent next to him, you will have a tiny voice in your head, telling you that maybe he is right, after all, and that you’re the one making all of a fuss over nothing.

After some time, you’ll start examining your own memory and view of things.

You’ll start doubting yourself and your own reason.

Estúpido

Outra coisa que um homem tóxico fará com que se sinta é estúpida.

Besides undermining your intelligence and acting like he is smarter than you and that he always knows better during your relationship, you’ll continue feeling this way even after you break loose from him.

The moment you get out of this toxic romance and the moment you start observing it from a distance, you will be wondering how come you couldn’t have seen some things sooner.

How come you were such a fool who believed in this man’s lies and how could you have thought that he would change?

After going through hell with him, you’ll start questioning all of your choices.

Tem maturidade suficiente para gerir a sua própria vida e pode confiar na sua capacidade de julgamento?

Não é suficiente

When you’re around a toxic boyfriend, you’re never pretty, smart, beautiful, attractive or interesting enough.

No matter what you do, how hard you try, what big sacrifices you make and how deeply you care for him—nothing you ever do will be good enough.

At first, he tries to ‘improve you’ and ‘for your own good’. His insults are masked by pieces of advice and you don’t notice that he is actually doing his best to humiliate you.

You don’t see how he is constantly treating you like you’re the submissive one.

Como ele está sempre a agir como se estivesse acima de ti e que devias considerar-te sortuda por um partido como ele pôr os olhos em ti.

Once you realize what is going on, it becomes too late. You’re already dealing with loads of insecurities he managed to deeply root inside of you.

Sem darmos por isso, começamos a questionar o nosso próprio valor e a pensar que também não somos suficientemente bons.

After all, you’re doing your best and this man is never pleased so you must be the problem.

Ciúmes

Quando passas toda a tua relação a comparar-te com todas as raparigas que passam pelo teu ex e, sobretudo, com as ex dele, é natural que os teus ciúmes atinjam o auge.

When you spend years hearing that all those other girls are better than you and that you could never be like them, it is natural for you to start hating them, without knowing they have nothing to do with the fact that you’re dating a toxic man who is only putting you down with his nasty comments.

When you are being told that you’re replaceable and that you’re nothing special, when you’re cheated on more than once, when every other girl’s looks and qualities have been rubbed in your face, it is natural that your jealousy becomes unhealthy.

When you’re living a hell on earth while watching all of your friends in happy relationships, having the time of their lives, you become envious.

And that is exactly what your toxic partner wants—to turn you into a much worse person than you actually are.

Culpado

Even though you’re the victim of this story, somehow, your toxic boyfriend managed to turn the tables and make you look like the bad guy here.

Even though he is the one who’s treating you like shit, he succeeds in putting all the blame on you.

Em vez de assumir a responsabilidade e apoiar as suas acções, é muito mais fácil para ele acusá-la do facto de a vossa relação estar a desmoronar-se.

É mais fácil fazê-la sentir-se culpada do que enfrentar a realidade e admitir para ambos que ele é o único culpado.

If he’s cheating on you, he did it because you deprived him of sex, because you don’t look the way you used to or because this other woman gave him something you couldn’t.

Either way, the bottom line is that you pushed him into someone else’s arms and he would have never thought of having an affair if you hadn’t caused him to.

Se ele está a abusar de si, é porque o deixou nervoso, olhou para ele de forma errada ou gritou enquanto discutiam. E a lista continua.

Incapaz de amar

Once you’re done with a toxic boyfriend, you’re convinced that you can never love another man the way you loved him.

Pensa que ele matou a sua capacidade de gostar de alguém do sexo oposto, de deixar entrar um novo rapaz ou de voltar a confiar em alguém.

Not only that—he makes you believe that all other men are just like him.

Que não vale a pena procurar alguém melhor porque todos os namorados a tratariam ainda pior do que ele.

Por isso, é muito melhor manter-se na sua zona de conforto, onde sabe o que esperar.

After all, at least you know you loved this toxic man once and that is better than being with someone you’re totally indifferent toward.

Não foi feito para ser amado

However, a toxic man won’t only persuade you that you can’t love someone else after him. In fact, he will also do his best to make you believe that no man could ever love you the way he did.

Afinal de contas, quem é que quereria uma mulher emocionalmente afetada ao seu lado? Quem teria a paciência de esperar que se abrisse e o deixasse entrar?

Que homem estaria disposto a curar as tuas feridas e a viver com as tuas cicatrizes?

Que homem perderia o seu tempo com uma mulher que precisa de ser tratada e que está tão danificada?

Besides, if this guy who’s known you for so long claims that you have so many flaws and if he keeps on pointing out your imperfections, what else could this new man see?

If he can’t tolerate you and if he thinks you’re not enough, every guy who comes into your life will surely consider you as not meant to be loved.

Assustado

Outra emoção que todos os namorados tóxicos despertam nas suas vítimas é o medo.

And I’m talking here about irrational, paralyzing fear which doesn’t allow you to function properly.

At first, you’re scared of everything this man is capable of. What will he do to you next?

After that, when you take off your rose-tinted glasses, you’re afraid of leaving him. Do you have what it takes to get by without him?

Once you’re done with him, you’re scared of going back to the real world. Will you make it?

You’re afraid of feeling like this forever. Will you ever heal and move on for real?

And finally, you’re scared of moving on. Will your next experience end up the same way this one did?