Pare de se preocupar em encontrar um grande homem e concentre-se em ser uma grande mulher

I believe that there is an ideal person for all of us – our perfect match. I truly believe in soulmates porque ainda não há muito tempo estava num processo de descoberta de mim próprio e, através dele, encontrei o meu. 

Sei que é difícil de acreditar, mas a sua alma gémea is out there somewhere and I’m sure he’ll find you. Your paths will cross one day and he’ll be everything you ever asked for.

He’ll be even more than that. He’ll be the prince you dreamed about when you were a little girl. He’ll be that kind-hearted “bad boy” you had a crush on as a teenage girl.

He’ll be a successful and protective man with some serious plans and goals for the future. A man who knows what he wants and how to get it. A man whose priority is to settle down and start his own family. 

He’ll be that man you pray for every night before you go to bed.

One day, I’m sure he’ll come. The only reason he isn’t here yet is because God thinks you need some more time. Some more time for yourself.

Precisa de trabalhar mais em si próprio. Precisa de realizar alguns dos seus próprios sonhos e objectivos. Primeiro, é preciso construir-se como uma mulher independente.

Your soulmate will come into your life when it’s time. There are some things you can’t control in life and this is one of them.

So, why bother about things that are out of your control? Why bother about it when you’re not the one who decides about the timing of these things?

I was also focused on finding “the one” my entire life and where did it get me? Nowhere. I only neglected my own needs. I was jealous of every happy couple I saw on the street.

Comecei a pensar que talvez o verdadeiro problema esteja em mim. Estava preso à sensação constante de não ser suficientemente bom and I didn’t know how to get rid of it.

I wondered if I’d ever find someone who thinks that I’m good enough – who sees me with completely different eyes. Because God knows my self-image was terrible.

I remember when I was in college, my goals for the future were to get my diploma, find a job I’d enjoy doing, and work hard to become a successful and independent woman.

I wanted to surround myself with a big circle of friends and somehow repay my parents for their love and everything they’d done for me over the years.

That futile search for a soulmate changed my goals for the future completely. The only thing that was important to me was to find someone who’d love me and stay with me for the rest of my life.

Don’t get me wrong. Having a life partner is important and should be a part of everyone’s goals for the future. But it shouldn’t become your obsession. 

Há tantas coisas que devemos tratar na nossa vida antes de começarmos a partilhá-la com outra pessoa.

Um dia, vi algumas fotografias dos meus amigos no Instagram. Estavam a desfrutar das suas férias nas Maldivas. Depois descobri que a minha colega de trabalho foi promovida e passou a ser minha superior.

That was the day I looked at myself in the mirror and said, “Stop right there, missy. It’s enough. You have to get your life in order and you have to do it now!”

Também merecia viajar e divertir-me. Também merecia progredir na minha carreira. Aquela caloira estava a contar comigo e eu tinha de a deixar orgulhosa.  

O dia em que decidi mudar a minha maneira de pensar foi o dia em que a minha vida começou a melhorar em todos os aspectos possíveis. Senti-me mais calmo e descontraído. Finalmente senti aquela sensação de paz interior.

Voltei a concentrar-me em mim. Comecei a trabalhar em mim próprio. Tinha de voltar a pôr a minha auto-relação no bom caminho. O autocuidado tornou-se my priority. I found my life purpose and it wasn’t finding the great guy.

I worked hard to make myself better in every possible way and I did it. I am so damn proud of myself and everything I’ve achieved so far.

No final, só quero dizer uma coisa a todas as mulheres que andam à procura de um homem fantástico. O vosso grande homem pode chegar, mas também pode partir um dia. 

You are the only person you know for sure you’re stuck with for the rest of your life. Tente torná-lo divertido, excitante e interessante, melhorando a si próprio.