É assim que saberás que ele é o tal

You are struggling, right? You’ve been broken too many times and you are now careful about your choices because they might lead to a coração partido again and you’ve had enough of those. You’ve had enough of crying and your heart is still aching from the last time you were betrayed and you started looking at men as heartbreakers and nothing else.

The thing is that at one point in your life you’ll meet someone who will turn your world upside down. You won’t believe what’s happening but how do you know that he’s The One para si?

Well, it’s easy. He’ll put you first. You will be his biggest priority ever and there will be nothing more important than you. He will love you, he will cherish you and he will always have time for you. Even if he has something planned, if you’re sick he’ll come to you to be there for you.

Ele nunca te fará sentir indesejada. Not like the last bastard who made you believe that you were hard to love. Your new man will show you that he can’t live without you by his side and he’ll do anything that’s needed to make you stay. There will be no second-guessing, no games, just love and fulfillment.

Ele nunca vos tomará por garantidos. The biggest mistake people make in relationships is that they start taking each other for granted but that’s not the case with him. He will appreciate your efforts and your existence. He knows how to say ‘thank you’ and to take part in your relationship to the point where you’ll be overwhelmed—you’ve never seen this before.

He will put your broken pieces back together. He will make you forget that you were ever broken. I mean, you can only heal with a lot of love and appreciation and you’ll get that from him.

Ele fá-lo-á ver porque é que tudo aconteceu como aconteceu. Your exes are lessons that showed you what love is not. That’s why here’s he comes, with all the love in this world burning inside of him, ready to give it all to you. Those men before him gave you reasons to be more careful, careful enough to not let anyone else but him be in your life. He will make you forget your heart was ever broken.

Ele respeitar-vos-á. He will respect you and all your decisions, never doubting you. You will know that you’re appreciated every time he asks for your opinion and every time he lets you be by yourself because you asked him for it. He will respect your boundaries and he will never make you do things that you don’t want to do.

Ele nunca te tocará sem a tua autorização. I don’t know why but men think that they are entitled to a woman’s body, while we don’t have a say in this. It’s always the case unless you’re talking to the right one. O homem certo que a tratará como se o seu corpo fosse apenas uma parte de si, olhará muito para além disso e verá a pessoa que realmente é.

Nunca o ouvirão levantar a voz contra vós. He knows how scary it is for you to go through that trauma, that’s why he wants to make you feel safe and sound. He will never raise his hand against you because that would make him a coward. Only a real man knows how to treat a woman right and that’s exactly what he is: a real man.

Ele vai ouvir-te e lembrar-se de tudo o que disseste. From the beginning until the end. Because he listens to you. Because he cares. Because he wants to know everything about you. He’s not ignorant, he’s not selfish. He listens actively and you’ll find that it’s the most important thing in a relationship. It means that you are present and that you care about someone enough to let them be heard.

Ele nunca te fará chorar. Even if you do cry, he’ll kiss the tracks of your tears down your cheek to never make you feel like your tears are a sign of weakness, because they are not. They are a sign that you’re human. That’s why he’ll do everything that’s in his power to make you feel whole and complete and to never doubt him, yourself or your relationship.

Se estavam a pensar, este homem existe mesmo. You haven’t had the opportunity to meet anyone like him before because those men were borderline assholes who weren’t able to see you for the blessing you truly are. But be patient. Nothing comes overnight. Just be yourself and know that with that, you will attract him in no time.