É assim que se descobre o tipo simpático numa multidão de falhados tóxicos
Spotting a nice guy in a crowd of toxic losers is a real challenge. Especially if you’ve spent great amounts of your time with the toxic ones who made you forget the traits of a nice guy. But, believe me, not all guys are assholes.
There are some good guys out there who are waiting for you to discover them and encourage them to make a move on you. You’ve probably seen them multiple times by now but somehow meninos maus foram sempre os primeiros a cativar o teu coração.
But, you realize this when it’s too late and you curse the day when you’ve decided to date a toxic manipulator like him. And then you start wondering where have all of those good guys been hiding from you and the rest of the world?
O que se passa é que eles existem, mas não foi capaz de os detetar porque esteve todo este tempo cego pelos tóxicos. Para resolver este problema, preste atenção às seguintes dicas sobre como identificar o tipo simpático num mar de tipos tóxicos.
1. Ele sentir-se-á intimidado
Nice guys are often intimidated by women because they aren’t use to being approached by them. If you see that he seems nervous, fidgeting and avoiding eye contact at all costs with you, know that he is a good guy but your presence intimidates him (which will change with time).
A nice guy is not into any of those manipulative games you might have witnessed before him because he’s simply unable to deceive you. His feelings and reactions are genuine and they will never pretend to be something that they’re not only to get you to like them.
2. Examinar os seus amigos
If you’re not sure whether he’s a nice guy or just another toxic guy (not worth your time), pay attention to his friends. I’m sure you’ll notice the difference between him and his friends (if there is any) and this difference will tell you whether your guy is what you’re looking for.
If his friends are noisy, pushy and dominating while he’s the total opposite, know that he is definitely a nice guy. Nice guys will always be in shadow from the bad ones because it’s in their nature to stay humble.
3. Ele não tentará surpreender-te
You will know that he’s a nice guy if he’s not trying hard to amaze you. It is because they are a little bit insecure about themselves and they have a fear of failure. They are afraid that you’re going to misinterpret something they’ve said to you and that is why most of the time they choose to play safely.
They respond normally and don’t try hard to show you affection (even if they really like you) because they don’t want to scare you off.
4. Ele é honesto
A nice guy will be 100% honest with you and you’ll see it in his eyes. You will never second guess anything he says to you because you’ll feel that everything he says is nothing but the truth.
Sometimes he’ll be honest to the extent of hurting your feelings but they do it subconsciously because they are wired to be honest no matter what. Nice guys are appalled by mind games and that is why they value honesty before anything else.
5. Sente-se à vontade para falar com ele
You know he’s a good guy if you feel utterly comfortable talking to him. Your conversations don’t seem pushy or fake. You feel the positive energy in the air and hours feel like seconds.
You enjoy spending time with him and you don’t find it hard to open up to him because it feels like a natural thing to do. You feel like you really trust him and that you’ve known him for years even though the two of you have just met.
6. Ele responde sempre às tuas mensagens
You don’t wait hours for him to text you back. Instead, he always makes sure to text you in a decent amount of time because he respects you and enjoys talking and texting to you.
A nice guy will never let you wait when it comes to texting because they don’t really plan their actions (because their ulterior motives are not toxic). They see your message, they answer it and then they hope for the best.
7. Mantém-se fiel às suas decisões
Se ele disser que lhe vai enviar uma mensagem ou telefonar, saiba que o fará. Um rapaz simpático cumpre sempre as suas decisões e promessas. Se ele prometer que vai fazer algo por si, vai certificar-se de que o faz a tempo.
Ele aprecia-a como pessoa e respeita os seus limites e desejos. Nunca fará nada que a faça sentir desconfortável ou que a faça questionar as suas intenções.
8. Ele trata-te como uma senhora
Yes. You will know he’s a nice guy if you feel that he’s different from everyone else you’ve been dating so far. And it is different, because it’s true. He treats you like a lady and he makes sure you feel entertained and safe with him.
Once you experience the magic of being with a nice guy, you’ll never think about the toxic ones who were definitely not worth your time. And once you target your nice guy, hold on to him and never let him go.
