O namoro moderno não é mau, só está com o tipo errado

Seja com quem for que fales, todos te dirão que namoro na era moderna é o pior pesadelo.

Rarely anyone knows what’s going on in their lives, everyone sleeps around, and almost no one is in a real relationship.

Sounds familiar, right? After all, you’re the one who is fighting the same battles with your so-called boyfriend as well.

Tem sido assim desde o primeiro dia. You’ve been trapped in a seemingly endless circle of make-ups and breakups, vanity games, tears, laughter, and a whole rollercoaster of emotions.

Isto tem continuado a acontecer até hoje. Este homem continua a deixar-te e a voltar quando lhe apetece.

Silly you, you always take him back. After all, you’re the one who agreed to this kind of relationship the first time when you took his sorry ass back, even though you should have sent him to hell.

The worst part is that you’re perfectly aware of how things are. Yes, you hope that he will change, but you don’t deceive yourself believing in his faithfulness and loyalty.

In fact, he probably keeps on seeing other girls and you don’t know where he spends most of his time. You’re in no way involved in his life and you don’t feel a part of it.

You’ve spent months trying to get to the bottom of his feelings and your main occupation in life has become decoding this guy’s mixed signals.

Your entire existence has turned into waiting for him to remember that you exist – for him to text you or show the slightest sign of affection.

Depois de todo este tempo, you’re not even sure whether he is playing mind games with you or just doesn’t care.

Estará ele a fazer-se de difícil porque quer que se apaixone ainda mais por ele? Ou será que ele não quer ser apanhado porque quer continuar a ser um jogador?

É um fobia de compromissos ou ele simplesmente não quer comprometer-se consigo?

Is it true that he doesn’t believe in labeling things? Or does he not want to get exclusive so he can have an excuse to keep on cheating on you?

It would be logical to ask him all of these questions, right? Well, sadly, that’s not possible.

First of all, you’re not his girlfriend. Besides, the truth is you’re too scared you’ll chase him away if you open your heart to him.

So, you accept this kind of almost relationship and pretend you’re perfectly okay with it. You act like you couldn’t care less about him either.

At the end of the day, you’re just trying to fit in.

Everyone around you lives similar lives, so there must be something wrong with you if you’re the only one who can’t seem to cope with the practices of modern dating.

Bem, deixem-me dizer-vos uma verdade que abre os olhos. Modern dating doesn’t actually suck – your boyfriend does.

You see, when you find the right person, the age in which you meet becomes completely irrelevant. When someone loves you, he doesn’t care about trends and society.

Basicamente, this guy you’re with is a jerk and he would be one in all eras.

He’s just using modern dating as an excuse. He’s using it to justify his lack of emotions and morals.

Se ele te amasse, he wouldn’t have treated you this way. He would respect you and give you the place you deserve in his life.

Se ele fosse um homem a sério, nunca usaria o seu coração bondoso. Nunca magoaria deliberadamente os teus sentimentos e dar-te-ia o que mereces.

If this guy was mature enough, he wouldn’t have the need to boost his ego this way. He wouldn’t have to humiliate you in order to feel like more of a man.

Se ele quisesse estar consigo a sério, tê-lo-ia feito.