Como fazer com que alguém goste de você de volta: 20 maneiras eficazes de obter sucesso

Então, há uma pessoa de quem gostamos, mas simplesmente não fazemos ideia do que fazer em relação às nossas emoções.

What should you do to make this person understand you’re worthy of a chance, what are the psychological tricks to make this person see you in a new light?Sounds familiar, right?

Well, that’s because we’ve all been there. How to get someone to like you back? How to make someone to fall in love with you?

These are the questions we’ve all asked ourself at least once during our lifetime. Well, finally, we have the answer.

Basta seguir estas 20 peças de conselhos para encontros and I promise you that you’ll get the person you want in no time.

Saiba mais sobre o seu estado de relacionamento

The first step many people sadly want to surpass while trying to win over their crush is getting to the bottom of this person’s relationship status.

É preciso estar perfeitamente consciente de que as coisas não são nem de perto nem de longe como eram no passado; a linha entre ser solteiro e estar comprometido é cada vez mais ténue.

So, how exactly can you know whether someone is off-limits or not, if we’re talking about a person you know nothing about?

Well, you can ask your mutual friends about them and if they don’t know the answer, you’re sentenced to stalking through their social media profiles and searching for trails of a romantic partner.

Se se aperceber de que essa pessoa não é solteira, afaste-se desde o início. Afinal de contas, não é um destruidor de lares ou uma terceira roda e a última coisa de que precisa é de se arrastar para uma relação com um traidor.

However, even if they’re officially single, there is the possibility of them being emocionalmente indisponível.

Bem, antes de fazer com que alguém goste de si, deve definitivamente tentar descobrir a sua bagagem emocional também.

Trabalhar a sua autoestima

Antes de esperar que alguém goste de nós, temos de gostar de nós próprios e de nos sentirmos bem na nossa própria pele e, antes de exigirmos respeito, temos de ter um sentido de respeito por si próprio.

Sounds like a cliché, I know, but trust me when I tell you that it couldn’t be truer.

Therefore, if you are on a mission of catching someone’s attention, you have to become a confident person and build an image of someone who knows what they want and is not afraid to get it.

You can’t show this special somebody your qualities unless you yourself are not completely aware of them, can you?

Por isso, o primeiro passo é reforçar a sua confiança e fazer-se sentir especial. É mais fácil falar do que fazer, eu sei.

Bem, comece por escrever todos os seus aspectos positivos e traços de personalidade. Quais são as coisas que alguém do sexo oposto pode achar atraentes em si?

Every morning when you get up, look yourself in the mirror and repeat after me: “I’m beautiful, good-looking, have a sharp wit and an interesting sense of humor.

I’m worthy and there is nothing I should be afraid of.”

Don’t put all of your focus on this person because a boosted self-esteem will help you in other life areas, besides love. Make a list of short-term goals and work on them, step by step.

This way, every time you achieve something new, you’ll see how capable you actually are and that will serve you as fuel for your self-confidence.

Deixar de se comparar com os outros, especially to your crush’s exes. Instead, focus on your own value and the things which make you unique.

Deixe de pensar que essa pessoa está fora do seu alcance e livre-se de pensamentos pessimistas sobre o fracasso.

I won’t lie to you—there always exists the possibility of this person not reciprocating your feelings. You could do everything by the book but if they don’t feel they’ve clicked with you, you can’t force them to like you.

No entanto, por enquanto, não é nisso que se deve concentrar. Em vez disso, tenha a certeza do seu sucesso e espere pelo melhor!

After all, even if you fail, you know it was heroically. You’ll know you tried and gave your best and you won’t have any regrets later on in the future.

Cuide da sua aparência

A primeira coisa que tem de fazer se quiser atrair alguém do sexo oposto é estar sempre no seu melhor.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that you should go get plastic surgery just to be more similar to top models from fashion magazines because that is not the only way to get someone’s attention.

You see, people in general are quite superficial, even though most would never admit that. I’m sure you have a great personality and a lot to offer but a tua paixão who still hasn’t had a chance to meet you can’t know that.

Por isso, para lhe darem pelo menos uma oportunidade e terem vontade de escavar sob as múltiplas camadas da sua personalidade, têm de ser atraídos primeiro pela sua aparência física.

Claro que, mais tarde, quando virem como é simpático, a sua aparência será a coisa menos importante.

No entanto, agora é importante. Afinal de contas, você mesmo sabe que tem de se sentir atraído por uma determinada pessoa para se interessar mais por ela.

Por isso, comece com uma boa higiene pessoal. Certifique-se de que toma sempre duche e que tem o cabelo limpo e penteado.

You don’t have to be dressed in branded clothes but they have to clean and ironed. Also, always dress according to the occasion and not as if you’ve put on the first thing that you spotted in your wardrobe.

Outra coisa importante é ter um perfume reconhecível que possa ajudar a sua paixão a lembrar-se de si.

It doesn’t have to be anything too strong but trust me, every time they sense that scent on someone else, they’ll think of you.

Seja positivo com eles

Ninguém gosta de pessoas mal-humoradas e o objeto do seu afeto não é diferente. Sim, eu sei que, tal como todos nós, também tens o direito de ter um dia mau de vez em quando.

Nevertheless, at least at first, do your best to be as positive as possible every time you’re around your crush. Smile every time you see them, make a funny comment to make them laugh and bring light into the room whenever you show up.

Be as easygoing and relaxed as you can. Don’t be a party pooper and if you have a chance to, propose fun and interesting activities where the two of you can bond.

Don’t put all of your focus on to winning this person over and try to put your feelings for them aside. Instead, become someone they enjoy hanging out with.

Esta abordagem ajudá-lo-á a libertar-se da pressão do que vai acontecer a seguir, ajudá-lo-á a deixar de ficar obcecado com cada pequeno pormenor e dar-lhe-á a oportunidade de ser o seu verdadeiro eu.

Don’t get trapped in the friendzone mas imagine que esse é o seu amigo com quem se sente à vontade e garanto-lhe que ele o seguirá.

I’m not saying that you should be a people pleaser and nod your head to everything they say just to make this person feel better but don’t argue about every little thing because that’s not the way to bring positive attention to yourself.

Don’t be a nervous drama queen who makes a fuss about everything, don’t drain their energy and don’t bring pessimism into their life.

Em vez disso, concentre-se em tornar-se alguém que pode sempre fazê-los sentir-se melhor, aconteça o que acontecer. Deixe-os pensar em si como a pessoa mais engraçada e divertida que já conheceram.

This way, you’ll not only improve their mood, but they’ll also connect the feeling of joy with you.

Enviar-lhes sinais de linguagem corporal

So, you’re trying to get this person to like you back—there is no doubt about that. However, at the same time, you don’t want to tell them how you feel straightforwardly.

Maybe you’re too shy to talk about your emotions, maybe you’re afraid of rejection or you’re waiting for them to make the first move.

Seja o que for que esteja em causa, o que importa é que tem de encontrar outra forma de lhes dar a conhecer a sua paixão.

Bem, a melhor maneira de o fazer é enviar o objeto do seu afeto sinais de linguagem corporal que têm mais do que uma vantagem.

First of all, you’ll intrigue them and represent a kind of challenge. They will never be certain whether they’re imagining things or you’re really sending them hints that you’re into them.

Also, you’ll have a chance to assess their feedback just by looking at their bodily and facial expressions.

Are they responding positively to the signs you’ve been sending or are they looking at you as a creep who is invading their personal space?

Another good thing about body language signs is that they save you from getting rejected. If you see that the other person isn’t digging your signals, you pull back and avoid the awkward conversation about them not liking you back.

Contacto visual

Uma das maiores verdades que existem é que os olhos são o espelho da alma. Por isso, a melhor forma de expressar os seus sentimentos à sua cara-metade é através dos seus olhos.

Para começar, tente manter contacto visual prolongado. Sempre que passar por eles, dê-lhes um olhar sensual e verifique-os.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to stare like a maniac or put all of your focus on their sexual attributes. Instead, look them directly in the eyes and wait to see whether they’ll look back.

Sorrir

While you’re maintaining deep eye contact, the important thing is to never take the smile off your face.

After all, staring at someone with a completely serious face is creepy; you don’t want them to get the impression that you want to pick a fight or something like that.

You don’t have to hysterically laugh but make sure your facial expressions send the message that you like what you’re seeing.

Enquanto faz tudo isto, preste atenção se a sua cara-metade está a olhar para si. O que é que os olhos dela lhe dizem?

Don’t lose all hope even if they look away while you’re staring at them. Maybe they’re just embarrassed and need more time to relax.

Toque acidental

The next step is to get your crush’s body used to yours and the way to do so is to accidentally touch them with every chance you get.

Claro que o mais importante aqui é não ultrapassar os limites, não invadir o espaço pessoal da pessoa e afastar-se no momento em que vir que a sua proximidade está a perturbar a sua paixão.

However, if that doesn’t happen, you can start by kissing them on the cheek or hugging them a little bit longer whenever you two greet.

When you’re making a point, hold their hand, put yours on their shoulder or knee when they say something funny or just hold a mão na cintura.

O jogo dos lábios

Queres que essa pessoa te beije, certo? Bem, nesse caso, tens de chamar a atenção para os teus lábios.

Accidentally bite your lower lip when you catch them looking at you or glance over at their lips in the middle of a conversation. Trust me—nothing says, “Kiss me,” more than this!

Estar perto deles

If you’re not brave enough to try and have physical contact with your crush, at least do your best to be as near them as possible.

Embora isto possa parecer irrelevante, na verdade aproxima-os mais e intensifica a vossa intimidade.

When you two are in the company of others, always grab an opportunity to sit next to them. When you’re standing together, your feet should be pointed at them.

Of course, these are all the signs you can follow if you want to see whether you’re making some significant progress.

If your crush is starting to do more and more of the things mentioned above, one thing is for sure: they’re beginning to like you back.

Be available…

Para que alguém goste de si, em primeiro lugar, tem de o conhecer. E para que isso aconteça, vocês os dois têm de passar algum tempo juntos.

That is exactly why you should be available to the person of your interest. You can call them to hang out if you don’t want to ask them on a primeiro encontromas se o convidarem para ir a algum lado, não se esqueça de aceitar.

More importantly, show them that you’re there and that they can count on you.

Be the first one to offer them a hand when they need it, the one who calls to check on them when they’re feeling bad and the one who helps them with their problems when they’re going through some hard times.

When the two of you are texting, respond quickly and show them that you find their conversation important. Answer the phone when they call and never act like they’re bothering you.

… but a little bit mysterious

No entanto, o truque é não ser demasiado disponível. De facto, adicione um pouco de mistério à sua personalidade.

I’m not saying that you should play mind games or send mixed signals here because that is immature and will only drag both of you into an endless circle from which you won’t be able to escape.

It will just be enough not to reveal everything about yourself right away.Of course, you’ll have to show your crush your true self and expose your traços de personalidade.

Don’t be guarded but always leave them wanting to find out more about your personal life.

This way, you’ll intrigue their imagination and become an object of their thoughts. They’ll want to know what’s hidden underneath the layers of your personality and have a desire to be the first one to get to the bottom of you.

Recordar pequenas coisas sobre eles

Uma das coisas que quase todas as pessoas adoram é quando a outra pessoa conhece alguns pormenores da sua vida.

I’m not saying that you should appear like a stalker and reveal all the intel you’ve gathered regarding this person through your mutual friends or redes sociais mas seria bom se te lembrasses de algo aparentemente pequeno mas realmente significativo para a tua paixão.

For example, surprise them by congratulating them on their birthday even though they’ve never told you the date, don’t fail to notice when they change their hairstyle and show them that you remember the name of their childhood friend they told you about ages ago.

Tudo isto irá mostrar-lhes o quanto se preocupa e o quanto são importantes para si.

More importantly, make this person realize that you notice them and their mood swings. Pay attention to their behavior and ask them if something’s wrong whenever you see that they’re feeling low.

Mostrar interesse pela sua vida

Another quality your crush is definitely looking for in their potential partner is the ability to listen. And when I advise you to listen to everything this person has to say, I’m not saying that you should just sit there quietly while they’re talking.

I’m telling you to become a good listener and their confidant in the real sense of these words. Show them that you’re devoted to everything they say and that they’re not boring you by blabbing about themselves.

Simplesmente, mostre interesse pela vida deles. Faça-lhes perguntas, mas tenha cuidado para não parecer demasiado intrometido e evite temas que possam ser demasiado pessoais ou sensíveis.

Deixe-os falar sobre os seus amigos, familiares, trabalho e passatempos.

Além disso, pode incluir perguntas sobre o seu passado amoroso, que o podem ajudar a saber mais sobre o seu estado de relacionamento e sobre o tipo de pessoas com quem costuma sair.

Of course, you won’t be rude and expect them to tell you all the details of their past romances and love life but you two can talk about your longest relationships, toughest factores de desempate e normas.

By redirecting the communication in this direction, you’re actually sending them a hint about the field of their life which you’re most interested in.

Todas estas informações podem ajudá-lo a perceber se os dois são potencialmente amantes compatíveis ou não.

Have you been idealizing this person just because you didn’t have a clue about them or do you like them even more, now that you’re getting to know them?

Esta pode ser também uma oportunidade para os dois descobrirem tudo o que têm em comum.

Maybe you can dig up some information about the object of your affection and find out more about their hobbies and things like that and then surprise them by talking about those things, as if you’re talking about your preferences.

However, don’t be passive in these conversations. Instead, talk to them about yourself as well.

After all, you don’t want them to conclude that you don’t have a life and that you don’t have anything to say.

Put in some effort…

Even though you don’t want to confess your feelings straightforwardly, you want this person to know how much they mean to you.

Por isso, é preciso encontrar a forma correcta de lhes dar a conhecer a profundidade das suas emoções.

It’s pretty simple; you have to put some effort into this entire story. Show this person that you take care of their well-being, that you want to make them feel good, that spending time with them matters to you.

Ajude-os também quando precisarem de ajuda, faça um gesto romântico which will knock them off of their feet and make them realize you’re worthy of their attention.

… but don’t try too hard

No entanto, o que é fundamental é que não esforçar-se demasiado ou.

Yes, I know that this balance is difficult to find but you need to understand that every person is different so you’ll simply have to sense the situation, follow your gut and go with the flow.

You see, when they like someone very much, many people want to please that person’s every need and they put all of their strength into winning this person over.

Bem, apesar de ser muito querido, a verdade é que pode ser contraproducente.

You don’t want to become this person’s maid or pet. They shouldn’t feel like you’ll always be there, patiently waiting for them for as long as they want.

Se fores demasiado duro com a tua paixão, ela vai começar a pensar em ti como um falhado chato que a sufoca.

It’s actually simple romantic math: When you give yourself to someone on a silver platter, they know that they don’t have to put up a fight into making you theirs so they stop finding you interesting right away.

Besides, putting all of your focus on one person is not good for your own emotional and mental health. As much as you like your crush, they’re not your entire world and you should never act as if they are.

Faça algo para que se sintam especiais

Usually, big, romantic gestures are reserved for couples only. However, if you’re wondering how to make someone fall in love with you, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you throwing them a little surprise.

Of course, I’m not advising for this to be a firework, a carta romântica or a plane flying above their house, writing, “I love you,” all over the sky. Instead, do something small but make sure to make this person feel special.

Basta fazer-lhe uma pequena surpresa de aniversário ou até mesmo memorizar qual é o seu chocolate preferido e comprá-lo para ele.

Seja o que for que faça, certifique-se de que é algo único e digno de ser recordado.

Elogiá-los

Who doesn’t like compliments? It doesn’t matter whether your crush is male or female—either way, they enjoy hearing something nice about themselves.Therefore, another way of making someone like you is complimenting them.

However, please, don’t be pathetic and don’t use typical compliments.

Don’t get me wrong—this doesn’t mean that you should praise their every move or applaud them when they’re clearly making a mistake because that would sound too dishonest and you would give the impression that you’re actually kissing their ass.

No entanto, fazer-lhes um doce elogio de vez em quando não o pode prejudicar.

These compliments don’t have to be only related to their looks. After all, you don’t want to appear superficial.

Em vez disso, concentre-se muito mais na sua beleza interior. Elogie a sua mente afiada, uma certa habilidade, capacidade de resolução de problemas, gosto musical ou sentido de humor.

All of this will help this person understand that you’re not just trying to entrar nas suas calças—they will see that you want something serious with them.

Pedir-lhes conselhos

Let’s be honest—all of us enjoy feeling important in someone else’s eyes. Well, if you’re trying to figure out how to get someone to apaixonar-se por tiUma das formas de o fazer é pedir-lhes conselhos.

Para além de aumentar o seu ego, isto também pode servir como uma oportunidade para ver se as vossas atitudes são compatíveis e semelhantes ou não.

Is this person telling you something you probably wouldn’t do in a million years or are they advising you to do something you would probably do without them?

After all, you’re not asking for the opinion of everyone you run into. Instead, you only do this with someone you appreciate and think fondly of.

Este facto, por si só, será prova suficiente para que essa pessoa perceba a importância que tem para si.

Seja o seu melhor eu

So, you’re a living human being made of flesh and blood. It is natural for you to have a set of flaws both you and everyone around you dislikes.

However, when you’re trying to attract someone, you won’t show all of your bad sides right away. Instead, you’ll be your best self in their presence.

No, this is not me telling you to pretend you’re someone you’re not or to change yourself for the sake of this potential relationship.

What I’m saying is that you should just put some effort into showing this special someone your most appealing sides.

Faça-os perceber o quanto você é uma pessoa carinhosa e amorosa e deixe-os ver um pouco de como seria a vida deles se decidissem partilhá-la consigo.

Show them that you’re one of a kind and that you’re nowhere else to be found. Show them your empatiaA sabedoria, a maturidade e a delicadeza.

To put things simply, in this phase, it is your job to convince this person that you’re boyfriend/girlfriend material, that you’re worthy of a chance and later on, of their love.

Mostre as suas capacidades de comunicação

Quando se quer conquistar alguém, é preciso estar armado com excelentes capacidades de comunicação.

Antes de mais nada, é preciso interessá-los a falar consigo, por isso, o melhor é procurar alguns iniciadores de conversa e frases de engate.

Besides being a good listener, become a great talker as well. Don’t be cheesy and don’t use the usual phrases they probably heard a million times before.

Quando surgir a oportunidade, provoque-os um pouco e faça-os pensar no que queria realmente dizer. Inclua alguma conversa sobre amor ou sexo apenas quando vir que tem um feedback positivo e apenas se o momento o permitir.

Entretanto, concentre-se em fazer algumas perguntas profundas que representem uma espécie de desafio para eles e os façam pensar.

Don’t engage in too much small talk and don’t make them feel as if they’re being interrogated—just let the conversation flow its natural course.

Lembre-se de que a sua função é evitar silêncios embaraçosos e melhorar a sua comunicação.

If you know you’ll be seeing this special someone but have absolutely no idea what to talk about with them, come up with a list of interesting topics that might amuse them.

Utilizar o humor nas conversas é sempre uma vantagem, mas é muito importante não exagerar. Tenha cuidado para não passar dos limites ou utilizar piadas demasiado vulgares, a menos que queira ser visto como imaturo ou pouco sério.

Don’t be judgmental and let them speak. Respect their opinion even if you disagree with it but don’t be scared of saying yours either.

Utilize as redes sociais a seu favor

As regras modernas de namoro trouxeram muitos obstáculos e problemas às relações românticas.

E embora a maioria diga que as redes sociais são um desses obstáculos, se jogar bem as suas cartas, podem ser o seu melhor aliado.

Even when you don’t know anything about the person of your interest and have no way of approaching them in person, you can always do the easiest possible thing—follow them or add them as a friend on some of your social media accounts.

Depois de aceitarem o seu pedido, gostar ou comentar a sua publicação actualizações ou fotografias.

Pode enviar-lhes uma mensagem privada sobre algo que tenham publicado, o que pode servir como um excelente quebra-gelo para uma comunicação posterior.

Also, if you’re too shy to approach this person face-to-face, this is the way to go. You have more time to think of a reply while you two are texting and they cannot see your nervousness from the other side of the screen.

Arranja um parceiro

You might find this step childish but the truth is that it has helped out a lot of people who didn’t have the courage to seal the deal on their own.

Don’t worry, your fear of approaching the opposite sex doesn’t make you weak and it has nothing to do with your age or experience; it is perfectly normal and it only means that you’re head over heels for someone.

If this is what you can relate to, your solution is to find yourself a wingman. I’m not saying that this person has to literally approach your crush and ask for their number, like in the movies.

No entanto, este deve ser o vosso amigo comum e alguém em quem ambos confiam incondicionalmente.

Yes, in this case, your wingman will be violating your crush’s trust but that will happen just because they’re aware of your feelings and want what’s best for both of you.

This is someone who will give you intel about your person’s romantic status, love life history and, most importantly, their opinion of you.

Are you making any progress? Are things going in your favor and are they starting to like you? Or do you repulse them and they can’t wait to get rid of you?

Get yourself a wingman and you’ll know!

Exigir respeito

Looking at all the steps above, it might seem like you should obey your crush at all costs. Well, even though winning them over is your final goal, it doesn’t make you submissive or less worthy in this situation.

Instead, the way to make someone like you is to demand respect. You won’t literally ask them to give it to you but from day one, you have to act as if you won’t tolerate any disrespect.

You’re a mature person who has a lot of self-respect, who appreciates and loves themselves and you want the same treatment from everyone else as well.

Just because you like this special somebody very much, it doesn’t mean you’ll put up with any of their crap to have them by your side.

O seu tempo, os seus amigos, os seus desejos e, acima de tudo, os seus sentimentos são importantes e não são de forma alguma menos importantes do que os deles.

Yes, you want them but that doesn’t mean that you’re ready to lose yourself completely just to have them.

Este passo é muito mais crucial do que se possa pensar. Para além de ser importante para o seu próprio sentido de autoestima e o respeito por si próprio, bem como a sua saúde mental e emocional, é também uma forma de a sua paixão a levar a sério e não tentar brincar consigo no futuro.

É uma forma de os desafiar e de os tornar mais interessados do que nunca. Uma forma de os fazer apaixonarem-se por si com a mesma intensidade com que se apaixonou por eles.

Seja aberto aos seus sentimentos

Finally, if you see that none of this works out, it’s time to be honest about your feelings.

Yes, I know that this is something you want to avoid but your confession won’t come out of the blue—you’ll do a lot of things which will both relax you and prepare the person of your interest for it.

You have to realize that some people simply don’t take the hint and need to be told things directly in order to truly understand them. And if your crush is like that, you have no other choice but to come clean.

Of course, this doesn’t have to be some huge, romantic love declaration. You won’t tell them that ama-os profundamente and can’t live without them because that is not the truth.

On the contrary, you can just say that lately you’ve started seeing them as more than a friend and that you would like to give it a shot.

After all, if you are scared of getting tongue-tied when you finally face them, you can always write yourself a little speech (which shouldn’t look rehearsed) and practice everything you want to tell them.

Talvez isto seja o que é preciso para que eles comecem a percebê-lo sob uma luz completamente nova e algo que os ajude a compreender que eles também gostaram de si durante todo este tempo sem sequer se aperceberem disso.

Let them think about your words and don’t pressure them to give you an answer right away.

They might be shocked by your confession, despite all the signals you’ve been sending, and need time to sort out their thoughts and feelings.

However, don’t wait forever. Agree on a deadline by which they have to give you a response and if they don’t contact you in that given period of time, everything is more than clear.

Whatever happens, remember to be proud of yourself for trying and please, don’t let the worst possible case scenario ruin your self-esteem.

On the other hand, if you do succeed, which you probably will, congratulations because you’ve managed to make your crush like you back.