Como flertar no Instagram e conseguir um encontro

Okay, let’s get real. We often use Instagram as a dating app. There, I said it! I am sorry, Mark Zuckerberg, it is what it is.

You sometimes find yourself stalking someone’s profile, analyzing their pictures and stories while trying to figure out how to talk to them. Well, you’re not alone.

This is a reality for many people, but don’t worry, I got your back! Just listen to me and vais dominar as tuas formas de entrar nas DMs deles e ficar lá. 

Sei que todo o conceito do Instagram pode ser um pouco complicado porque um passo em falso pode levar-nos a “seen land” ou, pior ainda, uma lista de bloqueio. 

No entantoAs minhas tácticas de sedução no Instagram garantiram-me um homem so I think I know what I’m talking about! But before we start, I have a question! What does your IG profile look like?

1. O seu perfil é uma janela para a sua vida

Try to look at your profile from someone else’s perspective and see if you would accept your request in their place. 

As primeiras impressões são sempre importantes e esta pode ser a sua única hipótese de chamar a atenção deles or a reply back. If you don’t have a profile picture of yourself, your bio is empty, and your profile is locked, don’t expect them to accept your request. 

Personally, when I get a request from someone with a profile like that, I don’t even think twice but decline it immediately. So make sure your profile looks attractive, and if they do accept your request, don’t like all of their pictures immediately just because you’re excited, take it slow.

2. Descontrair com os gostos

Calm down, I get you, you don’t know how to get their attention. Trust me, there are better ways to do it than attacking the like button. 

Don’t get me wrong. Liking a few of their recent photos is a great way to get noticed at first but também pode parecer irritante ou mesmo estranho. 

Já tive situações em que os rapazes gostavam de todas as minhas fotografias num espaço de poucos minutos e, atenção, eu tinha sempre uma grande coleção de publicações. Pior ainda seria se eles gostassem delas a meio da noite, escolhendo apenas as que publiquei enquanto estava na praia.

Honestly, it’s giving Joe Goldberg energy. Don’t be that guy that will end up in a girls’ group chat as a “perseguidor assustador à meia-noite”. Instead, play it cool, and if you wouldn’t bother someone like that when you meet them in person, then why do it online?

3. Age como se fosses na vida real

If you saw someone you like in public, would you approach them and start harassing them, saying inappropriate things? Well, let’s hope not! 

People can get weird on social media because they get too comfortable and give themselves more freedom. Don’t hide behind your profile and think you suddenly became someone else and then give completely different energy in person.

Lembre-se sempre que just because it’s an online world, it doesn’t mean it’s not real. Being genuine and respectful will take you further than pretending you are something you’re not.

I once went on a date with someone who seemed perfect over messages. However, when we finally met in person he was a weirdo and even attacked the waiter just because he didn’t put ice in his drink! Safe to say I was shocked and never went out with him again.

4. Don’t force things

The best flow is the natural flow and honestly, this goes for everything in your life. My friends and I would often try to figure out what is the logic behind someone who repeatedly sends you a follow request and just doesn’t give up.

Se o neguei ontem e 10 vezes antes, porque é que acha que mudei de ideias? Isto só te pode tornar mais repulsivoe não o contrário. 

O mesmo se aplica às mensagens. Deslizas para as DMs deles, mas eles deixam-te à vista ou só te dão respostas sem saída? Por favor, pegue o sinal. 

5. Palavras gentis podem abrir uma porta de ferro

Este é definitivamente o meu lema de vida. Pela minha experiência, e isto aplica-se a todos os aspectos da vida, palavras cuidadosamente escolhidas conseguem muitas vezes o que se pretende. Só precisa de saber como criá-los da forma correcta.

Foi assim que reservei um encontro com quem quisesse e acabei por me casar com um rapaz que conheci no IG!

I wouldn’t just react with a fire emoji on his selfie, I took it to the next level. I would wait for him to post something about things he did or loved and then take it as a chance to start a conversation.

“Omg! I didn’t know you also loved that TV show. It’s my favorite!” Something like this would always keep a conversation going for quite a while. It’s also proven that as pessoas estão mais dispostas a responder-lhe quando fazer-lhes uma pergunta.

So instead of only congratulating them for their achievement, ask them to tell you more about that experience. You can even ask for advice on something they’re good at. If people like something, then it must be talking about themselves.

Lembre-se sempre de keep it casual and don’t be too pushy. Pequenos erros podem custar-lhe muito. Pode parecer que é preciso estar atento a muitas coisas, mas a prática leva à perfeição!