4 razões pelas quais fazer uma pausa é igual ao fim de uma relação

Lately, taking a break from a relationship has become a common practice for couples. This way, technically you haven’t ended your relationship but you’re not a couple anymore either.

But, is it really possible to just “take a break”? Let’s hear what the experts have to say about the subject.

Fora da vista, fora da mente

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “out of sight, out of mind”. Well, let me tell you that this kind of saying actually is more than just an empty phrase.

É claro que há situações em que a ausência faz com que o coração fique mais feliz.

No entanto, há uma diferença entre escolher estar longe do seu ente querido e ser obrigado a viver nessas circunstâncias.

Basically, what I’m trying to tell you is that there is a huge possibility that you and your partner will apaixonar-se entre si durante este período.

São raros os casais que aproveitam este tempo para reconsiderar a sua relação e refletir sobre as coisas. De facto, a maioria acaba por descobrir como a sua vida de solteiro é fantástica.

Not only that: the time apart will give you both a chance to meet someone else. You don’t have to actually start a new relationship but you will certainly act like you’re single.

If nothing else, you’ll probably end up flirting with another person. Of course, this increases the risk of this person fascinating you and erasing your boyfriend from your mind.

Problemas pós-rutura no paraíso

Mesmo que você e o seu parceiro sobrevivam à rutura e decidam tentar de novo, seria demasiado otimista esperar a perfeição na sua relação.

In fact, it is likely that you’ll have to face numerous post-break troubles.

Whether you like it or not, there will be some inevitable trust issues you won’t be able to escape.

What did you both do while you weren’t together? How can you trust that you both remained faithful during this break?

On the other hand, if you agreed to act like you were single while you weren’t together, don’t think that you’ll be able to ignore this fact once you reconcile.

You’ll want to know who your partner dated. Did he sleep with other girls? Most importantly: did he start feeling something for them?

If the answer is yes, you’ll wonder whether the love he feels for you is even real. If you spent all of your time apart saudades deleComo é que ele se esqueceu de ti com tanta facilidade?

Running away from the problem doesn’t get you anywhere

Let’s be honest here: when you’re taking a break in your relationship, you’re actually running away from each other.

You and your boyfriend clearly don’t have the capacity to resolve your problems otherwise you would stay together until you find a solution.

Instead, you shut your eyes, bury your issues, and expect them to magically go away after some time. I’m sorry – but how exactly do you expect this to work?

Eu sei que supões que o tempo te trará uma certa clareza. Pensa que isso lhe dará a oportunidade de mudar a sua perspetiva.

Vêem-no como uma oportunidade para as paixões arrefecerem. Uma oportunidade para pensar bem nas coisas e tomar a decisão correcta sem que as emoções interfiram.

However, the bottom line is that these are all empty excuses. What you’re actually doing is running away from the problem and hoping it won’t chase you any further.

Well, I hate to be the one to break your heart but this approach won’t get you anywhere. Your issues and dilemmas will still be there afterward and they can’t be solved without healthy communication.

It’s an empty excuse

No fim de contas, as rupturas de relações não passam muitas vezes de desculpas. Normalmente, a pessoa que pede uma pausa já tem tudo planeado.

Se for o seu namorado a iniciar esta mudança, na maioria dos casos, isso significa que ele tem medo de lhe dizer a verdade.

Maybe he is afraid of how you’ll react and is scared of crushing your heart, so he’s masking his real intentions by asking for a break.

On the other hand, maybe he is the one who can’t accept that the end is near. It is possible that it’s easier for him to suggest taking a break than actually rutura convosco.

No entanto, tudo isto é uma questão de terminologia e de teoria. Existem algumas diferenças entre as interpretações, mas os significados são os mesmos.