Lately, taking a break from a relationship has become a common practice for couples. This way, technically you haven’t ended your relationship but you’re not a couple anymore either.
But, is it really possible to just “take a break”? Let’s hear what the experts have to say about the subject.
Out of sight out of mind
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “out of sight, out of mind”. Well, let me tell you that this kind of saying actually is more than just an empty phrase.
Of course, there are situations where absence makes the heart grow fonder.
However, there is a difference between choosing to be apart from your loved one and being obliged to live under those circumstances.
Basically, what I’m trying to tell you is that there is a huge possibility that you and your partner will fall out of love with each other during this period.
Rare are the couples who use this time to actually reconsider their relationship and think things through. In fact, most end up figuring out how amazing their single life is.
Not only that: the time apart will give you both a chance to meet someone else. You don’t have to actually start a new relationship but you will certainly act like you’re single.
If nothing else, you’ll probably end up flirting with another person. Of course, this increases the risk of this person fascinating you and erasing your boyfriend from your mind.
Post-break troubles in paradise
Even if you and your partner survive the break and decide to give things another go, it would be too optimistic to expect perfection in your relationship.
In fact, it is likely that you’ll have to face numerous post-break troubles.
Whether you like it or not, there will be some inevitable trust issues you won’t be able to escape.
What did you both do while you weren’t together? How can you trust that you both remained faithful during this break?
On the other hand, if you agreed to act like you were single while you weren’t together, don’t think that you’ll be able to ignore this fact once you reconcile.
You’ll want to know who your partner dated. Did he sleep with other girls? Most importantly: did he start feeling something for them?
If the answer is yes, you’ll wonder whether the love he feels for you is even real. If you spent all of your time apart missing him, how could he forget about you with such ease?
Running away from the problem doesn’t get you anywhere
Let’s be honest here: when you’re taking a break in your relationship, you’re actually running away from each other.
You and your boyfriend clearly don’t have the capacity to resolve your problems otherwise you would stay together until you find a solution.
Instead, you shut your eyes, bury your issues, and expect them to magically go away after some time. I’m sorry – but how exactly do you expect this to work?
I know you assume that time will bring you a certain clarity. You think that it will give you a chance to change your perspective.
You see it as an opportunity for the passions to cool off. An opportunity to think things through and to make the right decision without your emotions getting in the way.
However, the bottom line is that these are all empty excuses. What you’re actually doing is running away from the problem and hoping it won’t chase you any further.
Well, I hate to be the one to break your heart but this approach won’t get you anywhere. Your issues and dilemmas will still be there afterward and they can’t be solved without healthy communication.
It’s an empty excuse
At the end of the day, relationship breaks are often nothing more than excuses. Usually, the person asking for a break has it all figured out.
If your boyfriend is the one initiating this change, in most cases, it means he is just afraid to tell you the truth.
Maybe he is afraid of how you’ll react and is scared of crushing your heart, so he’s masking his real intentions by asking for a break.
On the other hand, maybe he is the one who can’t accept that the end is near. It is possible that it’s easier for him to suggest taking a break than actually breaking up with you.
However, all of this is a matter of terminology and theory. There are some differences between the interpretations but the meanings are the same.