Há uma enorme diferença entre lutar pelo amor e implorar por ele

Sometimes we get so consumed by this modern dating era that we simply get lost in it. Thanks to the mess going on in other people’s heads and in ours too, we tend to fail to distinguish right from wrong.

Perhaps, this is the main reason why we keep ending in toxic relationships or fighting for people who don’t actually deserve us.

Um dos maiores erros que cometemos é não percebermos a diferença entre lutar pelo amor e implorar por ele.

Poder-se-á dizer que existe uma linha ténue entre estas duas coisas, mas eu discordo.

When you’re fighting for love, it’s you who’s in charge. It’s you who’s taking the lead.

It’s you being confident enough to go after what you know you deserve and what you believe is worth your time.

O amor é uma parceria e são sempre precisos dois para dançar o tango. São sempre necessárias duas pessoas para amar.

Lutar por amor é igual a duas pessoas que trabalham em conjunto para ultrapassar as suas diferenças e resolver todos os problemas juntos. It’s two people taking responsibility for their roles in the relationship.

It’s always two people in it. If it’s only one who’s trying, then it’s not love—it’s torture.

Como é que se sabe se vale a pena lutar pela nossa relação? É simples. Ambos fazem o trabalho árduo e o trabalho pesado que é necessário para estar em sintonia com outro ser humano.

You’re never the only one carrying the whole weight. You’re not the only one dragging the whole relationship forward. Because what’s right will never need to be forced.

When you’re begging for love, it’s a sign you’re desperate. When you’re begging for love, you’re probably going after something that was never meant to be yours to begin with.

Because if it did, you wouldn’t have to chase after it.

Implorar por amor significa dançar sozinho a música que foi criada para ser dançada por um par.

Holding onto someone who doesn’t really want to be with you is like gripping sand. It will run through your fingers anyway.

If you have to beg for love, then the person you’re going after isn’t capable of loving you the way you deserve. If you’re chasing someone, it means they’re running away from you.

And if this is the case, then no matter what you do, you’re not going to be their priority. You’re never gonna get their attention, their time or their love.

You’ll just be bending over backwards for nothing.

Never allow your fear of losing a person commit you to someone who’s not good for you. And a person whom you have to beg for love is one of those.

If you have to beg someone for love or to stay in your life, it’s a clear sign they don’t belong there.

Always remember that when one door won’t open no matter how hard you push or pull, it’s locked for you and there isn’t anything on the other side for you.

A pessoa errada faz-nos implorar por atenção, afeto, amor e compromisso. A pessoa certa dá-nos estas coisas porque nos ama.

See, if someone wants you, you’ll be their primeira escolha without even asking for it. They’ll be the ones to fight for your love instead of making you beg for theirs.

You shouldn’t have to force someone to want to be with you—that’s not how love should work.

When someone is right, you’ll feel it. They won’t make you feel miserable and they won’t hold you at arm’s length.

Tu sabes, it’s okay to fight for someone who loves you but it’s not okay to fight for someone to love you. Saber a diferença.

Instead of wasting your life begging for love that isn’t meant to be yours, always have enough self-respect to know that the world is too big and you have too much to offer.

Lembra-te que mereces o tipo certo de amor, não aquele que tens de implorar. Que esta seja a tua estrela-guia quando começares a pensar se deves tentar outra vez ou afastar-te.