24 jogos mentais mais comuns que as mulheres fazem com os homens
Embora normalmente se recusem a admiti-lo, a verdade é que as mulheres jogam jogos. De facto, na maioria dos casos, fazem-no com mais frequência do que os homens.
This doesn’t mean that all women are manipulative. In fact, most mind games women play on men are actually directed towards making you chase them even harder or making you commit.
However, despite their intentions, if you don’t know much about these jogos mentais, you can easily be tricked into doing something you don’t want.
That’s why we’ve decided to let you know about the most common mind games women play on men.
I’m sure you’ve heard about hard to get games. This is a set of tactics many women use when they want you to try a little bit harder to make them yours.
1. “I won’t look at you”
The hard to get mind games women play on men usually start even before you actually get in touch with a certain girl. It all begins with the “I won’t look at you” stage of your flirting.
When you meet a woman you still don’t know, the first contact you have is usually through the eyes.
Tenta-se fazer contacto visual prolongado e fazer o seu melhor para descobrir se ela gosta de si ou não com base no seu aspeto.
No entanto, isto é muito mais fácil do que parece. Na verdade, a maioria das raparigas utilizará este contacto visual para brincar consigo.
Maybe she’ll look at you at first but as soon as she sees you staring at her, she’ll probably look away.
Naturally, at this point you don’t know what to think: does she like you or did you just misinterpret her initial look?
Well, in this scenario, there is a possibility of the girl being shy. Maybe she is too embarrassed to look at you directly or is afraid that she’ll blush once you figure out that she is indeed flirting with you.
Por outro lado, existe uma possibilidade ainda maior de que esta rapariga esteja realmente a provocar-te.
She simply doesn’t want to be perceived as too available and she sees herself as a female character who is always being chased by men.
2. “I won’t respond to your texts”
I’m sure there isn’t a guy out there who hasn’t struggled with a thing called delayed responses while hitting on a girl – or even when they have already started dating.
In fact, most women act like they have this timer installed in their brains. According to them, there is a specific time frame in which they’re allowed to respond to a guy’s text – even if they like him.
It’s not unusual for a girl to turn off her mobile phone and only get back to you hours later.
When you’re texting a woman who behaves like this, it’s normal to wonder if she is interested or not.
Is she just being polite when she answers your texts every now and then or she is interested but doesn’t want you to see how crazy she is for you?
Well, that is exactly what this woman wants you to think. She doesn’t want you to be certain of her intentions and she wants you to spend some time trying to figure her out.
3. “I won’t accept your date invitations”
This might be a new one for you: most girls won’t accept your date invitation the first time you ask them out. As a man, this probably makes no sense but it is actually very common female behavior.
After all, if you like someone, you are more than happy to go out with them. However, many girls’ brains don’t function like that.
In fact, for them it’s important to act like they’re hard to get. So, many girls will turn you down the first time you ask them out on a date just to see if you really want to see them.
São eles teste you to see whether you’ll give up on the first obstacle or you’ll be more persistent or ask them out again.
Nevertheless, this is where you’ll have to be extra wise and see the subtle differences between a girl who is turning you down because she really doesn’t want to go out on a date with you, and a girl who is sending you a hint to ask her again.
É complicado, eu sei.
Pay attention to her answer. Is she saying “no” without much explanation and without leaving the possibility of seeing you some other time?
Nesse caso, detesto ter de o dizer, mas ela provavelmente não está interessada e seria melhor para si não levar as coisas mais longe.
Por outro lado, se ela propuser um adiamento ou disser que gostaria de sair consigo quando o conhecer melhor, tem certamente uma oportunidade com ela.
4. “I’m not so interested”
Let’s be straight about one thing: a girl can be head over heels for you but she’ll rarely show it to you directly.
In fact, most women think that it’s a guy’s job to chase them and this is exactly what they’re trying to accomplish by pretending to be not so interested.
After all, they’ve seen it in movies and read about it in books. All female characters are chased by these strong men while they have second thoughts about their relationship.
Therefore, don’t expect some big love declarations from a woman in the initial stage of dating.
Many girls think that saying simple things such as “I like you” or “I’m interested in you” are out of hand and will make them look desperate.
In fact, they’ll usually try and find a balance between showing you that they’re interested but not too interested.
5. O jogo da espera
When a girl is playing hard to get, she’ll make you wait. First of all, she’ll make you wait on her text responses and on her calling you back.
After that, once you finally arrange a date, she’ll probably be late. This waiting game is another way of her testing you: will you walk away or will you wait for her to show up?
Além disso, a maioria das raparigas fá-lo-á esperar por qualquer tipo de afeto ou contacto físico.
A woman who plays games won’t kiss you right away and any bedroom activity will be postponed, even though she probably wants the same things as you.
Claro que, quando se trata deste tipo de espera, a última coisa que deve fazer é ultrapassar os seus limites.
Show her that you find her attractive and that you’re dying to kiss or hug her but respect her personal boundaries unless you want to be perceived as a creep.
– Passive aggressive games
Women are generally not abusers. They’re rarely aggressive or violent.
No entanto, o seu poder reside na sua capacidade de ser agressivo passivo. Esta é uma prática que os ajuda a evitar o confronto direto.
It’s the habit of indirectly expressing their thoughts, feelings, and desires.
6. “I’m not angry”
Unlike men, in most cases, a girl won’t tell you that she’s angry or upset about something you did.
De facto, mesmo quando lhe pergunta diretamente se está tudo bem, é pouco provável que ela seja honesta e provavelmente mentirá que está tudo em perfeita ordem, o que está longe de ser verdade.
Sim, seria muito mais fácil se ela lhe dissesse o que se passa, para que pudessem discutir o assunto de uma forma madura e, eventualmente, encontrar uma solução para o vosso problema.
However, women want their men to be mind readers. This girl will expect you to magically know what’s wrong without her having to tell you – and then make things right using that same magic.
Basically, she wants you to be aware of your mistakes on your own without her having to explain herself. I know that this is extremely difficult to understand for guys but sadly, that’s how the other sex works.
7. “You can do whatever you want”
Quando uma rapariga te diz para fazeres o que quiseres, NÃO FAÇAS O QUE QUISERES, em circunstância alguma.
Trust me – this is one of the biggest and most common traps women will try to use.
You’ll probably find yourself in this situation when you’re asking her for a rain-check for your date so you can go out with your guy friends, or when you’re wondering if she’ll be bothered by you having coffee with your ex girlfriend.
Your girl will never say “no” to these requests. She doesn’t want to appear to be a naggy, jealous wife who controls every move you make.
Instead, she’ll probably tell you to make a decision on your own and to do as you please. However, this is not an authorization on her part.
In fact, it is nothing but a test that many guys fail. You think that she is perfectly okay with you doing what you want and you continue with your plans, assuming that she doesn’t mind.
Nevertheless, at the first occasion, she’ll rub this in your face. You’ll see that she wasn’t happy with your choice and she’ll make sure you realize it one way or another.
Don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying that you should blindly obey your girl’s wishes.
I’m just trying to prepare you for the consequences of your actions and trying to make you understand the real meaning hidden behind her words.
8. O tratamento silencioso
Outro dos jogos que as mulheres fazem com os homens é o chamado tratamento silencioso. Sabes, aquele comportamento feminino quando ela te ignora ou te dá respostas de uma palavra às tuas perguntas?
Well, this one is pretty similar to the “I’m not angry” game. In both cases, your girl will act angry but will deny feeling like that.
In fact, she’ll probably use irony and sarcasm while talking to you. She might try insulting you indirectly or she’ll just turn off her cell phone and decline your calls.
Basically, she’ll do anything besides actually telling you what’s wrong. This is another case in which you’re expected to use your magician skills and read her mind.
Ou pode simplesmente esperar que ela ganhe juízo e esteja pronta para falar consigo como um adulto. A escolha é toda tua!
9. Não lhe dar a oportunidade de pedir desculpa
Quando se comete um erro, a ordem natural dos acontecimentos é dizer que you’re sorry to the person you’ve harmed.
However, many women won’t give you the chance to apologize to them.
In fact, they’ll probably tell you that they don’t need your apologies and that you saying that you’re sorry means nothing.
Bem, dar-lhes ouvidos e não pedir perdão é um grande erro. De facto, todas as raparigas esperam que peça desculpa, apesar do que ela diz.
However, what most men don’t know is that saying that you’re sorry is not enough.
Instead, you have to actually show it, and your actions have to reflect your words if you don’t want them to end up sounding empty.
Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that you should form a habit of apologizing all the time, especially for the things you didn’t do.
10. Pretending she’s not jealous
When you like a girl, it’s normal to get jealous of other guys around her.
It doesn’t mean that you’ll become a maníaco por controlo who will cage her and keep her just for yourself, but it wouldn’t be normal if you felt nothing when you see her around another man who might represent a threat to your relationship or your place in her life.
Bem, é aqui que as raparigas funcionam quase da mesma forma que os rapazes. Por isso, não há dúvida sobre uma coisa: se uma rapariga gosta de si, vai ter ciúmes até um certo ponto.
However, most women won’t admit this, even if their life depends on it as that would be proof of their feelings for you, which is something they’re trying to hide at all costs.
In fact, they’ll pretend that they don’t care who you see, where you go, who you’re texting, and if you’re flirting with someone else.
11. “It’s not you, it’s me”
How many times have you heard this empty phrase? I don’t think there’s a man out there who has never been told the infamous words “It’s not you, it’s me.”
Well, let me tell you a big secret: in a girl’s head, it’s always you. Even if she doesn’t want to tell you, there is a reason for her losing interest or dumping you.
Of course, there is also a chance that she simply doesn’t like you enough to actually be with you. Maybe she thinks she can do better or perhaps there is another guy she’s chosen over you.
12. Retenção de afeto
Another popular form of passive aggressive behavior is something known as “withholding affection”. This is a mind game women play to emotionally blackmail and manipulate you.
Quando uma rapariga está a tentar marcar uma posição ou quer que a persiga mais, ela retém o afeto.
She wants you running after her like a little puppy, since she is convinced that, as a man, you’re dependent on physical touch.
– Hot and cold games
Jogar jogos quentes e frios muitas vezes leva a que os homens não saibam qual é a sua posição.
If you’ve ever found yourself in a situation where you had absolutely no clue what a girl wanted from you or whether she was even interested or not, she was probably playing these games, without you even noticing.
13. Amar-te vs. ser indiferente
Um dos jogos mais comuns que as mulheres fazem com os homens é aquele em que o deixam sem saber quais são os seus verdadeiros sentimentos.
When you’re trapped in this kind of game, the girl you’re into will probably bomba de amor you at first. In the beginning, she will act like she’s too good to be true.
She will behave like you’re the man she’s spent her entire life waiting for. She will treat you like her Prince Charming.
Esta rapariga vai enviar-lhe mensagens de texto a toda a hora, vai aceitar os seus convites para sair, vai telefonar-lhe para sair e pode até ir ao ponto de o apresentar aos amigos e à família.
She will probably tell you that she loves you and if she doesn’t say those exact words, she will definitely act like she does.
However, as soon as she sees that you’re hooked, she’ll change. All of a sudden, she’ll start acting indifferent and there will be no sign of the girl you used to know.
Just like that, she’ll become too busy to see you, she’ll stop putting you first, she won’t initiate communication, and she’ll start treating you like her last resort.
Naturally, when this starts to happen, you’ll assume that she’s lost interest with time.
You’ll be convinced that she’s fallen out of love with you and after a few initial tries to revive the flame between you two, you’ll want to give up on this girl.
However, that’s when she’ll go to being her old self. She’ll sense that she’s losing you and she’ll start to love you again.
Before you know it, you’ll find yourself trapped in an endless cycle of this girl playing her hot and cold mind games.
In that process, you’ll fall madly in love with her, which is exactly what she wanted all along.
Not only that: you’ll also be under her complete control. Without even being aware of it, you’ll be ready to do whatever it takes just to prevent her entering her “cold phase” once more.
14. Envio de sinais contraditórios
Apesar de os homens serem frequentemente acusados de enviar sinais contraditóriosA verdade é que a maioria das raparigas são campeãs desta disciplina.
De facto, uma das tácticas mais comuns que as mulheres utilizam para o deixar louco por elas são estas mensagens ocultas que tem dificuldade em descodificar.
Já alguma vez esteve numa situação em que uma rapariga tem claramente ciúmes de outras mulheres na sua vida, mas ela própria se recusa a dar-lhe uma oportunidade?
Where she tells you that she’s been dying to see you but can’t make it every time you invite her on a date?
Have you ever been in a situation where a girl’s actions don’t match her words? Where she doesn’t let you move on but doesn’t want to be with you either?
Well, in that case, my friend, you’re in the trap of a woman’s mixed signals.
You spend most of your time dissecting everything this girl does or tells you and before you know it, she’s becomes the only person you think of.
– Making you jealous
Nenhuma mulher quer estar numa relação com um homem possessivo ou controlador. No entanto, o que eles raramente admitem é que gostam de a ver um pouco ciumenta.
In fact, a certain amount of jealousy often serves as proof that you’re really into them. Therefore, girls will sometimes try to fazer-te ciúmes de propósito, só para obter uma reação.
15. Comparar-te com o ex dela
Uma rapariga que esteja a tentar fazer-lhe ciúmes trazendo à baila as suas relações anteriores nunca o fará diretamente.
She’ll never say “My ex was better than you” or “I loved my ex more than I love you”.
However, she’ll constantly compare you to him in subtle ways. She’ll mention the romantic gestures and the surprises he made for her, she’ll casually talk about his presents and the attention he gave her.
Existem duas opções neste cenário.
Na primeira, a rapariga coloca o seu ex num pedestal. Está sempre a dizer que a sua relação com ele era perfeita.
Se isto é algo com que se identifica, deixe-me dizer-lhe que ela está provavelmente a exagerar. Na verdade, ela está a idealizar o seu romance passado para estabelecer um padrão que espera que você atinja.
Ela quer que, inconscientemente, comece a competir com o seu ex. Quer que lhe compre coisas melhores e que a trate com ainda mais carinho do que ele fazia.
On the other hand, if she is talking trash about her ex, it’s her way of sending you a message. This way, she’s actually warning you of the type of behavior she won’t tolerate in your relationship.
However, this is also a form of manipulation. When you hear all of this, you’ll do your best not to repeat this guy’s mistakes and prove to her that not all men are the same.
16. Showing you that you’re replaceable
Uma rapariga que está a tentar fazer-te ciúmes fará tudo o que estiver ao seu alcance para te mostrar que podes ser facilmente substituído.
Sim, ela gosta de ti, mas pode encontrar outro tu num minuto.
No entanto, uma mulher inteligente nunca lho dirá abertamente, pois sabe que isso seria rude e inapropriado.
Nevertheless, she’ll make sure you’re perfectly aware of this fact at all times so you never take her for granted.
First and foremost, she’ll casually mention all the guys who are hitting on her. Of course, she’ll convince you that she remains immune to their courtship but the point is that she has other options.
She might even tell you that one of her exes is going out of his way to make up with her. She’ll point out that only now has he realized what he lost.
Tudo isto tem um objetivo: esta rapariga quer que se torne medo de a perder. Além disso, ela quer avisá-lo para ser suficientemente sábio para ver o seu valor antes de sentir a sua ausência.
17. Namoriscar com outros homens
Flirting with other guys in your presence is something girls will do, especially if they feel that they’re not getting enough attention from you.
Esta é mais uma das estratégias que utilizam para vos mostrar que há outros peixes no mar.
A girl will do this if you aren’t exclusive or even if you are in a labelled relationship.
When you try to confront her about this, she’ll tell you that flirting is not cheating or she’ll try to convince you that you’re imagining things.
Reagir a ela namoro in the right way is not easy. If you stay silent about it, she’ll start doing it even more since in reality she wants a reaction.
On the other hand, if you tell her that you’re bothered by her behavior, you’re exposing your vulnerabilities to her.
This way, she’ll probably flirt with someone every time she wants to provoke you or hurt your feelings.
18. Utilizar as redes sociais para provocar ciúmes
Nos encontros modernos, as plataformas de redes sociais são uma parte importante de qualquer relação romântica. Por isso, também dá à sua namorada uma oportunidade fantástica de o deixar com ciúmes.
This is especially the case if we’re talking about your ex-girlfriend.
After all, she doesn’t need to have any physical contact with you to make you jealous – it’s more than enough to post an Instagram story with some other guy or to ask her friend to deixar um comentário por baixo da sua fotografia.
If you ever find yourself in this situation, don’t think that she found someone else immediately after your breakup.
Provavelmente, ela só está a tentar fazer com que vás ter com ela.
Ela quer que reajas e que tenhas medo que ela siga em frente.
Ela espera que você a procure e quer voltar a estar com ela, mas recusa-se a dar o primeiro passo para uma reconciliação.
19. Sair com outros homens
Technically, when you’re not in a labeled, committed, relação saudável, you both have the right to date other people. Well, that’s exactly what this girl uses to make you jealous.
De facto, ela faz questão de o avisar que ainda está na piscina dos encontros.
Quando uma rapariga menciona os seus outros encontros ou leva outros rapazes aos locais onde espera vê-lo, saiba que ela está a fazê-lo de propósito.
– Playing the victim
Jogar a carta da vítima é também um dos jogos mentais mais comuns das raparigas. De facto, elas utilizam inúmeras tácticas que os rapazes desconhecem para se fazerem passar por inocentes em todas as situações.
20. Lágrimas
When a woman doesn’t get what she wants or when things don’t go her way, she’ll go straight to using the proven method most guys immediately fall for: crying.
After all, who can remain immune to an innocent girl’s tears?
Bem, tenho de rebentar a sua bolha e dizer-lhe que muitas raparigas podem chorar a pedido.
She knows that you’ll forgive her or that you’ll give her what she wants because no man wants to be the reason for his girlfriend’s tears.
Sadly, in some cases, her crying is nothing but a form of manipulation. It’s her game and a way for her to play with your head.
21. You’re always guilty
Outro jogo mental que as mulheres fazem é o da culpa. De alguma forma, acabamos sempre por ser culpados por tudo o que acontece na nossa relação.
A girl who is into playing games will rarely take responsibility for her words or actions. Even when she admits that she’s made a mistake, she’ll turn the tables and accuse you of provoking her.
Either way, you’re the bad guy of the story. You did something to hurt her feelings, you are the one who caused her dor de cabeça, and you’re the one who caused problems between you two.
No matter what happens, you’re always the one who ends up apologizing. Not only that: you’re also always the one who feels guilty.
Se isto continua a acontecer na sua relação, deixe-me dizer-lhe que esta rapariga entrou na sua cabeça sem que o saiba.
It’s practically impossible for you to be in the wrong all the time. A healthy relationship is a two way street and it’s time for her to take her share of responsibility as well.
22. Trazer o seu passado para a mesa
Quando uma rapariga te diz que ela não está emocionalmente disponível, she’ll probably use her past as justification.
She’ll tell you that she’s been hurt and suffered from heartache more times than she can count and that consequently, she’s lost her trust in men.
She’ll probably tell you that she is too scared to open up to you, and that she is afraid that you’ll take advantage of her and abandon her when she needs you the most.
Nobody’s arguing that this girl was treated badly in the past. However, that is not an excuse for her nasty behavior in the present.
After all, you didn’t do anything wrong so why should you be the one paying for the debts left by her exes? Why should you suffer the consequences of their actions?
I won’t argue with the fact that she’s been hurt. However, I’m begging you not to allow this fact to become a weapon for her to use against you, nor see it as a justification for her bad behavior towards you.
– Using you
Quando gostamos de uma rapariga, temos a necessidade de a proteger e de a manter segura. Muitas vezes, isso inclui ajudá-la.
However, you have to be careful not to cross the line and not to find yourself in a situation where she’ll use your kind intentions and take advantage of you.
23. Fingir-se desamparado
As mulheres são o sexo mais fraco de acordo com os papéis históricos de género.
No entanto, quando uma rapariga se preocupa com a igualdade, fingir que está desamparada e pedir a sua orientação na vida é absolutamente fora de ordem.
However, this is exactly what most girls do. They use you and trick you into thinking that they can’t make it without you, even though that couldn’t be further from the truth.
If your girl is acting this way, she’s actually playing with your ego. She wants you to feel like a big, macho man and tough guy near her.
She is giving you an opportunity to take over the role of an alpha male, so you feel important when you’re with her.
24. Pedir favores
Pedir favores é outro dos jogos que as mulheres fazem com os homens.
Uma rapariga de quem gostes vai implorar-te para a ajudares nas mudanças, para lhe dares uma mãozinha em casa, para lhe mudares o pneu furado, para tratares do carro dela e para te tornares o seu faz-tudo pessoal.
At first, you’ll feel flattered by the fact that ela confia em si. She clearly sees that she can rely on you and you’re glad that she counts on you.
However, if you look at things closely, you’ll see that she is not returning your favors. Most of the time, she is actually taking advantage of your kindness and is using you as a doormat.
