Qual é o objetivo da vida? Dicas para encontrar o seu objetivo
Qual é o objetivo da vida?
Or a slightly more unsettling version: What’s the point of life if we’re going to die?
Já alguma vez teve aquele momento na vida em que acordou e fez a si próprio esta pergunta?
Acontece normalmente quando a vida se torna difícil. Algumas pessoas são naturalmente inclinadas a pensar no sentido da vida, enquanto outras só pensam nele quando confrontadas com momentos de mudança de vida.
Either way, I’m almost certain that everyone has thought about it at some point.
It’s a difficult question with no easy answer but that’s why it’s even more important to search for it – so that’s what I did. After some thorough thinking this is the best I could come up with:
O objetivo da vida é preenchê-la com um propósito. Quando temos um objetivo, temos uma razão para viver, o que faz com que o simples facto de viver seja o objetivo principal.
I hope this is making sense to you but if it doesn’t, let me explain.
Human beings come to this world as small helpless creatures emerging from the safest place imaginable – a mother’s womb.
Imaginem que o espaço macio, quente e autossustentável em que habitámos durante nove meses nos é retirado.
All of a sudden we’re pulled out of it into the cold and sterile hospital building with weird noises and blinding lights.
When you think about it that way it definitely explains why babies cry when they’re being born, doesn’t it?
But did you ever think about how weird and almost fallible it is that you don’t remember that moment at all?
The fact that you don’t remember the part of seu vida que já experimentou?
Pessoalmente, acho estranho que comecemos a recordar a nossa vida a partir de um determinado momento e o resto seja apenas uma confusão nebulosa.
It’s even weirder that almost all of our memories are an altered reality, but that’s another story.
Esta introdução foi feita para dizer isto: Os bebés são criaturas conscientes sem conhecimento de si próprios.
Estão imersos na realidade, sem regras. Tabula rasa. Só mais tarde na vida é que lhes são impostas regras.
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Isso faz-me pensar sobre o que somos sem as regras do mundo exterior, uma vez que começamos como um mundo interior.
O que é que acontece à consciência humana quando o exterior e o interior entram em conflito? É a isso que chamamos vida?
Se assim for, qual é o sentido da vida?
I’m no philosopher nor theologist but I am a curious human being and I feel like that gives me the right to speak on this matter.
I’ve dabbled a little in religion, different philosophies like existentialism, even nihilism, and anything else that grabbed my attention but none of them gave me an answer I was looking for.
Tudo isto levou-me à minha próxima conclusão: There’s no universal answer because experiences are individual.
The purpose of life is individual. Finding meaning is closely attached to what we think meaningful life is. For one person it’s their loved ones, for another it’s attaining wealth.
It’s not surprising we so often don’t understand each other when life’s meaning depends on the circumstances of our lives that we’re living in the physical world but that we’re processing internally as no one can really see what’s inside another person’s mind.
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In words of Anaïs Nin: “There is not one big cosmic meaning for all; there is only the meaning we each give to our life, an individual meaning, an individual plot, like an individual novel, a book for each person.”
Neste momento, existem 7,8 mil milhões de pessoas na Terra, o que significa 7,8 mil milhões de experiências diferentes.
The fact that we’re now more than ever exposed to seeing the lives of others doesn’t help with the confusion.
We’re constantly bombarded with other people’s thoughts, habits, point of view, and what not and it’s not unusual to be confused about your own purpose or even mistake it for someone else’s.
In fact, seeing someone else doing supposedly well in life often makes us feel like we’re falling behind and that’s just what makes things worse.
Do I even need to mention how that’s usually done through painfully staged content on social media?
Life in the 21st century is hectic. It’s much more hectic than it was in centuries gone by and I’m afraid to think what will happen to future generations.
There’s an obsession for meaning and alarming meaninglessness at the same time, and that’s what leads me to the next question:
Será que pensar no objetivo nos afasta do objetivo?
“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” – Albert Camus
Na minha humilde opinião, normalmente é assim.
If anything, we know we’re, generally speaking – limited.
We’re not physically equipped to survive on our own like most animals and we’re not smart enough or either spiritually or technologically advanced enough to grasp that something we’re always striving for, that something beyond the reason and senses.
As únicas coisas que temos são a razão e a fé. Mesmo as pessoas não religiosas precisam de ter fé para se levantarem de manhã e fazerem o seu trabalho.
It doesn’t have to be faith in the supernatural because it’s enough just to make plans for the future. That in itself is a sign of faith.
Sabendo isto, procurar ativamente o objetivo apenas com pensamento about it seems futile. It usually doesn’t lead to a better life but instead causes frustration.
It heightens pressure and makes you go into panic mode thinking you HAVE to do this and that in order to live a life worth living by someone else’s standards.
Correndo o risco de parecer demasiado metafísico, tenho de dizer que listening to your inner being without obsessively thinking about life’s meaning é muito mais produtivo.
It’s just about living life, experiencing trial and error, and pushing yourselves outside of your comfort zone.
There’s no magical thought that will change your life because life is lived by taking action and living in the present moment.
Relax, nobody knows what the heck they’re doing either
“Accepting the absurdity of everything around us is one step, a necessary experience: It should not become a dead end. It arouses a revolt that can become fruitful.” – Albert Camus
When you feel like you’re lost in life just think of this:
We’re four-limbed creatures that live on a giant ball filled with water that’s spinning in the middle of something we call espaço, where there’s not enough air to breathe or to scatter light, and sound can’t be transmitted yet it’s not empty.
It’s pretty bizarre.
What’s even more bizarre is the fact that we care about so many things while virtually knowing nothing about our own existence.
Yes, we have come a long way, science gives us explanations of how things work but we still don’t know why we exist in the first place.
There’s no manual for life. Everybody is – at the core – on their own.
Nobody knows what they’re doing.
I remember when it dawned on me that adults aren’t as knowledgeable about life as I thought they were.
In fact, it seems to me they’re faking adultness and just sort of winging it through life while pretending they have everything under control.
All of this can be terrifying or comforting, that’s up to you.
Penso que a vida humana é excecional, independentemente do seu significado.
The world made us believe that there’s no point in life if we’re not doing something BIG, something that will change the world and people’s lives.
Esse algo é, por exemplo, ficar rico ou famoso ou alcançar a iluminação espiritual.
A realidade é que as pessoas raramente fazem algo grande de acordo com os padrões da sociedade.
Don’t get carried away with the ideas that you have to achieve something like that to fulfill your life purpose, because you don’t.
If stuff like that really was the meaning of life, 90% of people would be severely depressed. It’s okay to strive to achieve your goals but you shouldn’t mistake them for the meaning of life.
Brace yourself: Life’s full of ups and downs
“If there is meaning in life at all, then there must be meaning in suffering.” – Viktor Frankl
Life is a journey without a map. We’re blind to what’s in front of us.
Para o fazermos com sucesso, temos de aceitar as coisas más do caminho.
As polaridades fazem parte da vida. Desde o início dos tempos, as pessoas têm falado sobre o bem e o mal, tentando descrever todas as nuances da vida e extrair o significado das coisas que as rodeiam.
When something bad happens we’re naturally inclined to start reexamining our life’s meaning.
Por exemplo, a morte dos nossos entes queridos, doenças, separações e outras coisas que representam uma perda de algo valioso que dava sentido à nossa vida.
These things trigger our sense of self and our purpose in life. We’re faced with the loss of meaning and it’s hard to find it while we’re spiraling down the whirl of despair and loss.
A luta leva-nos a procurar respostas e, muitas vezes, procuramos soluções num objetivo mais elevado. No entanto, por vezes, esse objetivo superior não é mais do que continuar a viver dia após dia.
Things will change, they will improve, you’ll look back at them and know it all had to happen.
Don’t compare your life journey to others
“Uniqueness lies in not comparing oneself to others.” – Raheel Farooq
As I said earlier, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing your life to the lives of other people when we’re constantly looking at their lives.
Parece que algumas pessoas têm a vida facilitada, enquanto outras têm a vida difícil.
A chave é compreender que se algo tem um certo aspeto, it doesn’t mean it really is. Everyone is fighting their own battle.
As pessoas mais divertidas do mundo estão deprimidas, as pessoas mais pobres do mundo estão mais felizes.
Don’t compare yourself to others because your inner world isn’t the same as everyone else’s. Your personal journey is different to everyone else.
Comparar é como dizer I’m never enough to ourselves. That’s simply not true. You’re enough as you are. You just need to accept that you’re not perfect and know that no one else is perfect either.
It’s great to take inspiration from other people and look for guidance in things they do and say, but the same things that work for them don’t have to work for you.
Don’t listen to others when it comes to decisions in your own life. They don’t know what you know about yourself.
People underestimate and overestimate each other all the time. They don’t have your experience, they don’t know what you’re capable of or what your purpose is.
O objetivo é profundamente íntimo e pessoal.
If someone disagrees with the way you live your life – know that it has nothing to do with you as long you’re not endangering the lives of others.
Whatever they say is their opinion and nothing else. An opinion is not a fact. It’s just perspective and not the truth.
Letting go of the need for approval is hard for many people because that’s how we learn to ganhar amor, apesar de dizerem que o amor deve ser incondicional.
There’s no objective rating scale that allows another person to judge you. Nobody knows what you’ve been through.
No entanto, continuamos a medir a nossa autoestima com base na aprovação dos outros e isso torna-nos profundamente infelizes.
We can’t be happy if there’s always something unattainable we long for. We can’t be happy if we’re living for other people. Living life free of the need for approval is chave para o bem-estar.
We don’t have to fulfill anyone’s expectations but our own. The moment we stop thinking about what others will think and start listening to what we want – things start to change.
Don’t let the careless word of others influence your whole mood. Don’t let it stress you.
Remember that you don’t have to explain yourself to others either. If they get you, that’s great, if they don’t, and you don’t feel comfortable explaining – just don’t do it.
Ouça a sua intuição
“Practice listening to your intuition, your inner voice; ask questions; be curious; see what you see; hear what you hear, and then act upon what you know to be true. These intuitive powers were given to your soul at birth.” – Clarissa Pinkola Estés
Another reason why you shouldn’t listen to others is because you already have your inner guide. You have intuition.
Aproveitem-no.
To answer the question “qual é o objetivo da vida?” one must be connected to one’s inner being, which is revealed through intuition.
A intuição é o que acabará por nos conduzir ao nosso objetivo de vida e despertar espiritual.
That’s why it’s so important. It’s what makes us authentic.
Autenticidade significa ser exatamente aquilo que somos. Significa cultivar a aceitação, a integridade, a coragem e praticar a introspeção; fazer as coisas com intenção.
Durante muito tempo, a intuição foi considerada exclusivamente uma pseudociência.
Felizmente, estudos recentes mostram que a intuição é um processo psicológico real; o cérebro utiliza experiências passadas e sinais do próprio e das coisas que o rodeiam para tomar uma decisão.
The decision happens so fast that it doesn’t register on a conscious level. Our brains know the answer way before analytically processing information.
Mas como é que nos ligamos à nossa intuição?
1. Parar e ouvir
It’s as simple as it sounds.
You can’t hear your intuition if you’re not listening. When you find yourself in a situation where you feel doubtful and need guidance – ask yourself: What do I really want? Track down that first hunch that occurred when something happened.
2. Confie no seu instinto
You know that feeling. You know when something is bad or good and you can feel it in your gut. It manifests on or in your body and it’s usually gut.
This too isn’t completely scientifically false considering the gut is lined with a network of nerve cells and is called o segundo cérebro.
That’s the same reason ficamos com náuseas no estômago quando ficamos nervosos.
3. Reconhecer os seus sentimentos
Quanto mais se treinar para ouvir a sua intuição, mais a sentirá também de outras formas. Toda a gente tem a sua própria forma de saber por falta de uma palavra melhor.
Sometimes it’s a physical manifestation such as goosebumps, a racing heart, a feeling in your belly and just that saber that we can’t explain; you just feel if something is right or not.
Trusting your intuition might be hard at first but it’s a skill you can train and perfect and it’s definitely worth trying.
4. Aprender a libertar-se das emoções negativas
Negative emotions are necessary. However, we shouldn’t let them take over because they cloud our intuition. It’s more likely we’re going to do something intuitively right when we’re in a good mood.
Negative emotions can help us understand ourselves on a deeper level but that doesn’t mean we should dwell on them.
When we’re at peace with ourselves is when we’re more connected to our purpose so it’s easier to hear out intuition.
5. Escolhe bem os teus amigos
We already discussed how others affect our lives. It’s true that we have to mind our own business and listen to ourselves but other people are still a big part of our life.
Surround yourself with the people who won’t drain you or put you down.
You probably already met people who did nothing but that. It’s usually in a passive-aggressive way that gives you no visible reason you should confront them but they still manage to ruin your mood.
That’s not the kind of person you need in your life. Find people who uplift you and enrich your life with their presence, people who support your vision and believe in you.
6. Arranjar tempo para si próprio
A solidão tem um impacto positivo no desenvolvimento da nossa intuição. Permite-nos libertar a nossa mente dos pensamentos quotidianos e observarmo-nos a nós próprios.
So many times we simply don’t hear our intuition because we’re too busy to notice. Part of strengthening your intuition is just letting your mind wander and being open to whatever comes your way. It can be feelings, thoughts, or something else.
Apanha os pequenos sinais. Estar atento. Limpa a desordem da tua mente e abre espaço para algo novo.
7. Prestar atenção aos sonhos
This might sound weird but it’s the truth that dreams are a way of processing gathered data and are a door to our unconscious self.
We already said that intuition works on a subconscious level so paying attention to our dreams is a way of figuring out our personal inner symbolism and it’s meaning.
Dreams are deeply symbolical and that’s not a coincidence. It’s not a coincidence we often dream about the stuff we experienced the day before.
That’s why it’s good to set an intention for resolving issues we don’t have a solution for before going to sleep. Maybe your dreams can give you the answers your conscious mind can’t.
Um dos mais famosos psicanalistas que já existiu, Carl Jung, disse o seguinte sobre os sonhos:
“Dreams are impartial, spontaneous products of the unconscious psyche, outside the control of the will. They are pure nature; they show us the unvarnished, natural truth, and are therefore fitted, as nothing else is, to give us back an attitude that accords with our basic human nature when our consciousness has strayed too far from its foundations and run into an impasse.“
Ligue-se ao seu objetivo
“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
A forma mais fácil de encontrar o nosso objetivo é seguir a nossa paixão. A paixão é a melhor forma de nos fazermos felizes.
The problem with passion is that it’s usually not conventional, it’s not safe. It demands bravery and perseverance.
It’s often connected to something that makes us feel uncomfortable meaning we need to step out of our comfort zone to follow our passion, which will ultimately lead us to our life’s purpose.
It’s not the purpose itself, but it’s a way of finding it.
Passion can be literally anything. Sometimes we don’t even notice our passion as a passion because it comes to us so easily.
Esse tipo de coisas que nos chegam facilmente é o tipo de coisas que precisamos de cultivar na vida.
Pense no que é mais fácil para si e no que mais gosta de fazer. O que é que nunca se cansa de fazer?
O que é que lhe vem à cabeça?
Está a fazer alguma coisa para incluir essas coisas como parte da sua vida ou está a ignorá-las?
Don’t throw away your talents but learn to use them in everyday life.
Other than that – think about what you like and appreciate in life. What kind of qualities do you prefer in people?
Porque é que os prefere?
Pense profundamente nos seus valores e na razão pela qual os escolheu especificamente. Pensar nestas coisas permite-nos ver objetivamente o que realmente queremos na vida e o que desejamos.
Tudo isto está ligado à nossa orientação interior.
It’s usually the heart that tells us what it wants and the mind that comes up with reasons why we shouldn’t do it.
Por uma vez na vida, tente pensar no que aconteceria se silenciasse a sua mente e ouviu o seu coração?
I know that’s probably risky and hard to do – but it’s almost certain that it will bring your great inner satisfaction despite the challenges.
Many people who decided to follow their heart, passion, and fulfill their life’s purpose lost everything along the way but still stayed happy.
Isto leva-nos de volta ao início, onde eu disse que ter e viver um objetivo é o sentido da vida.
Viver feliz é o que faz a vida valer a pena.
I don’t know why it’s sometimes hard to see what brings us happiness when it’s right in front of our eyes but I know we’re always longing to have it.
At the end of the day asking “what is life?” and “what is the point of life?” tells us there’s purpose. Why should we long for one if there’s none? How could we know about it?
Esse sentimento profundo que nos diz que existe um objetivo superior para a nossa vida é indistinguível.
The higher purpose shouldn’t be equated with something mysterious or unattainable and far… because it’s right here with us. It’s a life worth living and you’re the one who sets the rules.
Don’t pollute your mind with things that don’t matter. Things that are transient. They don’t hold the purpose, they just make our lives more fun.
Don’t participate in emptying this world of the true essence.
Instead, work on maintaining it. Do it by always reminding yourself and others what’s really important to you and them. Be an ally to significado.
Faça coisas que o façam vibrar e veja o significado desenrolar-se à sua frente.
“Be a lover of the world, it is the only way to survive in it.” – Janosch
