É por isso que parece que os narcisistas conseguem sobreviver a tudo

Parece que, aconteça o que acontecer, um narcisista encontra sempre uma forma de aterrar de pé.

Toda a gente à sua volta fica magoada, zangada e devastada e eles conseguem, de alguma forma, encontrar uma maneira de ultrapassar qualquer desastre que encontrem ou criem.

Depois de tudo they’ve done to you, it’s even more frustrating to see them continuing their life as if absolutely nothing has happened.

So, how do they do it? How come it’s possible for them to survive every kind of tragedy without a scratch?

First, we have to think about what “a tragedy’’ means to a narcissist.

We can’t compare them to our standards of basically anything that involves emotional attachment because their way of experiencing and perceiving emotions is very different than our own.

One mistake we all make is to try to apply the rules that work for us to their lives – and that’s just wrong.

Porquê? Descobri isto depois de muitos anos de luta contra a raiva e a ansiedade causadas por um narcisista na minha vida.

Foi isto que descobri: Passo pela vida utilizando a empatia, a lógica e as emoções para equilibrar o que está a acontecer na minha vida e tomar decisões.

Penso nas outras pessoas e se as minhas acções as vão magoar e tento evitar causar-lhes dor desnecessária.

A narcissist, on the other hand, has a completely different thought process. When I go through something horrific, I process that tragedy through my emotional responses, and they don’t.

What’s a tragedy to me is not a tragedy for them. They see the world through their personal gain.

Agem de uma forma que acreditam ser a melhor para os seus interesses, em vez de seguirem os seus impulsos emocionais.

Então, como é que eles parecem livrar-se das emoções negativas depois de perderem algo que lhes interessava, perguntam vocês?

That’s where the other aspect of their personality sets in.

Os narcisistas vivem uma mentira.

O facto de eles atravessarem o caos que criam sem pestanejar é apenas uma ilusão.

They seem like the luckiest, wittiest, most charming person in the room while they’re actually using all their energy to appear that way.

They are never actually happy. They spend most of their lives feeling so low that when something devastating happens it doesn’t even feel new to them.

They appear like they’re flying and they never seem to fall, but that’s because they were crawling all along.

They don’t easily land on their feet after a disaster as they are never actually on their feet.

They live in a fantasy world that they seem to have created to hurt people around them in order to try and spread their negativity and, just because they can’t seem to reach any high, pull everyone down with them.

Concentram-se tanto em ganhar, não porque procurem realmente a vitória, mas porque querem que todos os outros vejam como são bem sucedidos.

That’s why they’ll do anything in their power to make it look like they’re always on top. Losing – or better yet – looking defeated, is the end of the world for a narcissist.

Never believe anything they say, not even when their lies are supported by evidence, because they’ll sacrifice everything and everyone to put on a show where they are the most superior being walking the earth.

O maior medo que uma pessoa narcisista tem é que as pessoas comecem a perceber tudo isto e vê-los como eles realmente são.

Mesmo quando isso começa a acontecer, entram em ação, enganando e mentindo para se apresentarem da melhor forma possível.

O que tem de compreender sobre um narcisista é que ele tem a convicção de que pode fazer tudo.

Tornaram-se quem são lutando contra a tristeza, a dor, o abandono e passando por dificuldades.

They’ve created a coping mechanism that makes them believe they can do and be whatever they like, and they go through life with this attitude that no harm can be done to them and they can rise above any kind of misfortune.

Ultimately, they’ve built a world of deception, illusion, and fantasy in which they are the only ones who make decisions about what’s real and what’s not.

A realidade tem muito pouco impacto na forma como se sentem porque lhes falta razão e empatia para aceitar a influência dos outros.

If you’re sick of feeling annoyed, hurt, or angered by how a narcissist in your life seems to always find their way out of everything, just know that their life is completely fake – and ultimately – pathetic and sad.