Tenho saudades da minha mãe no céu (uma história pessoal e citações)

Há coisas que nos mudam para sempre. A morte da tua mãe é uma dessas coisas.

While everyone knows that the day must come, sooner or later, none of us are actually prepared for our mom’s death.

Tenho saudades da minha mãe todos os segundos de todos os dias. Muitos dos meus queridos amigos perderam as suas mães com cancro da mama ou cancro do pulmão muito subitamente.

Tentei ajudá-los a lidar com a situação e pensei que, se alguma vez estivesse na situação deles, ficaria de rastos.

I was right. The thing is, the only person who can possibly make the pain go away at those moments is your mom, and she’s not there to help you.

The moment your mom passes the world seems empty. One minute she’s there, the next she’s gone. Your whole body and soul understand this immediately. You change, forever.

Nesse preciso momento, a minha alma doeu-me incrivelmente. Mas não tanto como nos dias e meses seguintes. No início, estava muito zangada, comigo própria, com o mundo, com tudo e todos.

Eu passava pelo hospital onde ela morreu and the simple feeling that I didn’t need to go in there made me insane. I was incredibly sad and also relieved in a very weird way.

My mother dying is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to cope with. I cried. I cried a lot.

Many family members wanted to help me and even though I appreciated their help- every meal that they cooked for me, every phone call to check I was okay – nothing made me feel better.

I lost my appetite and I simply couldn’t eat anything. I tried to order some burgers and fries and many other comfort foods but I couldn’t take a bite.

After many days I forced myself to go to work, thinking it would take my mind off things. It didn’t. It made it even worse. So, I took time off work.

O que mais me lembro é de não conseguir compreender como é que as outras pessoas conseguiam simplesmente continuar a viver as suas vidas. Tudo em mim estava ligado à minha mãe.

Era-me tão difícil levantar-me da cama, enquanto outras pessoas viviam as suas vidas como se nada tivesse acontecido.

I kept thinking about how she must have felt knowing she would never see me again. I was so angry I wasn’t there with her for her last breath.

That’s something I have a hard time forgiving myself for even now, even though she died last year.

Oh mom, my beautiful mom. I couldn’t stand looking at images and videos of her because it simply hurt too much.

Ver os seus filmes preferidos ou ouvir as suas canções preferidas matava-me.

Sentia-me tão ingrata por todos os anos que tive com ela, enquanto tinha amigos que perderam as mães ainda antes do liceu.

Toda a minha vida pensei que, se algo assim me acontecesse, nunca sobreviveria. Mas sobrevivi. Sobrevivi a perder o meu amor, o meu melhor amigo, a pessoa que me deu vida.

Era sempre tão paciente e cuidadosa para não ferir os nossos sentimentos. A mãe e o pai costumavam discutir às vezes, como todos os casais, mas ela nunca queria que nós, os filhos, ouvíssemos.

Por muito zangada que estivesse, queria proteger-nos das suas palavras desagradáveis.

A última vez que a vi, ela estava a usar um pijama cor de rosa. Costumavam ficar-lhe bem, mas naquele dia só acentuavam a sua palidez.

Aquela visão magoou-me até aos ossos. Soube imediatamente que a vida dela estava a chegar ao fim. O próprio pensamento era insuportável para mim.

She looked worse each time I saw her those last days of her life. Not a single day passes that I don’t get that image of her in her blush pajamas flashing before my eyes.

As pessoas disseram-me muitas vezes que os primeiros meses são os mais difíceis, mas ainda hoje parece que acabou de acontecer.

Parece-me que nunca conseguirei ultrapassar completamente a situação. A morte dela vai assombrar-me para sempre.

I have better days and I have awful days but it seems to me I’m getting used to the fact that she’s gone.

Independentemente das coisas novas que aconteçam e do que eu faça, lembro-me sempre de pelo menos um dos muitos lições de vida ela ensinou-me.

Whenever something happens, I feel like I know the exact thing she’d say to me and I can almost hear the words she’d say in my mind. I always smile.

Whenever I get new clothes or meet new people I wonder what she would think about them. I recently bought an apartment and not a day goes by that I don’t think about what she’d say about it.

These days I’ve even had the strength to go to the attic and take down some of our photo albums. I’ve gone through all our family photos, and even though I cried a lot I smiled a lot more.

A minha alma ficará para sempre ligada à dela. Ela era a minha única e verdadeira alma gémea.

I think a lot about what I would tell her if I got a chance to see her. We used to talk for hours almost every day and now, I feel like the only thing that I’d say is: I miss you mom, I wish you were here.

MOTHER’S DAY QUOTES FOR THOSE WHO HAVE LOST THEIR MOM:

1. “What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” — Helen Keller

2. “Grief and love are conjoined, you don’t get one without the other. All I can do is love her, and love the world, emulate her by living with daring and spirit and joy.” — Jandy Nelson

3. “Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.” — Rumi

4. “If I had a flower for every time I thought of you…I could walk in my own garden forever.” — Alfred Tennyson

5. “Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose.” — Os Anos Maravilhosos

6. “A mom’s hug lasts long after she lets go.” — Unknown

7. “You don’t go around grieving all the time, but the grief is still there and always will be.” — Nigella Lawson

8. “Grief can be a burden, but also an anchor. You get used to the weight, how it holds you in place.” — Sarah Dessen

9. “Mom, I am missing you today but I know that you will always be with me in my heart.” — Karen Kostyla

10. “Losing a mother is one of the deepest sorrows a heart can know.” — Unknown

11. “Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.” — Eskimo legend

12. “Sometimes, only one person is missing, and the whole world seems depopulated.” — Alphonse de Lamartine

13. “Those we love and lose are always connected by heartstrings into infinity.” — Terri Guillemets

14. “We understand death only after it has placed its hands on someone we love.” — Madame de Stael

15. “Your life was a blessing, your memory a treasure. You are loved beyond words and missed beyond measure.” — Renee Wood

16. “The world changes from year to year, our lives from day to day, but the love and memory of you, shall never pass away.” — Unknown

17. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” — Mahatma Gandhi

18. “No matter how prepared you think you are for the death of a loved one, it still comes as a shock, and it still hurts very deeply.” — Billy Graham

19. “I should know enough about loss to realize that you never really stop missing someone-you just learn to live around the huge gaping hole of their absence.” — Alyson Noel

20. “Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.” — José N. Harris

21. “Grief is like the ocean, it comes in waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” — Vicki Harrison

22. “And then I heard the angel say, ‘She’s with you every day.'” — Unknown

23. “Unable are the loved to die, for love is immortality.” — Emily Dickinson

24. “But she wasn’t around, and that’s the thing when your parents die, you feel like instead of going into every fight with backup, you are going into every fight alone.” — Mitch Albom

25. “If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them.” — James O’Barr

26. “Losing people you love affects you. It is buried inside of you and becomes this big, deep hole of ache. It doesn’t magically go away, even when you stop officially mourning.” — Carrie Jones

27. “I knew what it was like to lose someone you loved. You didn’t get past something like that, you got through it.” — Jodi Picoult

28. “There is something about losing a mother that is permanent and inexpressible—a wound that will never quite heal.” — Susan Wiggs

29. “My mom is a never-ending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune.” — Graycie Harmon

30. “When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.” — Unknown

TENHO SAUDADES DA MINHA MÃE CITAÇÕES:

“The world changes from year to year, our lives from day to day, but the love and memory of you, shall never pass away.” — Unknown

“I cried endlessly when you died but I promise, I won’t let the tears mar the smiles that you’ve given me when you were alive.” — Unknown

“I know you are listening from above. There’s nothing that I value more than your love. No matter where I am or what I’m doing, your memories will always keep me smiling.” — Unknown

“Whenever I am missing you, I also remember how fortunate I was that you were in my life. I wouldn’t trade those moments for the world.” — Cindy Adkins

“In the blink of an eye, everything can change. So forgive often and love with all your heart. You may never not have that chance again.” — Unknown

“Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard but always near, still loved, still missed, and held so dear.” — Unknown

“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” — Unknown

“Mothers hold their children’s hands for a while, but their hearts forever.” — Unknown

“I’ll always remember the things you have taught me and how much you love me.” — Unknown

“A mom’s hug lasts long after she lets go.” — Unknown

“No matter what age, I’ll always need you, mom. ” — Unknown

“No daughter and mother should ever live apart, no matter what the distance between them.” — Christie Watson

“Mother, you left us beautiful memories, your love is still our guide, although we cannot see you, you’re always at our side.” — Unknown

“Hold dear to your parents for it is a scary and confusing world without them.” — Emily Dickinson

“In life, we loved you dearly, in death we love you still. In our hearts you hold a place, no one else will ever fill.” — Unknown

“Mothers never really die, they just keep the house up in the sky, they polish the sun by day and light the stars that shine at night, keep the moonbeams silvery bright and in the heavenly home above they wait to welcome those they love.” — Helen Steiner Rice

“Mom, I am missing you today but I know that you will always be with me in my heart … I am who I am because of your loving hands. I have my sweet and compassionate soul from watching you and your generosity and kindness to others. I see the world full of wonder because of your imagination. I’ve learned to never give up seeing your drive and perseverance … I love you always and forever …” — Karen Kostyla

“A mother’s love is always with her children. Losing a mother is one of the deepest sorrows a heart can know. But her goodness, her caring, and her wisdom live on-like a legacy of love that will always be with you. May that love surround you now and bring you peace.” — Unknown

CITAÇÕES SOBRE O LUTO:

“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.” — Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

“In the garden of memory, in the palace of dreams…that is where you and I shall meet.”— Alice Through the Looking Glass

“When someone you love becomes a memory…that memory becomes a treasure.” — Unknown

“An eternal memory…until we meet again: Those special memories will always bring a smile if only I could have you back for just a little while. Then we could sit and talk again just like we used to do, you always meant so very much and always will do too. The fact that you’re no longer here will always cause me pain, but you’re forever in my heart until we meet again.” — Unknown

“Perhaps they are not the stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.” — Unknown

“Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted.” — Matthew 5:4

“God gave us memory so that we might have roses in December.” — J.M. Barrie

“If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart, I’ll stay there forever.” — Winnie the Pooh

“It is perfectly okay to admit you’re not okay.” — Unknown

“There are some who bring a light so great to the world that even after they have gone the light remains.” — Unknown

“Be the things you loved most about the people who are gone.” — Unknown

“My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love.” — Unknown

“Keep your head up. God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers.” — Unknown

“And sometimes, against all odds, against all logic, we still hope.” — Unknown

“Death is a challenge. It tells us not to waste time. It tells us to tell each other right now that we love each other.” — Leo Buscaglia

“When it is darkest, we can see the stars.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

“You will survive and you will find purpose in the chaos. Moving on doesn’t mean letting go.” — Mary VanHaute

“Grit your teeth and let it hurt. Don’t deny it, don’t be overwhelmed by it. It will not last forever.” — Harold Kushner

“This is not goodbye, my darling, this is a thank you. Thank you for coming into my life and giving me joy.” — Nicholas Sparks

“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” — Winnie the Pooh

“Grief is the price we pay for love.” — Queen Elizabeth II

“To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.” — Thomas Campbell

“You have within you, right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you.” — Unknown