13 dicas profissionais para se tornar um marido-troféu

​What Is A Trophy Husband?

Ser o marido-troféu é o melhor papel que se pode ter na vida. Basicamente, não tem quaisquer responsabilidades reais e passa a maior parte do seu dia a beber cocktails em festas na piscina.

According to the definition of a trophy husband, you’re married to a woman who brings home the bacon and you have all the time in the world to spend her money together with your children.

Preocupa-se apenas com a sua próxima ida ao ginásio, com a melhor roupa a vestir para o evento de gala do próximo fim de semana e se a sua sala de estar deve ter um estilo retro ou moderno.

Sounds like the perfect way to spend your entire life, doesn’t it? Well, this isn’t only a dream. In fact, if you follow the tips below, you can turn it into your reality in the blink of an eye.

Aqui está um guia passo a passo para se tornar um marido troféu.

Take care of your looks…

Let’s be real; you can’t expect to be a woman’s arm candy if you’re not physically attractive.

You’re looking for ways to become someone’s trophy husband and taking care of your looks is the first step toward your dream becoming reality.

I know that you’re probably used to males being the ones who pay a lot of attention to their prey’s beauty.

However, in this situation, the tables are completely turned. Don’t worry, you don’t necessarily have to be naturally attractive. You see, your appearance is something that can be worked on.

You don’t have it as easy as ladies who can change their entire looks with a bit of make-up. However, growing a beard and hiring a personal trainer will help you become more appealing and, consequently, more confident.

Just remember that good looks rarely fall from the sky. The truth is that you’ll have to work hard in order to achieve your final goal.

You’ll have to invest a lot of time, effort and patience into becoming the best possible version of yourself.

No entanto, posso garantir-lhe uma coisa: valerá a pena. Tudo isto vai valer a pena porque vai recuperar tudo o que investiu e muito mais.

… and your clothes and manners

The truth is that you’ll also have to invest a lot of money and effort into your clothes. You see, every woman who is looking for a trophy man wants a classy male by her side.

Antes de mais, isto significa que tem de estar vestido para a ocasião. Tenha em atenção que a sua potencial esposa é uma mulher de carreira que vai frequentemente a eventos chiques, como estreias, festas ou jantares.

If you are nothing more than her boy toy, she won’t give a damn about how you look to other people. She is attracted to you so as far as she is concerned, you could be walking around in your sweatpants all the time.

However, you are and will become much more than this. As this woman’s husband, you’ll be her plus-one wherever she goes, so she will expect you not to embarrass her in front of her clique.

The same goes for your manners. This woman has to see that you’re um verdadeiro cavalheiro que sabe como tratar uma senhora em conformidade.

You could be the best-looking guy in the world but trust me, if you don’t pay attention to your clothes and behavior, you’ll never reach your goal.

Ir atrás de mulheres mais velhas

This is one of the most important tips common to almost every potential trophy husband out there. Of course, every rule has an exception and it’s not like this age gap is mandatory.

However, I strongly recommend that you put most of your focus on older women. This might sound brutal but I’ll be honest; they’re an easier prey to catch.

Além disso, as pessoas mais velhas sentem-se lisonjeadas por terem um parceiro mais jovem. Afinal de contas, uma mulher-troféu também é isso: uma rapariga jovem e atraente casada com um homem mais velho, muitas vezes não tão atraente.

Além disso, na maioria dos casos, as mulheres mais velhas já sabem o que querem. O jogo com elas é muito menos fácil.

Finally, as harsh as this might sound, an older woman’s biological clock is ticking. She is more likely to marry you than waste another couple of years, waiting for true love.

Of course, I’m not referring to women old enough to be your grandma. However, if you try and have an age gap between you and your potential partner, it can only make you more desirable.

Misture-se com as pessoas certas

You might have all the possible qualities needed to become a trophy hubby but if you don’t know how to meet a woman who will fulfill your needs, all of this is in vain.

Mais importante ainda, é preciso saber ONDE encontrar essas mulheres.

Vá lá, podias ser o tipo mais encantador de sempre, podias ter o aspeto, a personalidade e a inteligência, tudo num só.

No entanto, de que lhe serve tudo isto se não passar de uma teoria e nunca tiver a oportunidade de a concretizar?

I assure you that you won’t find a woman like this on Tinder or on the dancefloor of your usual club. In fact, even if she does go clubbing, she will always sit in a booth that you have no access to.

This is why it’s crucial for you to mingle with the right people if you want to meet your potential wife. You have to be ‘popular’ and a member of the ‘in’ crowd.

You won’t yet know your potential wife directly. However, you will have to have some important friends who, on the other hand, will have a few acquaintances who fit the profile you’re looking for.

Besides, she will always go out with you if you’re a friend of a friend more than if you’re a complete stranger to her.

I know this probably sounds you like you’re back in high school but this is how things really are in adult life as well.

When I mentioned your popularity, I didn’t mean about you being famous. Instead, I mean about the fact that people simply know you or about you.

Manter os olhos no prémio

Now that we’ve covered the basics and the situation in general, it’s about time for something concrete. It’s time to choose your ‘victim’.

You could be the best trophy husband material ever but if you don’t focus only on one woman, you’re doomed. After all, your knowledge serves you for nothing if there is no one you can apply it to.

Por isso, seja realista e tenha os seus olhos apenas numa mulher.

Not only that but do everything in your power to create an illusion in which she’s the only one you’re interested in as well. This is the only way she’ll see you as her future trophy husband.

Don’t be too educated

 

As much as you’re this woman’s arm candy, she still plans on spending the rest of her life with you. Therefore, it won’t be enough for you to just be handsome and attractive.

Basically, what I’m trying to say is that you have to have some brains as well. She wants to build a life and a family with you and she’ll only do that if you’re smart.

Besides, this woman also sees you as genetic material and she doesn’t want her potential children to inherit your lack of wisdom, if that’s the case.

A verdade é que nenhuma mulher quer um homem que não saiba literalmente nada sobre a vida e a quem ela só possa exibir. É exatamente por isso que é preciso ter alguma educação formal e, mais importante ainda, conhecimentos gerais.

A sua futura mulher levá-lo-á a eventos e jantares com os seus amigos bem sucedidos, que lhe farão perguntas sobre a sua formação. Por conseguinte, deve, pelo menos, ter concluído a licenciatura.

However, there is a catch here as well. You have to be educated but you can’t be too educated. Remember, she’s the dominant figure here.

She’s the breadwinner and you’re the gold digger. Therefore, she has to be more educated than you. You can’t graduate from medical or law school and expect someone to see you as her future trophy husband.

A sua formação deve, de facto, existir apenas numa folha de papel.

In fact, it would be best if you could graduate with something ‘useless’, e.g. from a grad school that won’t get you a career and a qualification with which you’ll have a hard time finding a decent job.

As suas necessidades vêm em segundo lugar

Whether you like it or not, from now on and for as long as you’re with this woman, your needs will always come second.

Ela escolheu-o para ser o símbolo do seu estatuto, não para fazer compromissos consigo.

I’m not saying here that you’ll be treated like a slave or that your desires are completely irrelevant. Nevertheless, she is always at the top of everyone’s priority list (especially yours, as her husband).

O bem-estar dela é a sua principal preocupação e está em primeiro lugar, aconteça o que acontecer. Isto aplica-se à saúde dela (incluindo a saúde mental), às suas necessidades emocionais e físicas, bem como aos seus hábitos de consumo.

Your future wife has to always feel like she’s the dominant one. You’re a beta man here, while she’s an alpha female.

You’re the one who adapts to her lifestyle, not the other way around. You’re at her beck and call all the time.

Most importantly, it’s your job to make sure she is constantly taken care of. You’re here to spoil her and to fulfill all of her desires.

Fica em segundo plano

A sua mulher é a dominante no seu romance e, por isso, é ela que está sempre em primeiro plano e sob as luzes da ribalta.

On the other hand, you will stay in the background. You’re there to support her emotionally and to give her the encouragement she needs.

You’re there to patiently wait for her to get home after a long day, there to make her feel more confident and to make her life easier.

Basically, you’re not visible to the rest of the world until the moment comes when she needs you to be. You’re at her disposal and are always ready for her to call your name and ask for your help.

Dê-lhe toda a sua atenção

When you’re dating other girls, most of the time, you probably pretend to be hard to get, even though you’re interested and maybe you’ve even fallen in love.

I know you do this in order to test her feelings and to make her chase you more. Well, when you’re trying to become a trophy hubby, this will all be a part of the past.

Não há jogos, não há manipulação nem se espera que a outra parte dê o primeiro passo.

This woman is self-sufficient. She is successful and she chose you to be a part of her life; you’re not here because she needs you.

Therefore, I can assure you that she won’t be begging for your attention. She won’t be asking for your love unless you give it her on your own.

What I’m trying to advise you here is to give your wife your undivided attention. After all, you know how busy she is during the day.

Por isso, ela quer ver a sua relação consigo como o seu porto seguro. Ela quer sentir-se em casa sempre que o vê.

Well, it’s your job to provide her with these feelings. When necessary, be her best friend who will listen to her problems. Or be her funny trophy husband who will make her laugh and chase away her worries.

Either way, it’s important that she knows you’re always there, no matter what.

Don’t sign a prenup

Yes, it’s quite possible for you to eventually fall in love with your wife. However, let’s be honest; you’re initially doing this because you’re a gold digger who wants money.

You don’t want to be a full-time breadwinner but at the same time, you aspire to have a lavish life. What better way to do so than by marrying someone who has the money you need?

However, what happens when it comes to divorce? No, you shouldn’t be thinking about it right from the start but it really is a real possibility. After all, many couples go their separate ways, let alone your kind of couples.

Your wife might get tired of you, she might want to replace you with a younger model or maybe one day you’ll have enough of this arrangement.

Whatever happens, the crucial thing here is never to sign a prenup. Otherwise, you’re signing away your rights and you’ll end up with nothing once you two are over.

Se a sua futura mulher insistir num acordo pré-nupcial antes de se casarem, faça-se de ofendido. Vire o jogo e acuse-a de o ver como um símbolo de estatuto e não como o homem que ela ama.

Assumir o papel de um pai que fica em casa

Uma das formas mais seguras de manter essa mulher ao seu lado é ter filhos com ela. Desta forma, mesmo que se separem, haverá sempre algo que vos ligará para o resto das vossas vidas.

As a new dad, you don’t have a full-time job; we’ve already established that. Well, this is why you should take on the role of a stay-at-home dad.

It’s your job to become the best dad ever. Your kids’ mom will be busy and physically absent from their lives most of the time.

Therefore, it’s your job to try and replace her as much as you can by being a devoted and committed father.

Cuide da sua aparência com a cirurgia plástica

 

We’ve already discussed the importance of your good looks. However, if you plan to stay with this woman for the rest of your life (which is your goal), eventually, you’ll start growing old.

Your body will change, you’ll get wrinkles and you’ll even go bald. Nevertheless, don’t forget that it’s your job to create an illusion here, an illusion of a forever young, attractive, funny husband.

This means that you should keep on taking care of your appearance for as long as you breathe. Don’t dare to think that your job is done the moment you say your vows!

Therefore, you’ll probably need to undergo some plastic surgery and aesthetic procedures to remain looking as young as possible.

Isto não é algo a que devas tentar fugir. Além disso, a sua mulher vai financiá-lo, por isso, porque não aproveitar as oportunidades que a vida lhe oferece?

Deixá-la orgulhosa

When I say that your wife wants to show you off, I’m not only talking about your looks. She wants to brag about your personality and fancy lifestyle as well.

Besides, just because you don’t have an actual career, it doesn’t mean that you should spend your entire life doing nothing.

Em vez disso, tem de lhe mostrar que tem um papel ativo na sua vida, fazendo algo útil no seu tempo livre.

The best thing you can do about this is get involved in charity work. This will show her and the rest of the world that you’re a kind person who is not only spending someone else’s money.

You could instead direct a non-profit organization. Don’t worry, this doesn’t need to take up a lot of your spare time; it will just give off a better impression of you.

Besides, what’s even more important is that it will make your wife proud.

Exemplos de celebridades que são maridos-troféu:

Amal Clooney (advogada dos direitos humanos) e George Clooney (ator famoso)

Hannah Bagshawe (antiga directora de relações públicas da Mergermarket Ltd.) e Eddie Redmayne (que interpretou Stephen Hawking em A Teoria de Tudo)

A Princesa Vitória da Suécia e Daniel Westling (antigo treinador pessoal)

Para terminar:

I’ll be honest with you here’ being a trophy husband isn’t for everyone. Some men simply can’t do it, despite all the advantages that come along with it.

However, there are more and more men who don’t mind being involved with an alpha woman.

If you choose this path through life, don’t feel any less of a man and don’t be intimidated by your better half. Just follow the steps mentioned above and you’re good to go!