Não esperes que um homem mude ou cresça porque estás a impedir a tua própria felicidade

Se alguma vez esteve nesta situação, sabe como é difícil.

You spend so much time together, you know the deepest part of each other, but something isn’t right and you just can’t ignore it anymore.

Custa-lhe vê-lo a andar em círculos, a magoar-se a si próprio e a si.

You’ve tried over and over again but nothing’s ever happened.

It’s soul-crushing to know that you can’t help or change the person you love.

The same person who doesn’t love himself because he chooses destructive behavior instead of healing.

Os seres humanos têm uma natureza viciante. Para algumas pessoas, a negatividade também é viciante.

Negativity comes in many shapes and forms. Sometimes it’s toxic behavior, sometimes it is constantly criticizing, sometimes it’s thoughts of despair.

Unfortunately, there’s just so much you can do.

What’s worse, often you want to help him but he refuses and hurts you in the process.

That’s when you know that the wounds are too deep and you’re neither a doctor nor a psychologist.

I’m almost sure you’ve done everything there is to change the situation but you’ve failed every single time.

Mesmo quando se pensava que as coisas estavam a correr melhor, verificava-se que era apenas uma coisa temporária.

That’s no way to live.

Para progredir, a primeira pessoa que precisa de fazer algum esforço é ele, não você.

Constantly thinking about the well-being of another person makes us miserable in the end because we don’t have time for ourselves.

Duas pessoas desequilibradas que tentam manter uma relação viva não ganham nada com isso.

If there’s nothing to give – it’s not a relationship.

By holding onto something that’s already dead you’re stopping yourself from experiencing happiness. Don’t let it slip through your fingers.

A felicidade favorece os corajosos. Ser corajoso.

He won’t change. You won’t change that fact.

It’s better to move on and let him fight his own battles. In the end, he has to help himself.

Sometimes the problem is exactly the fact that you let him count on you all the time. That’s a sign of a dependent relationship – and that leads nowhere.

In order to make a change in life, everyone has to give up something. If he’s not ready now, he might never be.

You can’t sit and wait for better days. Why should you when you can actively live them?

Sometimes life isn’t a wild sea that throws you around, sometimes it’s just your emotions you haven’t learned to control.

Not everything is possible to control – but with a strong will, it’s possible to optimize almost everything in your life including feelings and relationships.

Don’t rob yourself of happiness. Let go of what refuses to change. Don’t be the victim of circumstances and other people’s decisions.

Not everything is as it seems now. You will move on. Things will get better. You’ll meet new people and life will go on.

Don’t do the same thing he’s doing – don’t be afraid to make a change. Step into your power and decide how you want to live your life.

A primeira coisa a fazer é deixar de se culpar pelos erros dos outros.

A segunda coisa é acreditar que se pode fazer melhor.

You can do what you set your mind to. Learn from other people’s mistakes and don’t give up.

A única coisa que impede uma pessoa de crescer é a incapacidade de se adaptar e mudar, combinada com uma baixa autoestima.

Todas estas coisas são solucionáveis se quisermos que o sejam.

No momento em que se apercebe disso, liberta-se.

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou