Não precisas de mudar, só precisas de deixar de sair com idiotas

Todas nós temos um género. Quer queiramos admiti-lo ou não, de alguma forma gravitamos sempre em direção ao mesmo tipo de homens, sempre.

Be that an ambitious hard-worker who doesn’t really have the time to nurture a loving relationship with you or be that a well-built guy who looks like he was made to break hearts with that gorgeous face and the body of a Greek god.

And that’s exactly what always happens. Ele parte-nos o coração.

Did you ever start to wonder how come after every break-up you always end up disappointed in the entire male species, crying yourself to sleep, spending days eating Ben & Jerry’s and listening to Coldplay’s saddest songs?

Poderá ser o facto de estar simplesmente, inconscientemente, a escolher sempre o tipo que não é adequado para si?

You’re probably going back in time now, and recollecting your past relationships and seeing a recurring pattern. You never realized this before, and you always thought that there was something wrong with you, but now, you are probably starting to realize that it’s really not you.

It’s your unconscious desire to go after guys who make you feel so loved for a full whole minute and then partir o teu coração tão rapidamente como o ganharam.

Now is the time to realize you need to break that vicious pattern and realize why it was there in the first place. That way, you will be able to go for guys that are more suitable for you and won’t make you feel like you necessidade de mudar anything about yourself—para além da vossa escolha de homens.

Pergunte a si próprio porque é que escolhe os tipos que escolhe? There is always a reason, whether it’s visible or not. Maybe it has something to do with how you see yourself, and you are projecting this on the guys you date?

Talvez eles ressoem consigo a um nível mais profundo de que nem sequer tem consciência, pelo que gravita sempre em torno deles?

Normalmente, as pessoas optam por coisas com as quais se sentem familiarizadas e com as quais sentem que podem lidar imediatamente. Isso faz-nos sentir seguros e não há nada de errado nisso.

Could it be that you are looking for someone who is just like your dad, because he was the only male figure you had in your life who you looked up to? And in theory, it should work, but in practice, it’s much more problematic.

Whatever the case is, now that you are aware of that recurring pattern, it’s time to break it, and venture out and try to find someone completely different from what you would normally go for. You’ll never know if you don’t try!

It can only be better, so give it a chance. Don’t fear the unknown, it may turn out to be just the thing for you.

Pergunte a si própria o que é que acha que merece? De uma forma ou de outra, fala consigo própria, seja na sua cabeça ou em voz alta, e está a fazer eco da forma como o seu diálogo interior funciona com a forma como escolhe os seus homens.

Escolhemos os que nos parecem familiares, os que melhor se adaptam à nossa maneira de pensar, falar e sentir.

Maybe you simply believe you only deserve a certain type of guy in your life, so you’re not letting yourself break out of that unhealthy circle in which you keep coming back to the same guy, just in a different form.

It’s time you start making changes in your dating life before you end up with the wrong guy in the long run. It’s time to stop letting these men make you feel insufficient and inadequate, simply because you are afraid of making a different choice!

Saia do seu zona de conforto e procure mais! O mundo está cheio de homens que podem ser os teus. Só precisa de ser suficientemente corajosa para os ver!