No necesitas cambiar, sólo dejar de salir con gilipollas

Todas tenemos un tipo. Nos guste admitirlo o no, siempre gravitamos hacia el mismo tipo de hombre, siempre.

Be that an ambitious hard-worker who doesn’t really have the time to nurture a loving relationship with you or be that a well-built guy who looks like he was made to break hearts with that gorgeous face and the body of a Greek god.

And that’s exactly what always happens. Te rompe el corazón.

Did you ever start to wonder how come after every break-up you always end up disappointed in the entire male species, crying yourself to sleep, spending days eating Ben & Jerry’s and listening to Coldplay’s saddest songs?

¿Podría ser el hecho de que usted está simplemente, inconscientemente siempre elegir el chico que simplemente no es adecuado para usted?

You’re probably going back in time now, and recollecting your past relationships and seeing a recurring pattern. You never realized this before, and you always thought that there was something wrong with you, but now, you are probably starting to realize that it’s really not you.

It’s your unconscious desire to go after guys who make you feel so loved for a full whole minute and then romperte el corazón tan rápido como lo han ganado.

Now is the time to realize you need to break that vicious pattern and realize why it was there in the first place. That way, you will be able to go for guys that are more suitable for you and won’t make you feel like you necesidad de cambiar anything about yourself—aparte de tu elección de hombres.

Pregúntate por qué vas a por los que vas. There is always a reason, whether it’s visible or not. Maybe it has something to do with how you see yourself, and you are projecting this on the guys you date?

¿Quizás resuenan en ti a un nivel más profundo del que ni siquiera eres consciente, por lo que siempre gravitas hacia ellos?

Normalmente, la gente opta por cosas con las que se siente familiarizada y que siente que puede manejar de inmediato. Nos hace sentir seguros, y eso no tiene nada de malo.

Could it be that you are looking for someone who is just like your dad, because he was the only male figure you had in your life who you looked up to? And in theory, it should work, but in practice, it’s much more problematic.

Whatever the case is, now that you are aware of that recurring pattern, it’s time to break it, and venture out and try to find someone completely different from what you would normally go for. You’ll never know if you don’t try!

It can only be better, so give it a chance. Don’t fear the unknown, it may turn out to be just the thing for you.

Pregúntate qué es lo que crees que te mereces. De una forma u otra, te hablas a ti mismo, ya sea en tu cabeza o en voz alta, y estás haciendo eco de la forma en que funciona tu diálogo interior con la forma en que eliges a tus hombres.

Te decantas por los que te resultan familiares, los que mejor se adaptan a tu forma de pensar, hablar y sentir.

Maybe you simply believe you only deserve a certain type of guy in your life, so you’re not letting yourself break out of that unhealthy circle in which you keep coming back to the same guy, just in a different form.

It’s time you start making changes in your dating life before you end up with the wrong guy in the long run. It’s time to stop letting these men make you feel insufficient and inadequate, simply because you are afraid of making a different choice!

Salga de su zona de confort ¡y busca más! El mundo está lleno de chicos que podrían ser el tuyo. ¡Sólo tienes que ser lo suficientemente valiente para verlos!