Um homem tem um problema com o conteúdo da esposa nas redes sociais e pergunta-se se está errado
O seu marido deve ser compreensivo e apoiar as suas escolhas, até mesmo encorajá-la a seguir o seu emprego de sonho. Não é verdade?
Well, it’ll depend on many different factors. As pessoas tendem a ter várias preferências relativamente ao seu emprego de sonho, so someone’s dream job could seem inappropriate to their SO. If you need a reality check, Reddit is a great place to go.
The “sharent” problem
Um utilizador chamado throwrasutwypartilhou a sua história e perspetiva sobre AITA subreddit.
“My wife wants to be an influencer on TikTok and YouTube. She has been creating mommy content and content about her day to day life. When she told me this is something she wanted to do I didn’t have a problem with I only said that I don’t want our children (4m, 2f) in ANY of her content.”
Fairly reasonable I would say, the man cares about the safety and privacy of his kids and I couldn’t agree more. He made it clear that ela podia fazer o que quisesse, desde que as crianças não fizessem parte do seu conteúdo.
The man thought the simple warning would work it out, but after a while, he checked her channels, and to his great surprise he found his kids’ faces in her content and got furious.
“I told her straight up she needs to remove all of her content, she said that she knew I wouldn’t agree but she doesn’t think this is a big deal.”
He explained why he doesn’t like to see the kids on social media: that kind of visibility makes them a “product” that brings profit and people (his wife actually!) start “acting” their ways of overcoming challenges of parenthood. He backs up his opinion with a good example:
“… she posted a video of her getting our 2 yr old out of a tantrum and how she deals with it but how is your first instinct to record and hold a camera whilst our baby is crying.”
Uma ameaça de divórcio
Quando throwrasutwy asked his wife to remove the content, she was upset and didn’t want to give up on her dream. She couldn’t just erase everything she worked hard on, for months. The man was a casca dura:
“…if you don’t delete it I will consider a divorce.”
The Reddit poster continued explaining he wouldn’t mind if his children were on Instagram or Facebook posts, but videos are different. They are exposing some intimate aspects of kids’ lives that he finds inappropriate to be shared. But the wife wouldn’t give up on her dream:
“She told her friends and even hinted on her social media accounts that she has an over controlling and narcissistic husband that doesn’t want her on social media… ”
As amigas começaram a gozar com ele e, a certa altura, he wasn’t sure if he was being demasiado controlador ou narcisista.
Depois de algumas pessoas terem perguntado sobre o tipo de conteúdo que a sua mulher partilhava, ele acrescentou mais pormenores, explicando que a maior parte dos vídeos a mostravam a brincar ou a dar de comer às crianças, mas que ainda assim havia:
“the 2 types of videos I have problems with is her recording our children tantrums and our 2 yr old still doesn’t like clothes, we are trying to get her to wear them more but our house can be hot so she is in diaper alot. I don’t like the videos of our daughter in her diapers.”
Apoio comunitário
Como devem imaginar, a comunidade do Reddit apoiou a sua reação. Alguém escreveu:
“NTA – people who make profits from their kid’s misery are the AHs here, and it seems like your wife is more interested in being a TikTok celebrity than being a caring wife and mother.
No one should ever be shilling out their kids for likes and imaginary internet points.”
Everyone was disgusted by the way some influencers are exploiting their own children, and advised him to get a lawyer and protect his children. Some people said she wasn’t respecting his boundaries, and called his wife disrespectful, exploitative, and the one who’s being narcissistic.
Outro partilhou um facto não tão conhecido: a maioria dos os seguidores das mães influenciadoras não são outras mães, mas cretinos que gostam de olhar para crianças.
Partilho inteiramente a opinião pública encontrada no Reddit. As crianças são o tesouro mais precioso e devemos ter sempre o cuidado de as proteger. Espero que estes dois encontrem um terreno comum e cheguem a uma solução que satisfaça ambas as partes.
If you’re too concerned for the privacy of your own kids, make sure to read the full fio.
