5 sinais infelizes de que o amor dele por ti é condicional
Quando um homem nos ama como deve ser, fá-lo de qualquer maneira, apesar de tudo e de todos.
O verdadeiro amor é assim: quando nada nem ninguém nos pode separar do nosso parceiro.
No entanto, infelizmente, este tipo de romance é extremamente raro. De facto, há mais homens do que se pensa que sentem amor condicional para as suas caras-metades.
Aqui estão 5 sinais de que o seu namorado é um deles.
1. Ele está apaixonado pelo seu potencial
The first sign that a man’s love for you is conditional is the fact that he is actually not in love with the real you. In fact, he loves your potential more.
Don’t get me wrong. Having a partner who pushes you towards improvement is one thing, but being with someone who is not satisfied with the person you are at the moment is worrying.
This is exactly what’s going on with you and your boyfriend. He says he loves you but he would love the person he imagines you’ll become even more.
It’s like this guy pictured his perfect relationship and perfect girlfriend he wants by his side.
Por isso, agora, ele pensa em tudo o que poderiam fazer e em tudo o que a vossa relação poderia ser.
À primeira vista, isto pode ser visto como um sinal de que ele ama the real you. However, with time, you’ll realize it is actually a sign that his love for you is not unconditional.
2. Não se encontra em lado nenhum durante as dificuldades
When a man says he loves you no matter what, it means he’ll stick by your side during the good times and the bad.
It means that he won’t leave you at the first inkling of trouble or run away when things get nasty.
No entanto, é exatamente isso que o seu namorado está a fazer. Sempre que uma tempestade vem na vossa direção, ele foge como um cobarde.
This guy doesn’t have your back. He doesn’t take care of you, isn’t there para te apanhar quando caíres, and doesn’t act like he is ready to defend you against the world.
In fact, he always leaves you hanging. He flees when you’re feeling down or your life is about to become a mess, so you end up fighting all of your battles alone.
Yes, he is too emotionally weak to confront the challenges of adulthood. But the truth is that he doesn’t care for you enough to be your ally and support.
3. He doesn’t love your bad sides
Sabes o que se diz: A tua alma gémea vai amar-te da mesma forma no teu melhor e no seu pior. Well, that’s not how your partner behaves.
It’s one thing if he is realistic about your flaws. As much as he cares for you, it would be ridiculous to expect him not to notice some things about your character or not to be bothered by them.
Mas no seu caso, o seu namorado só gosta dos seus lados bons.
If you’re honest, you’ll admit that he doesn’t love you the same when you are all dressed up as when you wake up in the morning.
He doesn’t give you the same amount of attention when you’re laughing and everything is going great as when you’re crying and in need of someone to cheer you up.
It’s like he doesn’t understand that you’re an entire package and he can’t choose which parts of you to love.
4. You’re never enough
A real man will never fail to see your worth. In fact, he’ll make sure you see it as well, if you ever think of yourself as not good enough.
Well, a man whose love for you is conditional will make you feel like you’re never enough.
He doesn’t have to directly put you down or call you names, but he will constantly imply that you’re beneath him in some way or another.
You feel like you don’t deserve even the crumbs of his love and attention.
It’s like you have to compete for him because he compares you to all those other girls who are better than you.
5. Ele aproveita-se de ti
Finalmente, os homens que a amam condicionalmente encontrarão sempre uma forma de aproveitar-se de si. Por vezes, utilizam-no sem o tornar tão óbvio.
Por exemplo, este tipo poderia aproveitar-se indiretamente da sua boa aparência.
Sim, não há nada para ele, mas talvez ele goste de ter uma rapariga atraente ao seu lado.
Talvez ele a use pelo seu dinheiro, pela forma como aumenta o seu ego, pelo facto de cuidar dele, cozinhar para ele ou fazer as coisas por ele.
Seja qual for o caso, o resultado final é o mesmo. Ele abandoná-la-á no momento em que deixar de fazer ou ter o que quer que ele esteja a usar.
