5 señales desafortunadas de que su amor por ti es condicional

Cuando un hombre te ama como es debido, lo hace pase lo que pase, a pesar de todos y de todo.

Eso es el verdadero amor: cuando nada ni nadie puede separarte de tu pareja.

Sin embargo, por desgracia, este tipo de romance es extremadamente raro. De hecho, más hombres de lo que crees sienten amor condicional para sus mejores mitades.

Aquí tienes 5 señales de que tu novio es uno de ellos.

1. Está enamorado de tu potencial

The first sign that a man’s love for you is conditional is the fact that he is actually not in love with the real you. In fact, he loves your potential more.

Don’t get me wrong. Having a partner who pushes you towards improvement is one thing, but being with someone who is not satisfied with the person you are at the moment is worrying.

This is exactly what’s going on with you and your boyfriend. He says he loves you but he would love the person he imagines you’ll become even more.

It’s like this guy pictured his perfect relationship and perfect girlfriend he wants by his side.

Así que ahora piensa en todo lo que podríais conseguir y en todo lo que podría ser vuestra relación.

A primera vista, esto podría parecer una señal de que ama the real you. However, with time, you’ll realize it is actually a sign that his love for you is not unconditional.

2. No se le encuentra en las dificultades

When a man says he loves you no matter what, it means he’ll stick by your side during the good times and the bad.

It means that he won’t leave you at the first inkling of trouble or run away when things get nasty.

Sin embargo, eso es exactamente lo que hace tu novio. Cada vez que una tormenta se dirige hacia ti, escapa como un cobarde.

This guy doesn’t have your back. He doesn’t take care of you, isn’t there para atraparte cuando caigas, and doesn’t act like he is ready to defend you against the world.

In fact, he always leaves you hanging. He flees when you’re feeling down or your life is about to become a mess, so you end up fighting all of your battles alone.

Yes, he is too emotionally weak to confront the challenges of adulthood. But the truth is that he doesn’t care for you enough to be your ally and support.

3. He doesn’t love your bad sides

Ya sabes lo que dicen: Tu alma gemela te amará igual en tu mejor momento y en tu peor momento. Well, that’s not how your partner behaves.

It’s one thing if he is realistic about your flaws. As much as he cares for you, it would be ridiculous to expect him not to notice some things about your character or not to be bothered by them.

Pero en tu caso, a tu novio sólo le gustan tus lados buenos.

If you’re honest, you’ll admit that he doesn’t love you the same when you are all dressed up as when you wake up in the morning.

He doesn’t give you the same amount of attention when you’re laughing and everything is going great as when you’re crying and in need of someone to cheer you up.

It’s like he doesn’t understand that you’re an entire package and he can’t choose which parts of you to love.

4. You’re never enough

A real man will never fail to see your worth. In fact, he’ll make sure you see it as well, if you ever think of yourself as not good enough.

Well, a man whose love for you is conditional will make you feel like you’re never enough.

He doesn’t have to directly put you down or call you names, but he will constantly imply that you’re beneath him in some way or another.

You feel like you don’t deserve even the crumbs of his love and attention.

It’s like you have to compete for him because he compares you to all those other girls who are better than you.

5. Se aprovecha de ti

Por último, los hombres que te aman condicionalmente siempre encontrarán una manera de aprovecharse de ti. A veces, te utilizarán sin hacerlo tan obvio.

Por ejemplo, este tipo podría aprovecharse indirectamente de tu buena apariencia.

Sí, no hay nada para él, pero quizá le divierta tener a su lado a una chica atractiva.

Puede que te utilice por tu dinero, porque le subes el ego, porque le cuidas, le cocinas o le haces cosas.

Sea cual sea el caso, la conclusión es la misma. Se alejaría de ti en el momento en que dejaras de hacer o tener lo que sea que esté consumiendo.