4 frases que os homens tóxicos dizem para te fazer sentir presa

When a third party sees a victim staying next to her toxic abuser for years, despite everything he’s putting her through, the first question which logically arises is: “Why?”

Porque é que alguém no seu perfeito juízo ficaria ao lado de alguém que está a transformar a sua vida num inferno por mais um minuto?

Well, what most people don’t know is that toxic men use a set of strategies to keep their victims next to them as long as possible.

Parte destas estratégias são normalmente algumas frases comuns que utilizam para o fazer sentir-se preso na relação com eles.

“I will change”

A primeira e mais comum mentira de todos homens tóxicos say is that they will change. When you’re involved with a guy like this and when you start seeing his destructive behavior, naturally you want to leave.

However, he doesn’t allow you to get rid of him so easily. In fact, he traps you to remain in this harmful relationship by giving you numerous false promises.

Segundo ele, esta é a última vez que a trata mal. Alegadamente, ele apercebeu-se finalmente dos seus erros e está pronto para fazer a diferença.

Pensa que o amor que ele sente por si é tão forte que está disposto a mudar de atitude por sua causa. Basicamente, quer acreditar nele, uma vez que gosta muito dele.

You’re more than happy to give him another chance. Nevertheless, over time, you end up giving him endless second chances.

Apesar das suas expectativas, o seu homem tóxico nunca muda de facto. A pior parte é que ele nunca planeou sinceramente fazê-lo.

Em vez disso, tudo isto fazia parte do seu plano maior. Uma parte do seu esquema para te manter por perto o máximo de tempo possível.

Yes, after a while, you realize what he’s been doing. However, that is once you’re already buried in his manipulations so deeply that you don’t see a way out.

“I’d be lost without you”

Algumas mulheres têm uma necessidade subconsciente de salvar toda a gente around them. If you’re one of them, you must think of yourself as this superwoman.

You assume that you have the capacity to open a man’s heart to love and the ability to turn his life upside down.

Bem, deixe-me dizer-lhe uma coisa: os homens tóxicos sentem isso. Escolhem as suas vítimas com sabedoria e este homem sabia que era uma pessoa empática que ele podia apanhar com a sua triste história de vida.

That’s exactly why he keeps you next to him by telling you that he would be completely lost without you.

Whenever he says something like this, he is emotionally blackmailing you. You think that you can’t leave him because he needs you.

According to this sentence, you’re the only ray of light in this man’s existence. If you abandon him, he will be surrounded by darkness and his life will be ruined.

“You need me”

Por outro lado, existe também um tipo diferente de pessoas tóxicas que se concentram no facto de que precisa deles e não o contrário.

When you’re trapped with this kind of a man, he does everything in his power to convince you that you could never make it without him.

He will put his maximum effort into making you financially and emotionally dependent on him. This guy brainwashes you into believing that you don’t have anyone besides him.

Even though he doesn’t care about you at all, he will persuade you into thinking that no man besides him would love you the way he does.

After some time, this toxic man makes you believe that you’re not meant to be loved. So you end up staying with him because you think you have nowhere else to go.

“You’re too sensitive”

A list of common phrases narcissists use goes something like this: “You’re overreacting,” “You’re too sensitive,” “What I did wasn’t a big deal”.

Ao dizer estas frases, o seu parceiro tóxico está a minimizar a sua dor. Ele está a tentar inverter a situação e virar o jogo a seu favor.

According to him, he is not the one to blame for the hell he’s putting you through. He is not the abuser and you’re not his victim—you’re just overly emotional and take everything too personal.

This is actually one of the forms of gaslighting. While you’re going through all of this, you start to question your own sanity.

You can’t help but wonder whether he is really right. Are you really exaggerating?