Se um homem te faz estas 5 coisas, ele é um jogador

Todos nós já estivemos nesta situação. Todos nós já namorámos o o maior idiota. Todos nós já tivemos pelo menos um tipo que nos enganou como se não passássemos de parvos.

Actually, you were involved in a game and you rocked it—but the thing is—you didn’t even know you were playing.

You are still not sure whether you are playing or not?! Tell me if this scenario rings any bells—everything is peachy and everything is going perfectly ok. But, somewhere deep inside you, something is hiding and bothering you. It’s a feeling that something may be a bit off.

So, as every normal girl, you will ask your partner if your doubts are true or if you’ve lost it completely. And guess what? You’ve lost it! Of course, everything is perfect—your super sweet guy a.k.a. the ultimate douchebag assures you things have never been better!

E tu estás ainda pior por acreditares nele e não nos teus instintos.

OS TEUS INSTINTOS NUNCA ESTÃO ERRADOS!!

Maybe, but just maybe, he is right and you are completely overreacting, but then again compare that with your instincts. I would always go for the instincts rather than anything else—so should you.

Take a look at the list of things that will confirm the thing you already doubted—he’s totally playing you.

1. Ele esconde o telemóvel

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His phone is a legend of a long lost treasure buried somewhere in the ancient and unknown location—no one has ever seen it but there are stories it exists. That’s exactly your experience with his phone.

These men are master manipulators. They will hide their phones and actually, they won’t let you even find yourself in a situation where you can use some kind of an excuse to see their phones. They are that good.

2. Ele só te telefona quando precisa de ti

Uma booty call soa-te familiar??? Bem, deve soar se estiveres a sair com um verdadeiro playa. Ele só te vai enviar mensagens e ligar quando ele quer algo de si—and that something is of course sex.

And one more thing. He only communicates with you as the night approaches. When he’s done with his activities, when he was already out with his friends or a girl that left him hanging, so he called you—the backup girl. Seriously, don’t let him do this to you!

3. Os amigos dele não têm qualquer interesse em ti

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And this one is completely obvious. They are probably used to meeting ‘one-time’ girls who aren’t meant to be around for long. So, they do not even bother to get to know them.

Even if you came to the phase you meet his friends, you will spend a night out together, but you won’t be able to shake off the feeling they weren’t trying at all to make you feel comfortable. Maybe you think they are just rude and inconsiderate, but it’s not that—it’s just that they see you as one of the ‘many yet to come’.

4. Sem PDA

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They will hide you and believe me, they are good at it. They will refuse any sort of PDA because that is the official acknowledgment of the two of you being together. They won’t risk the possibility of scoring with a new chick. If they leave the impression they are unavailable, that’s impossible.

No entanto, por vezes, deixam-no beijar ou dar as mãos, mas não antes de se certificarem de que ninguém o está a observar. Por isso, muito cuidado!

5. Os seus instintos dizem-lhe que algo está errado

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Este é o último e mais importante aspeto. Ele pode contar-lhe todo o tipo de histórias, mas se tiver a sensação de que algo não está bem, é porque provavelmente está.

O objetivo de uma relação, entre muitos outros, é ter um sentimento de segurança e amor. Não está a conseguir isso, o que significa que a sua relação não está a funcionar.

Also, you have the feeling that he doesn’t care about you at all. You have the feeling that things are always about him. He only talks when it’s about him. When you talk, he couldn’t care less.

Tu sabes tudo sobre ele e ele é completamente ignorante quando se trata de ti.