Pára de mentir a ti própria: Se ele não a trata bem agora, nunca o fará

És alguém que acredita no que há de bom nas pessoas. Uma rapariga que tem fé que o seu amor é essa força omnipotente que pode mudar e consertar aqueles que precisam de ser salvos.

You are an optimistic girl who believes in a better tomorrow, even if it’s against all odds. A girl who believes that things always find a way of sorting themselves out, one way or another.

Isto é especialmente verdade quando se trata da sua relação amorosa. Mesmo que toda a gente lhe diga que your boyfriend isn’t good enough para si, opta por as ignorar.

Não só isso—também opta por ignorar a sua intuição e aquela vozinha no fundo da sua cabeça, que lhe diz que ele nunca a mereceu nem nunca a merecerá.

So, despite the way he’s been treating you, you keep on hoping that eventually he’ll change.

You keep on hoping that one of these days, things will magically fall into place and that he’ll turn into the man you hope for him to become.

That one of these days, he’ll realize how much you mean to him, that he’ll realize how much pain he’s been causing you all along and just like that—he’ll start treating you differently.

That he’ll start regretting the way he keeps on breaking your heart and that he’ll finally take responsibility for his actions. That one of these days, he’ll understand all of his mistakes and that he’ll do everything in his power to change his ways.

Eu sei que quer que as coisas com este homem resultem da melhor maneira possível. Sei que queres que esta relação seja bem sucedida e sei que esperas mesmo que isso aconteça.

No entanto, all of this doesn’t give you the right to lie to yourself. It doesn’t give you the right to close your eyes to the obvious truth and to keep looking for excuses for this guy’s behavior.

It doesn’t justify the fact that you keep lying to yourself just so you could continue being with him.

However, this is exactly what you’ve been doing. You’ve been living a lie and you’ve been deceiving yourself, believing that this man will eventually change.

You refuse to look the truth in the eye and see him for who he really is. You refuse to accept the fact that things won’t be different and that he won’t miraculously become your dream guy.

No, he isn’t going through a rough patch—este é o verdadeiro ele.

Não, isto não é uma fase—é assim que as coisas entre vocês os dois vão ser para sempre, a não ser que ponhas um ponto final nesta relação.

Por isso, por favor, pare de mentir a si próprio. Pare de esperar por uma mudança que nunca vai acontecer e aceite a realidade, por mais dura e dolorosa que seja.

Please, take your rose-tinted glasses off and see this man’s true colors. See that he will never treat you the way you deserve and that he will never give you the love you need.

Let’s face it—most of the time, this man acts like he doesn’t give a damn about your relationship.

He treats you like his second choice, he doesn’t give you the place you deserve in his life and he doesn’t respect you the way he should.

A maior parte do tempo, este homem treats you like he doesn’t care about you. So, why exactly don’t you start believing him?

Quando é que vais deixar de ter esperanças? Quando é que vais deixar de esperar que ele se recomponha e comece a dar-te o amor e a atenção de que precisas?

O que é preciso que ele faça para que deixes de lhe dar segundas oportunidades intermináveis, para que deixes de acreditar nas suas promessas vazias e para que deixes de pôr a tua vida em suspenso, à espera que ele mude?

What does it take for you to understand that if he doesn’t treat you the way he should now, chances are that he never will?

If he isn’t putting any effort into your relationship now, he probably never will. If he doesn’t love you enough now, that won’t change in the future.

Please, stop thinking that one of these days, he’ll wake up and suddenly come to his senses. Stop waiting for him to ver o seu verdadeiro valor and for him to start appreciating everything you’ve been giving him because that will never happen.

Please, don’t waste any more of your time or efforts on someone who clearly doesn’t deserve you. Instead, pack your bags and leave his sorry ass in the past, where he belongs.

Confiar em mim—será a melhor decisão da sua vida.