Deja de mentirte a ti misma: Si no te trata bien ahora, nunca lo hará

Eres alguien que cree en el bien de las personas. Una chica que tiene fe en que su amor es esa fuerza omnipotente que puede cambiar y arreglar a los que necesitan ser salvados.

You are an optimistic girl who believes in a better tomorrow, even if it’s against all odds. A girl who believes that things always find a way of sorting themselves out, one way or another.

Esto es especialmente cierto cuando se trata de una relación sentimental. Aunque todo el mundo te diga que your boyfriend isn’t good enough para ti, eliges ignorarlas.

No sólo eso—también eliges ignorar tu intuición y esa vocecita en el fondo de tu cabeza que te dice que él nunca te mereció y nunca te merecerá.

So, despite the way he’s been treating you, you keep on hoping that eventually he’ll change.

You keep on hoping that one of these days, things will magically fall into place and that he’ll turn into the man you hope for him to become.

That one of these days, he’ll realize how much you mean to him, that he’ll realize how much pain he’s been causing you all along and just like that—he’ll start treating you differently.

That he’ll start regretting the way he keeps on breaking your heart and that he’ll finally take responsibility for his actions. That one of these days, he’ll understand all of his mistakes and that he’ll do everything in his power to change his ways.

Sé que quieres que las cosas con este hombre funcionen de la mejor manera posible. Sé que quieres que esta relación tenga éxito y sé que realmente esperas que así sea.

No obstante, all of this doesn’t give you the right to lie to yourself. It doesn’t give you the right to close your eyes to the obvious truth and to keep looking for excuses for this guy’s behavior.

It doesn’t justify the fact that you keep lying to yourself just so you could continue being with him.

However, this is exactly what you’ve been doing. You’ve been living a lie and you’ve been deceiving yourself, believing that this man will eventually change.

You refuse to look the truth in the eye and see him for who he really is. You refuse to accept the fact that things won’t be different and that he won’t miraculously become your dream guy.

No, he isn’t going through a rough patch—este es el verdadero él.

No, no es una fase—así es como se verán las cosas entre ustedes dos para siempre a menos que pongan fin a esta relación.

Así que, por favor, deja de mentirte a ti mismo. Deja de esperar un cambio que nunca se producirá y acepta la realidad, por dura o dolorosa que sea.

Please, take your rose-tinted glasses off and see this man’s true colors. See that he will never treat you the way you deserve and that he will never give you the love you need.

Let’s face it—most of the time, this man acts like he doesn’t give a damn about your relationship.

He treats you like his second choice, he doesn’t give you the place you deserve in his life and he doesn’t respect you the way he should.

La mayor parte del tiempo, este hombre treats you like he doesn’t care about you. So, why exactly don’t you start believing him?

¿Cuándo dejarás de hacerte ilusiones? ¿Cuándo dejarás de esperar que se ponga las pilas y empiece a darte el amor y la atención que necesitas?

¿Qué hace falta que haga para que dejes de darle infinitas segundas oportunidades, para que dejes de creer en sus promesas vacías y para que dejes de poner tu vida en suspenso, a la espera de que él cambie?

What does it take for you to understand that if he doesn’t treat you the way he should now, chances are that he never will?

If he isn’t putting any effort into your relationship now, he probably never will. If he doesn’t love you enough now, that won’t change in the future.

Please, stop thinking that one of these days, he’ll wake up and suddenly come to his senses. Stop waiting for him to descubre tu verdadero valor and for him to start appreciating everything you’ve been giving him because that will never happen.

Please, don’t waste any more of your time or efforts on someone who clearly doesn’t deserve you. Instead, pack your bags and leave his sorry ass in the past, where he belongs.

Confía en mí—será la mejor decisión de tu vida.