18 perguntas reveladoras para fazer a um vigarista de romances
Esquemas de encontros online e as fraudes tornaram-se cada vez mais comuns na Internet. Acontece praticamente todos os dias a centenas de pessoas em todo o mundo.
And it’s not that those people are stupid or naive. It’s simply that scammers have become genuine online vigaristas e profissionais.
Para o proteger, decidi compilar estas perguntas reveladoras para fazer a um burlão do romance e escrevi este guia para o ajudar a desmascarar sempre um burlão do namoro.
Actually, you shouldn’t only expose them, you need to outsmart them, and I’ve left you a few tips for that too. My only goal is to make you online dating scams-proof, and I hope I’ll achieve that with this article!
10 perguntas de aquecimento para fazer a um Golpista de romance
You can’t immediately hit them with some tough, exposing questions. É preciso aquecer com alguma regularidade, questões pessoais para que possa executar um inquérito pessoal enquanto eles pensam ingenuamente que só os quer conhecer melhor.
Por isso, eis as perguntas mais comuns que as pessoas se esquecem de fazer aos seus potenciais namorados em sites de encontros e que podem ajudá-las a expor um potencial burlão do romance.
1. Qual é a sua nome do meio?
You’ll agree that this isn’t a very common question people ask each other when they start texting and conhecermo-nos uns aos outros. But that’s the point, to catch them by surprise.
They may come up with a name immediately – that’s not difficult. However, you need to ask them a few more questions about their middle name, and you’ll see how nervous it’ll make them if they’re lying to you.
Por exemplo, pode perguntar-lhes como adquiriram esse nome, quem lho deu ou qual o significado desse nome.
If they take some time before replying, it’s a bandeira vermelha de que eles estavam a procurar o significado do nome no Google e a tentar inventar uma história sobre como tinham conseguido o seu nome do meio.
2. Que idade tens?
Okay, I know what you’ll say now. It’s easy to make up a number and lie about your age to some unknown person online.
However, there are some ways you can figure out whether the person you’re texting is really lying about their age or not. For example, you can check whether that number matches what they wrote on their dating app profile.
3. Onde é que vive?
Esta pergunta parece, à partida, muito comum quando duas pessoas estão a conhecer-se. No entanto, a verdade é que se pode descobrir muito com ele.
If you’re dealing with a golpista de encontros, they’ll probably choose a different city than yours because they don’t want you to know you live in the same city.
So, when they say in which city they live, you should Google it and pretend you know a lot about it because you’ve visited it or went on a holiday there once.
4. Oh, conheces o (inserir nome)?
Se disserem que vivem numa cidade pequena ou numa zona da cidade que conhece, pode perguntar-lhes sobre uma pessoa famosa que também viva aí ou sobre alguns edifícios famosos, restaurantes, etc.
If they don’t know that person or building, it’s a bandeira vermelha they’re lying to you. Mas é preciso pensar em algo que seja conhecido por quase toda a gente que vive nessa cidade/zona.
5. Onde nasceste e onde cresceste?
It’s okay to ask someone you’re getting to know where they currently live. However, it’s a bit strange to ask them where they were born or spent their childhood.
If you notice that the other person avoids that question or misses some details when talking about their childhood, it’s a potential bandeira vermelha you’re dealing with a burlão do romance.
6. Onde é que terminou escola secundária?
Na verdade, deve perguntar-lhes quando e onde terminaram o liceu. Quando obtiver esses pormenores, pode ir para esse escola secundária e perguntar sobre eles.
If it’s a real person, someone there will know something about them. And this question shouldn’t make them suspect anything because it’s just a common question people ask when they’re getting to know someone.
7. O que é que faz na vida?
The truth is, if it’s not um perfil falso, this question may be strange to them. They may start thinking that you want to know about their finances because you’re into material things.
However, if you have already encountered a few red flags that you’re texting with a romance scammer, you need to ask them this question.
Se disserem que trabalham na McDonald’s, deve perguntar-lhes onde, qual McDonald’s precisamente, e ir lá e perguntar sobre eles a outros empregados. If they say they don’t know anyone by that name, you can consider yourself a potential victim of a romance scammer.
Don’t just allow them to mention what they do, what their business occupation is because they may lie about it. For example, if they say they’re an oil rig worker, you need to bombard them with a few follow-up questions that will reveal more info about their job.
8. Qual é o seu estado de relacionamento atual?
They’ll probably say they’re single because otherwise, it would be awkward if they have a dating site profile. However, you need to interrogate them about their love life.
How many partners have they had, when and why did they break up with their ex-partner, what kind of people are they into, and what qualities does their future partner need to have… All those questions will help you realize what kind of person you’re dealing with.
9. Tem animais de estimação?
This is a very common question people ask when they want to get to know someone. However, these kinds of details from their private life may really help you figure out whether they’re making things up about themselves or if they are who they say they are.
And don’t allow them to answer your question with a simple yes/no answer. Pergunte-lhes mais pormenores sobre o animal, como, por exemplo, onde o adquiriram, qual o nome do animal de estimação e esse tipo de perguntas.
10. Como é o teu dia?
You’ll ask them this question just to find out more information about them, how they spend their day, where they go, where they eat, and those kinds of things.
They may lie about all those things, but they may also tell the truth because they won’t think you’re asking them these questions because you have doubts about their true identity. E esses pormenores sobre a sua vida privada podem ajudá-lo a revelar a sua verdadeira identidade e a expô-lo.
Ver também: Um burlão pode apaixonar-se pela sua vítima? A verdade revelada
8 perguntas reveladoras para fazer a um Golpista de romance
After you’re done with these regular warm-up questions, you should heat things by starting to ask some revealing questions. If you notice too many red flags in their answers, you’re probably dealing with a fake dating profile, and you should block them before they scam you.
1. Pode dar-me o seu número de telefone para podermos ser em contacto regularmente?
If you’re dealing with a romance scammer, they will probably make up an excuse not to give you their real phone number. If they’re a professional vigarista, they may buy a new phone and a new number that they’ll get rid of once they finish scamming you.
On the other hand, if they give you their phone number, you should send them a text message when they least expect it. And also, give them a call at an unusual time because it’s a way to catch them in their lies – IF they’re really lying to you.
2. What’s your família como?
É preciso fazê-los falar sobre a sua família. Podem constituir um história antiga about their family, but they’ll miss some details. That’s why you need to focus on those precise details.
Também deve olhar para as fotografias do perfil e verificar se tem alguma da sua família.
Or, you can ask them to send you a few. If you think it’s too weird to ask them that immediately, you can send them a pic of your family, and if their profile isn’t fake, they’ll probably reply with a photo of theirs.
3. Quem é o teu favorito membro da família e porquê?
The point is to get the names of their family members, so if they’re really a scammer, it’ll be easier for you or the authorities to catch them through their family.
Deve fazer com que falem da sua família e amigos e tentar lembrar-se ou escrever os nomes que mencionam. You can also search for their family members on social media platforms and see whether they’re real or not.
4. Onde é que estudou?
Se a pessoa ou o seu perfil de encontros disser que já se licenciou, deve perguntar-lhe onde estudou. Se mencionarem Harvard ou outra faculdade de prestígio, pode verificar isso na fonte ou pesquisar o seu nome no diretório dessas escolas.
5. Podemos mudar o nosso chat para Hangouts, Facebook, ou outro sítio de redes sociais tem um perfil?
It’s important to ask them whether they have any other social media profiles. Of course, before you ask them, you can do your own little search.
If they’re a true professional scammer, they might also have fake accounts on other plataformas de redes sociais. However, in most cases, they won’t bother with those kinds of things, and they’ll simply say they don’t like social media sites or something like that.
6. Podemos conversação por vídeo?
If they’re a real person, this shouldn’t be a problem for them, especially if you’ve been texting for a while. On the contrary, they should be eager to see you on video.
On the flip side, if they’re a golpista de encontros, they’ll make up some excuse and avoid going on conversação por vídeo convosco. The reason is obvious: they don’t want you to see their real face.
7. What are you doing right now? Send me a selfie 😍
Or, you can send them a selfie, and they’ll do the same if they don’t have anything to hide. On the other hand, if they send you a pic of an attractive person, and you realize instantly that the pic was taken by a professional, you should run it through the reverse image search on Google.
If it’s a fake profile, and they’re using photos from another person, they don’t even have to be a scammer – they’re already committing a felony.
Using someone else’s photos without their consent is considered the same as stealing their identity, and it’s a crime.
Maybe they have another reason they’re using pics from another person, and you should give them a chance to explain themselves.
If you notice they are still lying to you, you should immediately report their profile as a fake one and make sure the dating site knows they were using another person’s identity.
8. THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION 🚨: When can we meet cara a cara?
This is the most important question you need to ask them. And don’t ever share any personal information about yourself before actually meeting them in person. Also, most importantly, don’t send them your conta bancária ou dinheiro de qualquer forma até que eles concordem em encontrar-se consigo.
Se evitarem encontrar-se cara a cara and always have some lame excuse for why they can’t, you can be sure that something is off with them.
Block their profile, forget that they ever existed in your life (even if it was only virtually), and move on. You definitely don’t need those kinds of troubles in your life.
O que é que um Golpista de romance Quer?
Os burlões de encontros têm diferentes objectivos em mente, mas a maioria deles quer uma coisa: DINHEIRO, claro. O seu principal objetivo é enganar as pessoas para que lhes dêem dinheiro.
Registam-se em vários sites de encontros sob perfis falsos e chegar a pessoas diferentes. They make sure to gain their complete trust by texting them 24/7 and getting to know them. Then they make sure the other person falls in love with them, and that’s when their real operation starts.
Dizem que amo-te, e a próxima coisa que eles fazem é pedir o seu conta bancária. If that doesn’t go well with their victim, they ask them to send them gift cards or make donations to unreliable sites or associations.
They’re professional con artists who can make others believe in their sob stories or how they’re head over heels in love with them, even though they’ve never seen or met them in person. Then, they take as much money as they can from you and leave you completely heartbroken.
Como é que se revela um Golpista de romance?
Estas perguntas reveladoras que deve fazer a um burlão romântico ajudá-lo-ão definitivamente a desvendá-lo e às suas verdadeiras intenções. They’ll probably have a história antiga for some of these questions, but they definitely won’t be prepared to answer them all if they’re indeed scammers.
Além disso, pode tentar com BeenVerified, TruthFinder, Instant Checkmate e semelhantes inquérito pessoal sítios. Pode utilizar as fotografias que têm no seu perfil de encontros e digitalizá-las através da pesquisa inversa de imagens no Google.
No final do dia, se a pessoa continuar a evitar encontrar-se consigo pessoalmente, deve considerar isso como uma enorme bandeira vermelha.
Give them some time, but if they still don’t want to go out with you, the only logical explanation is that they don’t want you to reveal their true identity.
Como é que se é mais esperto que um Golpista de romance?
After you’ve exposed a scammer, the next step is to plan how to outsmart them. You need to do everything in your power to make them go on a video call with you or meet with you face-to-face (even though I’m pretty sure they’ll never accept a meeting in person).
No momento em que eles mostram a cara, é preciso tirar uma fotografia deles, ou uma ideia ainda melhor seria gravar o seu conversação por vídeo/chamar.
O objetivo é obter provas da sua verdadeira identidade. Depois de conseguir o que quer, pode divertir-se com eles e dizer-lhes que sabe tudo sobre o esquema romântico que estavam a planear.
Tell them that you’re going to report them to the authorities immediately with all the evidence you have against them. Oh, do take another pic of them at that moment because I’m sure their expression will be priceless.
Naturalmente, deve sempre denunciar o esquema de encontros ou qualquer outro esquema de que tenha provas às autoridades. Para ser mais exato, deve denunciá-lo à Comissão Federal do Comércio.
Também pode avisar os serviços de encontros em que o seu burlão tem perfis de que o perfil é falso e que devem apagá-lo ou removê-lo.
Principais conclusões
Online dating sites are unfortunately full of fake identities and profiles. There are many dating scammers who operate on those kinds of sites and social media platforms, and it’s impossible to catch them all.
Fraudes em linha tornaram-se uma coisa normal, e muitas pessoas já se depararam com esse tipo de experiências desagradáveis.
That’s why I hope from the bottom of my heart that this list of personal questions to ask a romance scammer will help you expose those online dating scams and frauds. I would be eternally happy to know that I helped someone expose a scammer and saved them from a broken heart.
Por favor, tenham cuidado com o mundo online!Pay attention to what you post on your social media sites, and don’t ever reveal too much about yourself on dating apps. The moment you notice red flags about a person, do a background check on them or report them to the authorities immediately and let them do a check-up on them.
