Para a rapariga que nunca foi "a tal"

For as long as you can remember, you’ve always been a man’s segunda opção.

You’ve had multiple relationships and different guys have called you their girlfriend but you know that not one of them ever saw you as his soulmate. 

Esteve lá quando eles precisaram de alguém conveniente.

Quando queriam uma namorada só para ter uma relação, quando queriam ser uma namorada de ricochete para os ajudar a curar o seu coração partido e quando o medo de ficarem sozinhos os dominava. 

Desde que te lembras, you’ve always been a man’s second best. A rapariga simpática que, teoricamente, lhes dá tudo o que precisam, mas também a rapariga que nunca amam verdadeiramente.

To put things simply, you’re a good girlfriend “on paper”. You are good looking, people consider you funny and interesting, and you’re definitely anything but stupid.

So, at the end of the day, you actually have no idea why your relationships end. You never get the closure you need and every guy who has broken up with you just tells you that you’re not the one. 

None of them have seen you as their forever person. You’ve never felt their unconditional love and undivided attention.

Em vez disso, cada um dos teus namorados amou-te com metade dos seus corações.

Eras suficientemente bom para eles até encontrarem outra pessoa, ou enquanto estavam pacientemente à espera de uma rapariga que os pôs em espera.

It’s like they used you as a passing station instead of a final destination. They needed you on their journey to finding true love instead of seeing you as their goal.

Verdade seja dita, all of the loves you’ve had were temporary– you were someone who served the moment.

Nenhum homem na tua vida te viu como algo permanente ou como uma mulher com quem querem envelhecer.

Consequentemente, you can’t help but feel like a consolation prize. Como a rapariga a quem os rapazes recorrem quando não há ninguém melhor por perto e a quem recorrem quando todos os outros os abandonam.

The worst part is that you’ve tried your best in each one of your relationships. You’ve never held parts of yourself back and each time, you’ve hoped you’ve finally found your match made in heaven.

However, it’s always turned out to be different. You’ve always ended up feeling like a supporting role and you’ve never actually had the chance to be the star of your own love movie. 

Well, I’m here to ask you not to lose hope. Pode não parecer agora, mas acreditem em mim quando vos digo que nenhum destes tipos foi a pessoa certa para sitambém não. 

Nenhum deles foi a tua alma gémea e a tua pessoa para sempre. Sabe porquê? Porque esse homem ainda está para cruzar o vosso caminho.

As painful as this might be, the truth is that there are some things beyond your comprehension and some events you can’t impact, as much as you try.

What I’m trying to tell you is that none of your past relationships were meant to last. None of your exes were meant to be yours and there is nothing you can really do about it.

However, that doesn’t mean that your Prince Charming won’t come eventually. 

It doesn’t mean that you’re sentenced to a loveless life just because you’ve had a few bad experiences. It doesn’t mean that you’re not meant to be loved or that you should give up on relationships altogether. 

Acredita em mim quando te digo que um dia destes o teu destino vai mudar drasticamente.

There will come a man who will love you in all the ways you’ve never been loved and a man who will always treat you as the only woman in the world. 

A man who won’t see you as a rebound, as a girl to pick up his broken pieces, or as something temporary. Um homem que está destinado a ser seu e que a verá como a sua primeira e única pessoa. 

Só tens de esperar pelo momento certo. Além disso, tens de estar preparado para a sua chegada.

Porque when he comes, he’ll make you realize why it’s never worked with anyone before him.