Recuperar o seu coração e ouvir o seu cérebro
A nossa relação parecia o filme "Inception" misturado com "He's Just Not That Into You" e "Fifty Shades of Grey", tudo correu horrivelmente mal.
It’s hard for us women to listen to our brain when deciding to get out of something so toxic like a bad relationship. Not only have we been manipulated by a stupid boy, but… we also battle heartache vs. gut feelings (our brain) and we battle every damn Disney fairy tale vs. reality.
Era difícil para mim ouvir o meu cérebro quando quem eu pensava ser a minha alma gémea, por natureza, procurava as suas necessidades e cuidava delas em vez das minhas.
Pode dizer-se que eu era o brinquedo perfeito para brincar. Vinha com pilhas incluídas e o meu objetivo era agradar para fazer o meu consumidor, ele, feliz.
No entanto, quando se ouve o cérebro, you’re able to take your heart back from him. You will be able to see things clearly. You will be able to see how much he underestimated the value you brought into the relationship.
Quando recuperares o teu coração, you will be able to see that when you’re with someone who’s an expert at gaslighting, it’s hard to not take the blame and it’s hard to see that your own intentions were pure.
Quando recuperares o teu coração and listen to your brain, it’s easy to see that you cannot waste your time on someone who is clearly so undeserving of the love you gave him. You are able to see that people like him don’t change. People like him are a waste of your time. No matter how many articles you read, the outcome will still be the same (he’s not the exception).
Quando recuperares o teu coração, Culpa e culpabilidade nunca serão duas palavras que vos passarão pela cabeça para explicar porque é que ele nunca mudou.
Quando recuperares o teu coração, you’ll realize those girls he always called ‘friends’ were just backups for when he felt you had failed.
Quando recuperares o teu coração, you’ll realize your self-worth.
I allowed my partner to place me on diets, to make fun of my eyes, to mimic the way I dressed, and the worst part was I let him treat me like a slave in the bedroom. I’m pretty sure if Christian Grey himself was an actual person, even he’d be disgusted by the way I was treated. But I allowed this because I loved him. I allowed this because I loved him with every cell in my body. I allowed this because I refused to listen to my brain. I placed all my logic and decision-making into my heart. I know I’m not the only woman who has been through this battle.
However, I grew wise to his games, and with time my heart grew cold toward him. It was like the worst possible winter inside my body. Once he was able to crush my heart, I knew I was the only person who could heal it and I knew it was time to listen to my brain and take back the crushed pieces—he had left me like broken glass on the floor.
Quando recuperares o teu coração, you’ll realize how incredibly strong you are.
Quando recuperares o teu coração and listen to your brain, you’ll delete his number and block him on social media.
Quando recuperares o teu coração, you’ll understand that the right person will help you realize your self-worth and the right person will have no problem encouraging you along the way.
