7 Razões pelas quais ele se comprometeu com outra rapariga depois de ter tido uma relação casual consigo

Tenho quase a certeza de que conhece a famosa frase: "Não há nada de errado consigo, sou eu".

Na verdade, isto aconteceu-me a mim e também a algumas amigas minhas, em que cada uma andou com um rapaz durante algumas semanas e tudo parecia perfeito.

Estavam cem por cento seguros de que iriam estabelecer uma relação saudável, relação de compromisso (tal como eu).

And then, all of a sudden, the guy told them that he didn’t want anything serious. To be more specific, the guy told them that he was NOT INTERESTED in anything serious.

Lord knows when someone tells me this, I instantly withdraw and respect their opinion because I’m definitely not desperate and neither are my friends. But what happened next is what actually caught my attention.

Pouco tempo depois de terem dito que não estavam interessados em nada sério, cada um deles estava numa relação séria e comprometida. Oh, a ironia!

No início, o meu único desejo era apagar toda a espécie masculina do planeta, mas depois cheguei a uma solução mais racional.

Since there’s no point in holding grudges forever, my friends and I decided to look at things from a different perspective.

We tried to understand and explain this phenomenon of the guy ‘who wants something casual’ but then commits to the next girl and if you’re going through the same, here are 7 possible reasons why he committed to another girl after going casual with you!

He does want commitment, he just doesn’t want it with you

I know it sounds harsh but sometimes it’s the truth. Many guys out there really do want commitment but with the right one. Now, what does this mean?

This definitely doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you or that you should have changed for him only to make him commit to you. No.

It means you just weren’t meant to be together and there’s no point in blaming him for committing to the next girl.

Na verdade, devia agradecer-lhe por não se ter comprometido consigo, porque ele acabou de lhe poupar muita ansiedade e salvou-a de um desgosto ainda mais doloroso.

Ele não faz ideia do que quer

And there’s this other category of guys who have no idea what they really want. To me, personally, this is the worst one.

Quando um rapaz não faz ideia do que quer, com quem quer, quando ou como, as hipóteses de estragar tudo são muito elevadas.

E já para não falar que ser indeciso é um enorme desinteresse para qualquer mulher. Por isso, se ele lhe disse uma coisa num dia e outra no dia seguinte, sabe que ele não fazia ideia do que realmente queria (e pode dar graças a Deus por ele se ter ido embora).

E mesmo que ele decidisse comprometer-se consigo, em breve mudaria de ideias e repetiria os mesmos cenários vezes sem conta. Quer dizer, quem é que precisa disto na sua vida? Exatamente ninguém.

Ele já andava a sair com outra pessoa

Here’s an interesting one. There are some guys who, due to being indecisive or just due to being the ultimate assholes, choose to date two girls simultaneously (of course, without telling them this). You can probably guess the rest of the scenario.

Ele andou com as duas e, de repente, apercebeu-se de que gostava mais da outra rapariga, pelo que decidiu comprometer-se com ela e abandoná-la.

Ah, o mundo em que vivemos. Também se pode interpretar isto como a sua falta de vontade de ferir os seus sentimentos ou a sua falta de vontade de ser apanhado em flagrante. Escolhe tu.

Foi na altura errada

E, por vezes, as coisas são realmente boas, mas o momento não é o mais adequado. Talvez tenha acontecido algo na vida dele que tenha mudado a sua perspetiva sobre as relações na altura em que estava consigo. E quando ele conheceu a outra rapariga, o momento era o certo.

Again, I would link this one with the first one that says you just weren’t meant to be. After all, when two people are bound to be together, there is just no wrong time.

E se estiver errado, certamente que se voltarão a encontrar quando chegar a altura certa. Quando se olha para as coisas desta forma, parece bastante razoável.

He’s facing external pressure

Believe it or not, sometimes guys are facing external pressure from their friends or family. Sometimes the people close to them don’t really like the girl they are dating, so they feel pressured to quit things.

If you’ve noticed that any of this was going on, then this could be the reason why he committed to another girl after going casual with you.

Again, if this is the reason why he did that, it only shows his weakness and fickleness. It means he doesn’t trust himself and he dances to other people’s tunes.

Now, I’m not saying that he should never listen to his friends and family no matter what. Indeed he should but he should also listen to himself as well and that is the main characteristic of real men.

As associações dele com o compromisso mudaram depois de o perder

When you mention the word ‘commitment’ to any guy, he will see it as something imprisoning. Boys and young men are encouraged to have fun, explore the world and only after to settle down to commit.

And if the guy you were dating didn’t go through any of this, he will feel imprisoned with you and he will tell you that he is not interested in or ready for anything serious.

And after he’s had his fun and explored the world, his associations with commitment will change. So, when he meets the next suitable girl, he will choose to commit to her because he feels he’s finally ready for it.

He really didn’t want commitment but the right one came along

And the last but not the least. There are some guys who really didn’t want commitment, not with you or with any others but somehow the right one came along after you.

If this is the case, you can’t really blame him because he was consistent in his decision that he didn’t want commitment but then he was kind of forced to change his mind because he finally met the right one.

And I can assure you that the same will happen to you sooner than you think and you will be happy that things didn’t work out with the guy who refused to commit.

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