7 regras para enviar mensagens de texto durante o namoro para facilitar a sua vida amorosa

A forma como envia as mensagens de texto e a forma como interpreta os textos dele nas fases iniciais do namoro podem fazer a diferença na relação.

It seems like the dating world of today is unimaginable without texting and it seems to me it’s a lot harder for us women than for men.

I think that’s because whether we like to admit it or not, men made the rules of texting in their mind and it’s no wonder we get lost in them.

‘When to text, when not to text?’ , ‘When is texting perceived as clingy and when as uninterested?’ , ‘Why hasn’t he texted back, it’s already been half a day since I texted him?’…. It’s exhausting and it’s taking up way too much of our time.

It’s time we make our own rules and stick to them. I believe we all have had enough of playing by male rules; to be more precise, we have had enough of games altogether.

Siga estas 7 regras mais importantes para enviar mensagens de texto durante o namoro e veja como a sua vida amorosa se torna melhor e mais fácil:

1. Always text ‘NO’ to his last-minute plans

Não vale a pena queixares-te aos teus amigos sobre as mensagens de texto que ele envia a altas horas da noite e os planos para sair à última hora.

That won’t change a thing if you meet with him anyway.

Se quer que ele pense no futuro e faça planos para encontros, mostre-lhe o caminho.

Every time he has a sudden desire to see you, tell him something along the lines of, “Sorry, I can’t right now, I am somewhere/have other plans.

Wish you had told me about it sooner.”

It’s a nice and polite way to tell him that you won’t be at his beck and call and that you want to be treated as a priority, not an option.

2. Deitar fora todas as teorias sobre mensagens de texto vs. chamadas

Most women would argue that if he only texts and never calls then he simply isn’t interested enough. This couldn’t be further from the truth.

It’s time to look at texting from a male point of view: it’s easier and more efficient, they are usually better at expressing themselves in writing than through speech, alguns são tímidos assim mais confiantes ao enviar mensagens de texto, alguns acreditam que há menos hipóteses de estragar as coisas através de mensagens de texto, etc.

No entanto, when he doesn’t text back for days, you shouldn’t try to find excuses for such behavior. 

Also, one more major thing to consider here is whether you’ve been dating for a while or just had a few dates. You can’t expect a man you’ve been on three dates with to call you and talk to you for an hour, as he wouldn’t know where to begin or what to say.

3. Insert an, “I’ll call you later,” game changer

Se não gosta mesmo de mensagens de texto e prefere uma chamada normal ou mesmo uma videochamada, introduza essa noção subtilmente nas suas conversas.

Diz-lhe que és muito melhor a falar do que a enviar mensagens.

Or when you sense that the moment is right, just text ‘Sorry I’m busy right now but I’ll call you later and tell you all about it’.

Desta forma, será você a dar o primeiro passo e verá se ele segue o seu exemplo.

It’s important you make some compromise here and meet each other halfway as it will be easier for other aspects of your relationship too.

4. Don’t send sexts if you want more than sex

Don’t give him any boyfriend benefits until he is actually your boyfriend. Don’t send sexts in the early phases of a relationship either.

You don’t have to be a prude but you can postpone sexting até que ele se torne alguém que conhecemos e em quem confiamos.

If sexting begins too soon, he will assume that you are in it just for sex or that you are easy to get into bed and after he gets what he wants, he will be on his way. So, don’t rush it.

On the other hand, if he insists on sexting or sends you texts that are full of sexual implications, you will know exactly where you stand with him; he is not interested in your heart—just your body.

If that’s not something you are into, wave him goodbye and send him packing, as he is not worth your time.

5. Evitar cair na armadilha das (más) interpretações

What’s taking him so long to respond? What is the meaning of his ‘OK’ text, is he mad at me?  

Ontem estivemos todo o dia a enviar mensagens, por isso hoje ele perdeu o interesse ou está a fazer jogos? etc.

Most women love to interpret texts and unread texts, I know I was one of them until the simple truth slapped me in the face: The male brain is completely opposite to the female brain; we don’t look at things the same way.

Try to relax and not give it too much thought. In the early stages of dating, you don’t need to be so strict as you are just getting to know each other.

He doesn’t have to set a schedule of when to text.

O importante é ver que ele está interessado, que está a fazer o possível para se manter em contacto e conhecê-la um pouco melhor através de mensagens de texto e, mais importante ainda, que está a fazer planos para a ver pessoalmente.

6. Nunca enviar um texto de seguimento ou uma mensagem de texto em excesso

Sempre que tiver vontade de enviar um texto de seguimento, resista o mais que puder.

Se ele quisesse responder, tê-lo-ia feito ou poderia não ter visto a sua mensagem e um seguimento pareceria que está necessitada e desesperada pela atenção dele.

If he isn’t sending a text back there is nothing you can do about it. Let him be. Not getting a text back is a strong message in itself.

Don’t make things worse on yourself by sending a follow-up text.

Don’t send him tons of texts either, as even if he responds to all of them it’s the quickest way to suffocate your potential relationship.

Be more concerned with quality and not quantity; it’s more about what you text about than texting all the time.

Saber onde ele esteve o dia todo ou o que comeu ao pequeno-almoço é basicamente inútil, mas um texto em que ele diz que pensou em si o dia todo é ouro puro.

7. Deixem-no ser um homem e assumir a liderança de vez em quando

Penso que muitas de vós concordarão comigo quando digo que as mulheres de hoje precisam de se sentir mais mulheres.

Queremos alguém que nos corteje e nos faça sentir especiais ou, por outras palavras, precisamos de um homem que envie aquela maldita primeira mensagem de vez em quando.

It doesn’t have to be a rule, it doesn’t have to be always but it would be great if men would initiate a conversation more times than a woman does.

This doesn’t mean developing tactics or playing games, it’s a simple fact that men lose interest in things they get served on a silver platter, so if you are the one texting all the time, there is no need for him to make any efforts.