O que significa realmente a sua chamada de bêbado? 4 possibilidades

I know it’s the call that is the most difficult not to pick up the phone on, but his late-night drunk call is probably the only one that you shouldn’t answer. Not at any price!

Sabes como diz a Dua Lipa “Don’t pegar no telefone, sabe he’s only callin’ ’cause he’s drunk and alone…”

Unfortunately, that’s the truth. The ONE AND ONLY TRUTH.

I know, he might be calling to say that he loves you and that he never stopped thinking about you. And all of it may be the truth but it could also be just the alcohol talking… That means another heartbreak for you once he sobers up and realizes what he has done.

Se quer descobrir porque é que o seu ex continua mensagens de texto em estado de embriaguez or calling you, keep reading below. Also, I know that is preventing you from moving on and I’ll help you to navigate those chamadas de bêbado e deixá-los no seu passado, juntamente com o seu ex.

O que é que significa quando ele telefona bêbado?

Drunk dialing is really trending these days, especially among guys, right? Yeah, I know. It just seems that whenever your ex gets drunk, you’re the only person whose phone number he has in his phone and he just has to call you.

Do drunk calls mean anything? Why does he keep calling me only when he’s drunk? I know that you’re currently busting your head with these kinds of questions.

On the one hand, you know it’s not because ele ama-te. But, on the other hand, it also gives you a trace of hope that he isn’t totally indifferent to you.

I’m so sorry that I have to be the one to break it to you, but the most common reason for a guy’s drunk dialing is just to get into your pants.

Of course, it can also mean that he’s calling you because ele está apaixonado por ti but doesn’t have the guts to admit it to you when he’s sober. Guys feel more relaxed and a lot more confident when they’re intoxicated. Well, to be honest, we all do.

If this is happening to you for the first time and you’re trying to make sense out of his drunk calls, scroll down for more possible reasons and explanations.

Chamadas de bêbados = Chamadas de bêbados

The most probable thing is that this guy doesn’t love you the way you think. I hate to be the one to break it to you again, but it is likely that és apenas conveniente para ele sempre que ele bebe.

É possível que ele saiba que você é a única pessoa que atende o telefone, independentemente da altura em que ele lhe telefona.

You know you are the girl who won’t have any issue leaving everyone and everything behind just so you can run to see him or pick him up.

Sei que ouvir isto é doloroso, mas também é possível que ele pense em si como o seu último recurso.

He probably isn’t drunk calling you to say “Eu amo-te“. As painful as it sounds, the most common case scenario is that he only wants to hook up with you in a random parking lot, have some one-night stand fun and he’ll forget about you till the next time he gets drunk.

Ele pensa em si como o seu cofre engate and nothing else. And while you keep answering his calls, you’ll keep giving him the right to think so.

That’s why you always have to be aware of your own worth. No matter how much you love someone, you should never ever let them treat you any worse than you deserve to be treated.

Ver também: Se um homem faz estas 10 coisas, você não é nada mais do que o seu convite para sair

You’re his ego booster

Whenever he goes out with his best friends, he probably tries to get into some girl’s pants and when he doesn’t succeed in doing so, a sua autoestima baixa. Especialmente se os seus amigos começarem a gozar com ele por causa disso.

So, he takes his cell phone and calls you because he thinks that you’ll never turn him down. He is just usando-o como um impulso para o ego.

He’s aware of your feelings and he’s just using them for his own benefit and, of course, to please his own needs and have some fun. And every time you answer that phone call, his ego gets boosted.

Eu sei que you’re head over heels for this guy and a simple phone call with him is a dream come true for you, but think about it… Do you really want to be used like that?

If you’re looking for lasting love, not a casual flip, then this guy clearly isn’t the right one for you. If he truly likes you, he would text you every single day, not just when he gets drunk and expects to get lucky.

You’re only his option, his plan B

Vocês os dois estão numa espécie de quase relação but it’s quite clear that you are the one who cares more.

Ele é aquele que recusa-se a comprometer-se and who always puts you on hold while you’ve clearly grown to love him.

Este homem nunca a põe em primeiro lugar e trata-a sempre como mais uma das suas opções.

Raramente mostra sinais de afeto ou amor por si e, na maioria das vezes, tem de implorar por migalhas da sua atenção.

Mas tudo isso muda de repente quando ele bebe um pouco mais. De repente, ele torna-se o homem dos seus sonhos.

All of a sudden, he starts calling and texting you all the time. He becomes eager to see you and he tells you everything you’ve always wanted to hear.

E com o tempo, os seus episódios de embriaguez tornaram-se os pontos altos da sua vida.

You’ve started waiting for him to become like this because this is actually one of the rare times you get to enjoy this man’s love.

Just admit it, you were waiting for his phone call last night too, right? I know you did and you’ll wait for it the next day also and every other day, until one day it finally hits you and you realize that you’re so much better than that…

Isso mereces muito mais. Que mereces um tipo de amor completamente diferente. Que mereces um tipo de homem totalmente diferente, aquele que te amará da mesma forma, tanto bêbado como sóbrio.

Despite it all, sometimes a drunk mind truly speaks a sober heart…

When you think about alcohol, one of the things you usually connect it with is honesty. You’ve always had the opinion that people are always the most honest when they are drunk.

After all, they don’t say ‘a drunk mind speaks a sober heart’ without any reason, right?

And it is simple—alcohol makes you become less inhibited and makes you lose a part of your self-control.

The fact is that people use alcohol as a social lubricant. This usually results in people telling more truth and saying things they usually wouldn’t when they are sober.

Esta é a teoria a que se agarra especialmente quando se trata dessa pessoa que entra e sai da sua vida.

O facto é que este homem normalmente age com frieza e desinteresse durante o dia, quando está sóbrio. Mas parece mesmo que ele se transforma num homem completamente diferente assim que reúne coragem suficiente. Aquele que de repente é capaz de confessar todos os seus sentimentos.

Yes, you’ve heard me well. Even though it’s such a rarity, the drunk dial can really mean an honest confession of love. But, don’t pin your hopes on his drunk dials until you get the confirmation of his confession once he sobers up.

Be honest with yourself…

Será que isto é realmente algo que queres para ti? Será que este tipo de relação o faz realmente feliz?

Eu sei que pensas é óbvio que ele tem sentimentos fortes por si e é nesta altura que ele não tem problemas em expressá-los.

Assume que a sua personalidade de bêbado é a sua verdadeira personalidade e que finge não a amar quando está sóbrio.

Continua a justificá-lo e a procurar desculpas pelo seu comportamento. E as mensagens de texto e os telefonemas bêbados estão a prendê-la a ele.

Dão-lhe um traço de esperança de que este homem tem sentimentos reais por si, mas que está a fazer tudo para os esconder.

Well, even if this is true, it is obvious that he is a guy who isn’t capable of facing his own emotions because he needs some liquid courage to do so.

E é óbvio que ele é demasiado um cobarde para vos dizer o que realmente sente quando está sóbrio.

Deve pedir desculpa por ligar embriagado?

Esta é uma pergunta difícil e, para ser sincero, sinto uma grande ambivalência em relação a esta questão.

Se telefonou bêbado para a sua ex-namorada ou ex-namorado só para lhe dar um pedaço da sua mente e disse algumas palavras feias das quais se arrependeu na manhã seguinte quando ficou sóbrio, deve telefonar ou enviar-lhe uma mensagem de texto e pedir desculpa.

Just say that you know that alcohol isn’t an excuse for behaving that way, you were drunk and weren’t aware of your actions.

You shouldn’t literally beg them to forgive you, because it’ll only make you look lamer. You should only apologize for those nasty words that you would never say to them nor to anyone else when you’re sober.

On the flip side, if you feel good and happy about your drunk dial even after you sober up, if you feel relieved after you’ve let it all out, don’t apologize.

De facto, nunca se deve pedir desculpa a qualquer pessoa por qualquer coisa que o faça sentir feliz e satisfeito.

Só deve pedir desculpa a si próprio por ter guardado todos esses sentimentos dentro de si durante demasiado tempo e ter destruído a sua própria saúde emocional e mental.

Palavras finais

The bottom line is that your drunk dialer is not the kind of man who deserves a place in your life. You don’t need someone who will remember you only when he’s drunk.

Em vez disso, merece um homem que orgulhosamente lhe dê a mão em todas as circunstâncias e situações.

And you’ll never meet a man like this until you quebrar coisas com este gajo.

Os telefonemas e as mensagens de texto dele, quando está bêbado, estão a mantê-la agarrada a este homem. Dão-lhe uma réstia de esperança de que ele a ama de verdade e que o álcool apenas o ajuda a fazer aflorar as suas emoções.

One day, you’ll understand it all… You’ll understand that he doesn’t love you da maneira que mereces ser amado.

You’ll understand that he isn’t and never was the right guy for you. And you won’t pick up the phone, no matter how long it keeps ringing.