Não deixes que ele te trate como uma opção

Independentemente do quanto ele significava para si ou do quanto o amava, nenhum amor pode ser uma desculpa para permitir que um homem tratam-no como uma opção. I’m sure of this because I, too, have learned it the hard way.

Como a história começa sempre, houve um tipo que reparou em mim. Começámos a passar tempo juntos e eu apaixonei-me por ele. Ele era doce, charmoso e simpático.

He was almost perfect and soon I had so many butterflies in my stomach that I thought I’d faint each time he looked at me.

Mas, it didn’t just occur to me that there was something happening between us nor did I just randomly decided to have feelings for him. He made me fall for him.

He was the one to tell me how much he was into me and how much he wanted to try to see how things would work out between us. He said that he wanted me and that’s all I got. I only got his words, with zero effort.

We were on and off and went round and round and I kept waiting for him to choose me. But he wasn’t gonna do that. I mean, why would he?

I’d already proved to him that I’d be waiting for him no matter whom else he spent his time with the most.

Permiti que ele me tratasse como uma opção porque pensava que ele era uma dádiva de Deus e que eu devia estar feliz por ele estar interessado em mim.

Well, you know what? That was one huge pile of crap. He wasn’t special at all. It was me who made him so special. It was me who gave him all those divine traits, based only on the promises he gave me.

I know I should’ve known better, but I fell so hard for him that there was no possibility that I’d ever use my head to think about him.

It was always my heart that was making decisions. Turned out that my heart isn’t really the best organ to rely on.

Eu era tão alheia às coisas que ele fazia. Esqueci-me do meu valor e esqueci-me completamente dos meus valores. Deixei-o tratar-me como uma opção. Deixei-o ir e vir como quisesse.

Esperei ansiosamente pelo seu texto durante dias, apenas para ficar desiludida com algumas tretas que ele escreveu apenas para me manter agarrada.

Then I decided I deserved more than someone’s crumbs. I decided I was worth being someone’s first option and if he wasn’t willing to put me at the top of his priority list then he didn’t deserve to be in my life at all.

Por isso, deixei de o deixar tratar-me como uma opção. I actually decided I didn’t want him to treat me either way because I realized he was not the right one for me, no matter how much I wished he was.

O facto é que se um homem a quer, não há necessidade de pedir para o escolher a si.

There is no need to beg for his attention because he’d give you all his time if he thought anything was serious with you.

I stopped answering his random messages, I stopped romanticizing his 3am calls when he was drunk and I gave up waiting for someone who wasn’t headed my way to begin with.

All that happened to me got me thinking and I couldn’t help but wonder: Quantas raparigas permitem que os homens as tratem como uma opção?

Quantas raparigas deixam que os homens as usem apenas quando precisam delas? Quantas raparigas deixam que os homens ditem o seu valor? Quantas delas confundem fuckboys com homens a sério?

Don’t ever let a man dictate your worth. If you do, you’ll end up waiting to be chosen by a man who has everyone else on his priority list above you. And it will be the worst feeling in this world.

Don’t ever let a man treat you like an option. If he doesn’t want to choose you, do yourself a favor and choose yourself. Choose to walk away.

Even if you don’t want to, even if you love him to the moon and back, even if you can’t picture your life without him, sometimes you’re obliged to be your own hero and understand that even though there are people you can’t live without, they’re perfectly capable of living without you.

If he lets you wonder if he likes you or not then he isn’t right one for you. O homem certo nunca deixaria a sua rapariga questionar o seu afeto, he’d be the one to make sure she felt like on the top of the world with him.

He wouldn’t just talk, he’d make sure that his words were followed by his actions.

So if he isn’t treating you right, if you’re not on his priority list, walk away.

It might be painful at first, but after some time, after you grow enough to be able to figure some things, you’ll see how walking away from someone who treats you like an option is the best thing you could do.

Asking him to choose you but staying even after he doesn’t would mean that you’re allowing him to do to you whatever he wants.

It would show him you’re weak and that he’s the one in charge of your life.

But walking away would show him your determination and would show him you’re not just a pretty face.

It would show him you’re a girl who’s perfectly capable of taking care of herself.

Afastar-se significaria colocar-se no topo da lista de prioridades quando outra pessoa não teve a decência de o fazer.

So walk away from anyone who doesn’t see your worth. Because there will be someone who’ll thank you for freeing your path for him.

There will be someone worthy who’ll choose to see your worth but only if you move all the toxic people out of his way.

So walk away and never let anyone treat you like an option. You deserve to be someone’s priority.