No dejes que te trate como una opción

Independientemente de lo mucho que significara para ti o de lo mucho que le quisieras, ningún amor puede ser nunca una excusa para permitir que un hombre tratarte como una opción. I’m sure of this because I, too, have learned it the hard way.

Como siempre empieza la historia, hubo un chico que se fijó en mí. Empezamos a pasar tiempo juntos y me enamoré de él. Era dulce, encantador y simpático.

He was almost perfect and soon I had so many butterflies in my stomach that I thought I’d faint each time he looked at me.

Pero.., it didn’t just occur to me that there was something happening between us nor did I just randomly decided to have feelings for him. He made me fall for him.

He was the one to tell me how much he was into me and how much he wanted to try to see how things would work out between us. He said that he wanted me and that’s all I got. I only got his words, with zero effort.

We were on and off and went round and round and I kept waiting for him to choose me. But he wasn’t gonna do that. I mean, why would he?

I’d already proved to him that I’d be waiting for him no matter whom else he spent his time with the most.

Permití que me tratara como una opción porque creía que era un regalo de Dios y que debía alegrarme de que se interesara por mí.

Well, you know what? That was one huge pile of crap. He wasn’t special at all. It was me who made him so special. It was me who gave him all those divine traits, based only on the promises he gave me.

I know I should’ve known better, but I fell so hard for him that there was no possibility that I’d ever use my head to think about him.

It was always my heart that was making decisions. Turned out that my heart isn’t really the best organ to rely on.

Era tan inconsciente de las cosas que hacía. Olvidé mi valía y me olvidé por completo de mis valores. Dejé que me tratara como una opción. Le dejé ir y venir a su antojo.

Estuve esperando ansiosamente su mensaje durante días, sólo para decepcionarme con alguna gilipollez que escribía sólo para mantenerme enganchada.

Then I decided I deserved more than someone’s crumbs. I decided I was worth being someone’s first option and if he wasn’t willing to put me at the top of his priority list then he didn’t deserve to be in my life at all.

Así que dejé de dejar que me tratara como una opción. I actually decided I didn’t want him to treat me either way because I realized he was not the right one for me, no matter how much I wished he was.

El hecho es que si un chico te desea, no hay necesidad de que se lo pidas. que te elija a ti.

There is no need to beg for his attention because he’d give you all his time if he thought anything was serious with you.

I stopped answering his random messages, I stopped romanticizing his 3am calls when he was drunk and I gave up waiting for someone who wasn’t headed my way to begin with.

All that happened to me got me thinking and I couldn’t help but wonder: ¿Cuántas chicas permiten que los hombres las traten como una opción?

¿Cuántas chicas dejan que los hombres las utilicen sólo cuando las necesitan? ¿Cuántas chicas dejan que los hombres dicten su valor? ¿Cuántas confunden a los follamigos con hombres de verdad?

Don’t ever let a man dictate your worth. If you do, you’ll end up waiting to be chosen by a man who has everyone else on his priority list above you. And it will be the worst feeling in this world.

Don’t ever let a man treat you like an option. If he doesn’t want to choose you, do yourself a favor and choose yourself. Choose to walk away.

Even if you don’t want to, even if you love him to the moon and back, even if you can’t picture your life without him, sometimes you’re obliged to be your own hero and understand that even though there are people you can’t live without, they’re perfectly capable of living without you.

If he lets you wonder if he likes you or not then he isn’t right one for you. El hombre correcto nunca dejaría que su chica cuestionara su afecto, he’d be the one to make sure she felt like on the top of the world with him.

He wouldn’t just talk, he’d make sure that his words were followed by his actions.

So if he isn’t treating you right, if you’re not on his priority list, walk away.

It might be painful at first, but after some time, after you grow enough to be able to figure some things, you’ll see how walking away from someone who treats you like an option is the best thing you could do.

Asking him to choose you but staying even after he doesn’t would mean that you’re allowing him to do to you whatever he wants.

It would show him you’re weak and that he’s the one in charge of your life.

But walking away would show him your determination and would show him you’re not just a pretty face.

It would show him you’re a girl who’s perfectly capable of taking care of herself.

Alejarse significaría ponerse a uno mismo en lo más alto de la lista de prioridades cuando otra persona no tuvo la decencia de hacerlo.

So walk away from anyone who doesn’t see your worth. Because there will be someone who’ll thank you for freeing your path for him.

There will be someone worthy who’ll choose to see your worth but only if you move all the toxic people out of his way.

So walk away and never let anyone treat you like an option. You deserve to be someone’s priority.