Eles são "maus a enviar mensagens de texto" (ou simplesmente não estão interessados em si)?

If you ask me, texting is a double-edged sword. It helps us stay connected with people we care about (and ignore those we don’t), and at the same time, it has the power to make our lives a living hell.

Desde quando é que estas questões se tornaram a nossa preocupação quotidiana? OMG, they haven’t sent me an emoji in a text message… what if they’re mad at me? They sent me a one-word reply. I seriously think that I should ask them what’s going on here.

Don’t even get me started on the “Seen” syndrome: I know they read my text message, but they still haven’t replied. Should I double-text them or should I pretend that I don’t care and that it’s okay for them to ignore me FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE?

(I still can’t forgive the person who invented that famous “Seen” por nos ter arruinado a vida).

All these things force us to question whether they are ‘bad at texting’ or are they just not that into us. I know one thing for sure:

A diferenciação entre os dois não é tão fácil como pode parecer.

It’s really hard to tell when a person is simply texting anti-talent and when they don’t care about you.

The worst thing of all is our tendency to make excuses for their behavior, so the phrase ‘bad at texting’ is sometimes nothing more than a LIE that we tell to ourselves because we don’t want to face the truth.

But, today, we’ll face the truth together.

Are they really ‘bad at texting’, but great in real life?

Então, conheceu um rapaz/rapariga fantástico e tudo parece perfeito quando estão juntos. Ele(a) dá-lhe muito carinho, fá-lo(a) rir, fá-lo(a) sentir-se especial e você gosta muito da companhia dele(a).

And then, when you’re back at your place, things change drastically. You wait for them to text you for hours and nothing happens.

Ou então, enviam-nos algo completamente confuso e isso faz-nos questionar tudo.

So, there you are, sitting next to your cell phone overthinking and thinking about what’s exactly going on here.

Será que são mesmo péssimos a enviar mensagens de texto, mas são fantásticos na vida real? Será que isso existe mesmo?

Acredite ou não, sim, existe. I’ve been with a guy who was really TERRIBLE at texting and I would always overthink things and worry about everything.

After some time, I asked him to tell me honestly how he’s feeling about me and to explain to me his texting indifference.

He told me that he’s totally crazy about me, but he doesn’t like texting. Finally, I realized that the reason why he sometimes ignored my text messages is that he hated replying to them, which brought me to the following conclusion:

If a person makes an effort in real life to treat you the way you deserve, then yes, chances are they are just ‘bad at texting’.

O que fazer quando o seu parceiro é mau a enviar mensagens de texto (mas ótimo na vida real)

A pior coisa que pode fazer é começar a bombardeá-lo com toneladas de mensagens de texto e exigir que ele responda a cada uma delas, numa tentativa de o forçar a mudar.

Here’s o que fazer quando o seu parceiro é mau a enviar mensagens de texto (mas ótimo na vida real):

• Keep seeing them in person as frequently as possible

• Don’t bombard them with text messages, but keep it simple

• Don’t see it as an issue, but try to understand it

• Instead of texting, prefer to call them

• Talk to them about it

Remember: their affection has nothing to do with their texting habit. If you know that they are great in real life, but not so great at texting, don’t let the latter prevail.

Tenha sempre em mente que a pessoa gosta de si, mas tem dificuldade em demonstrá-lo através de mensagens de texto.

If they are guilty of doing THESE 6 THINGS then they’re not ‘bad at texting’, they’re just not that into you:

Now that we know when a person is really bad at texting, but great in real life, and we know what to do about it, it’s time to face the truth once again. It’s time to admit to yourself that maybe they’re just not that into you after all.

Aqui estão alguns sinais de alerta de mensagens de texto que nunca deve ignorar:

They’re only texting you when they’re bored or lonely.

Many of us use texting as a relaxing tool when we’re feeling bored or lonely. But, things get complicated when you’re doing that with someone who actually cares about you.

Not so long ago, I was texting with a guy who’s texting behavior was really suspicious. He would leave me in the middle of a conversation and he would never suggest meeting up in person.

Quando contei este problema a uma das minhas amigas, ela disse-me o seguinte: I’m sorry to tell you, but this is one of the biggest signs he’s only texting you when he’s bored or lonely.

Agradeço-lhe por ter sido sempre brutalmente honesta comigo. Só gostava de ter percebido o que estava a acontecer mais cedo.

As respostas de uma só palavra tornaram-se a norma.

If there’s anything in the world that I really hate, it is one-word replies. It’s like telling the other person: Hi and Bye (I don’t care about you).

Sometimes, one-word replies are justified (for example, when a person is busy at the moment), but if it happens on a regular basis, then you know they’re just not that into you.

So, please, don’t make excuses for them because they certainly didn’t deserve that.

Por vezes, demoram dias/semanas/(meses?) a responder-lhe.

Compreendo perfeitamente quando alguém está ocupado and doesn’t have time to text you back, but is it really possible to stay busy for days, weeks, or even months? I don’t think so.

Every single one of us can find a few seconds of our time to tell a person what exactly is going on and why we can’t text them at the moment. Anything else is just an excuse.

Mereces mais do que ter de esperar eternamente que alguém te responda a uma mensagem.

Tudo o que te pedem é para lhes enviares nus.

Seriously? I can’t accentuate enough how enraged I am about this one. I’ve had such an experience with one guy and all I can say is: Se isto alguma vez lhe acontecer, fuja deles para salvar a sua vida.

There’s something utterly selfish in the fact that they don’t see you as a human being. They never ask you about your day or how you’re feeling because they are not interested in you on that level.

A matemática é simples: All they ever ask you is to send them nudes because that’s the only thing they’re interested in.

O facto de eles enviarem a mensagem primeiro é uma ocasião muito rara.

I have no problems with initiating conversations, but if I have to do it every single time, then there’s something truly wrong with whatever situation-ship I’m in with that one person.

If they never or seldom bother to be the one texting first, then this is another huge sign that they’re not really into you. If they were, they would show it for sure.

Bombardeiam-nos com fotografias não solicitadas.

Do you know what’s even worse than them asking you to send nudes? It’s them BOMBARDING you with unsolicited pics.

You can decide for yourself whether you’ll send them nudes or not, but you certainly can’t stay indifferent to their unsolicited pics.

Sabes o que se diz: Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. If the only thing (or the main thing) they’re doing is bombarding you with pics of themselves, then you know they’re not ‘bad at texting’, but they are just not that into you.

I mean, you can’t be that ‘bad at texting’ to accidentally send dozens of unsolicited pics to someone, right? Right.

Do you still think that they’re ‘bad at texting’?

If you’ve just realized that they are actually ‘bad at texting’, but great in real life, congratulations! I’m truly happy for you.

If you’ve just realized that being ‘bad at texting’ was just your excuse for them, I’m both sorry and happy for you. I’m sorry that you didn’t realize it sooner, but I’m happy that you realize it now.

You still have a chance to live the life you deserve and to be with someone who is worthy of being with you. So, don’t waste your time texting those who don’t bother texting you back.

Don’t waste your time waiting, but face the truth and have faith that one day you will meet a guy/girl who will find plenty of different ways to show you that they really care about you.