Se o teu homem faz estas 5 coisas, ele é um PSICOPATA emocional

My husband was an emotional sneaky bastard—um psicopata completo. Ele era física, sexual e, sobretudo, emocionalmente abusivo.

Let me tell you just one thing—as palavras doem! Ele sabia-o e essa era a sua arma mais forte!

When we split, after 12 years of marriage, it hit me—a sudden realization, a summing up if you will, of those horrible 12 years of hell.

Ele introduziu lentamente o seu eu psicótico na minha vida, ele abusou de mim emocionalmente and I didn’t even notice it.

I knew that something was not right, but I didn’t know what—not until we split (and dear God, thank you for that).

These psychotic people have a special skill—you won’t be aware you’re being abused emotionally.

Leia as pistas e aprenda com a minha experiência e talvez se salve (como eu acabei por fazer).

1. Faz-nos crer que somos responsáveis por tudo

Emotional psychopaths aren’t always mean. They can charm you with their words until the cows come home.

Têm o poder de convencer e nunca se aborrecem.

One minute you’re fighting and the other he’s telling you: “It is ok babe. It’s not your fault you’re emotional. You can’t help yourself”.

Na verdade, acabamos por acreditar que somos nós os culpados pela discussão e que ele é quem está lá para nos fazer sentir melhor.

2. He’s gaslighting you

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which the abuser uses false information and presents it to the victim, making the victim doubt his or her own sanity—an emotional abuser’s favorite tactic.

Um dia, vi acidentalmente algumas mensagens de correio eletrónico que o meu marido tinha deixado abertas por descuido e apercebi-me de que ele me estava a trair.

Quando o confrontei com isso, começou a gritar comigo!

He was saying he can’t believe I can think of something like that, that I’m insane, that I don’t trust him…this went on for a few days.

Em breve, comecei a duvidar de mim próprio. Comecei a pensar que talvez ele tivesse razão. Se calhar sou eu que estou louco.

Talvez eu tenha interpretado mal a coisa toda.

When your psychotic partner doesn’t have an excuse, he’ll create one and he will make you feel like you’re the ‘crazy one’.

3. Ele culpa-o por tudo

This may look similar to the first one, but it’s not. Every time he has a problem, he’ll find a way to blame you for that.

If he has problems at work, he will make you think you’re the one to blame because you are stressing him out at home.

If he gets a speeding ticket, it’s your fault because you got him so angry he blew off steam by driving too fast.

O resultado final é que, seja qual for o ponto de vista, a culpa é sempre sua porque os psicopatas emocionais têm sempre razão.

4. Ele destrói-te

Emotional psychopaths are wusses who don’t have anything better to do in their lives than to control you.

They feed you with toxic thoughts to prevent you from thinking you’re a smart, beautiful and strong person.

O seu objetivo é fazer-vos crer que são estúpidos e inúteis, e vão conseguir fazê-lo.

Quando se começa a acreditar nessas tretas, agarramo-nos ainda mais a ele porque you’re afraid he’s the best you will ever have.

Os psicopatas emocionais podem fazer-nos acreditar no que quiserem.

5. He ‘wipes you out’

He simply isolates you from the rest of the world. He convinces you not to hang out with your friends because you don’t really need them—you have him.

And what is really hiding behind this is—he’s afraid your friends might talk some sense into you and encourage you to leave him.

He has spent so much time making you ‘perfect’ to let some friends of yours ruin you.

Ver também: 6 sinais de alerta de que você está em um relacionamento emocionalmente abusivo

Ele VAI convencer-te de que te ama muito e que é a única pessoa em quem deves confiar.

Que sacana tão sorrateiro!